The last time I saw him, it didn’t end well. He said something that made me cry. The next day, he asked me, “Are you okay?” I didn’t reply because I didn’t know how to. I felt hurt, and that feeling was so overwhelming that I couldn’t bring myself to respond.
I thought I would forget about him, but for some reason, I’ve been thinking about him a lot lately. It hurts. A lot. And now, I am thinking about replying to his message.
Do you think I should? If I do, I’m thinking of saying something like:
“After our last meeting, I was really upset and sad. But recently, I’ve started to feel a bit calmer. At the time, I didn’t know how to respond because I was really hurt. I wanted to wait until I wasn’t as upset before replying.”
Or maybe: “I wasn’t okay, but… I think I’m okay now”
Would this be okay? If you were me, how would you respond?
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40 something Internet dad here:
Don’t reply. Block his ass. The dude is no good and you deserve better. If you text him back he’s going to do it again and probably escalate to something worse.
I know it’s probably not what you want to hear and I’m sorry for that.