I had a miscarriage at my friend’s dad’s wake today

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that’s pretty much it. I knew I was pregnant, didn’t want to be, had an appt at the clinic scheduled. Guess I can cancel that now lol

We’re all standing in the reception hall and I excuse myself to the bathroom for a breather. Was feeling extremely emotional about a man who was not a great father, wondering why – ah. Ok. I guess.

I kept it to myself and went back out to support my friend, and have just been sitting on it for six hours… I’m not entirely sure what to do, but I know it wouldn’t be appropriate to discuss it in that setting.

I just needed to tell someone. Thanks for listening yall.

Comments

  1. 4jules4je7 Avatar

    Wow. Well as a nurse I’ve learned not every pregnancy is planned or wanted, and yet it doesn’t quite feel like congratulations are in order 😂 I’m sorry you had to have this happen while at a sad place. I hope he rest of this is fairly easy. How many weeks were you at?

  2. razzledazzlegirl Avatar

    Seeing a doctor would be a good idea to make sure nothing was left behind.

  3. AdorkableUtahn Avatar

    I am a guy, but I empathize with you. It’s emotional and tough even if it ends up being for the best.

    :soft internet hug:

  4. Cool-Group-9471 Avatar

    That’s a pretty emotional day. Right now you’re hormonal too, be aware. You’re gonna cry, be ok, lay down, be up, be tired, cry. Are you seeing a doctor? Let them know and or be seen. To make sure you’re ok. Sorry.

  5. DreamingofRlyeh Avatar

    I recommend seeing a doctor. There is a thing called an incomplete miscarriage. If part of the corpse or other contents of the uterus did not get pushed out, they can cause serious health issues:

    https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK559071/

    https://myhealth.alberta.ca/Health/aftercareinformation/pages/conditions.aspx?hwid=uh2809

  6. ExoticWall8867 Avatar

    I had this happen while I was at my best friends wake.
    I always said he knew what he was doing & he did me a huge favor lol

  7. Happynessisgood10011 Avatar

    U manifested your desire

  8. Lopsided-Bluejay-970 Avatar

    I am so sorry- I had 3 but always went to the dr. He always wanted to make sure the miscarriage was complete or if a D and C would be needed

  9. plaidyams Avatar

    Sweetheart, holy fuck you’re an exceptional friend.

  10. Big_Ice_2032 Avatar

    Oh wow, that’s a terrible situation to be in, (hugs)

  11. Acrobatic_Reality103 Avatar

    If you are in a US state that may charge you with a crime for having a miscarriage, please be careful.

  12. Estebesol Avatar

    Well, that is a lot to happen in one day. How’re you doing?

  13. Due_Wasabi2026 Avatar

    I would recommend a doctor asap as well. I fully bled like a period through the first 3 months of my second pregnancy

  14. LeafEmerson Avatar

    Sending you a quiet little corner of the internet to breathe. You’re not alone❤️ hugsss

  15. Subject_Candy_8411 Avatar

    Still see a doctor…

  16. LyraSnake Avatar

    a miscarriage really sucks even if you didn’t want it
    i’m sorry

  17. bf-es Avatar

    Sorry for your loss

  18. Beagle-Mumma Avatar

    That’s a big, emotional day with a lot of conflicting emotions. I hope you’re ok. ✨️

  19. Optimal_Swordfish780 Avatar

    It’s emotional but im a little confused. At that time frame in a pregnancy a miscarriage isn’t a spontaneous thing that happens all within a few minutes. It’s days of your body expelling.

    If this is true and you feel you just had a few minute event and it’s all done I would 100% see a doctor because there maybe be elements left inside.

    If it’s not true I’m still sorry that you felt the need to make this post. Life is hard and if this is the way you feel you need to get support I hope you find some supports in real life around you.

    Good luck!

  20. labontefan69 Avatar

    Oh honey, I’m sorry that this happened. I know you didn’t want the baby but I’m sure it was still pretty traumatic. Make sure to see your gynecologist for a follow up. Take care!

  21. Rectal_tension Avatar

    Not a female so…

    I hope you are ok mentally and might want to schedule a appt with a doctor just to make sure physically. Self care. Do something for yourself that you enjoy. Be well.

  22. EnthusiasmNo848 Avatar

    Even though you didn’t want to be pregnant, going through the miscarriage is still hard on you emotionally, hormonally, and physically. I’m sure you have very mixed emotions on an already sad day. Allow yourself to feel all the ways!

    You’re extremely strong to handle things the way you did in that setting. Now go see a doctor to make sure everything is out and nothing else needs to be done, get the IUD like you mentioned, and please talk to someone and a therapist to process your emotions,