I’m a 22 years old guy (virgin) I want to start looking for someone in a few months once I’ll be in the payed training program for the job I want but I hate my belly so much like everyday when I take a shower I feel disgusted (I’m 1m65 for 80kg ~ 5″5 for 176pounds). I obviously don’t have abs just a round disgusting hairy belly and I hate so much that when my mom and I hug if she accidently put her hands on my belly during sitting hugs I’ll quickly pull away due to how I feel about my belly.
I want to find a women to care for and live together but I don’t even know if I can actually find a women that wouldn’t regret being in a relationship with me the second I get naked and she sees my belly, I’m already struggling with the fact that I have a small 6 inches lenght and 5 inches girth (I know that technically it doesn’t matter but I feel small) I already fear finishing too soon when losing virginity but I don’t even know if I’ll ever reach that stage with a belly like mine.
I just hope I was thinner, I do sport 2 times at the gym per week and around 4 hours of soccer everyday in the neighboorhood so I’m not lazy I’m basically just fat and has a disgusting hairy belly.
I hate it and I hate that I’m sensitive about it because due to how I look people usually thinks of me as this big kind of tough guy (in my neighboorhood the people I play soccer with gave me two nicknames thanos from marvel and kratos from god of war) that wouldn’t care about things like this.
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Change you Life style. Start to eat better and exercice. Not only ts good for your physique but it also good for the brain.
Women care more for your personality than they do looks, and what you’re describing is the male gaze. As a woman myself I’d be wholeheartedly attracted to shrek himself if he treated me well.
Not to invalidate your feelings, but it’s all in your head. Confidence is more attractive than abs in my opinion.
Stop whining, watch what you eat and do weights.
Seriously just knock out some situps or crunches throughout the day.
Get a personal trainer er and see a surgeon. Find out how much it would cost to get the belly of your dreams and save up.
you have a dad bod & i’m just here to inform you that chicks love that shit. ok not everyone, but enough to give you a decent chance at dating. the #1 thing all girls love is >!confidence!< so go get you some of that.
You’re way over thinking this. Any woman worth being with wouldn’t just write you off cause you have a little belly. Millions of overweight, obese, and morbidly obese people are in relationships all the time.
Just wanted to tell you that I love bellies because they are great for cuddles!! and I can sleep on it like a pillow. I hate thin guys. Like, where am I supposed to sleep now?
Just a note, 6 inches 5 inch girth is really good. the way that media has absolutely fucked up men’s perceptions of their own bodies is devastating.
If it’s worth anything, I don’t like skinny guys. I like big hairy guys with a belly on them. It’s my favorite part of my husband.
I feel the same as a woman. But you know what, sexiness is how you carry yourself. It takes a lot of time and effort to lose those extra pounds physically, but it takes balls to embrace your own sexiness while working on it. We obviously can’t get rid of the fats fast but, we can style ourselves according to our body type and look good with it. AND, intimacy is not necessarily immediately put out on the table. Build yourself up until you’re ready to be intimate. Be patient with yourself. A good woman will be able to respect that. It depends on your culture too. Besides, who says big bears aren’t attractive? Don’t be too hard on yourself. 🙂
If you think you need a six pack and a huge dick for a woman to be willing to touch you I think you need to take some time away from social media and porn and look around at the reality of the people around you.
Belly fat is generally associated with hormonal inballance or insuline resistance.
Low carb, keto, intermittent fasting and carnivore are helping with that.
Look especially into carnivore died. I think is one more suited for men.
I’m gonna be really honest. Almost every woman I know prefers a man that is a little bigger. I will rarely go for a man with abs. They are either wiry or they are husky.
Sorry, this is gonna play into a stereotype. But this has been my experience in my 43 years. Men with abs tend to be less loyal, shallow, self-centered, and just boring.
I hear you. It’s hard when you hate a part of yourself. I have body dysmorphia so I understand that.
There is absolutely a woman out there that will still love you either despite or even for your belly. I happen to love bigger bodies, fluffy people are attractive to me. I don’t want to go on and sound objectifying, but I just want to make you aware that your body type while maybe not see as mainstream desirable- is absolutely still desirable to many people.
Maybe try focusing on parts of you that you really do like! This is going to sound silly, but it’s absolutely true, confidence is the most attractive accessory you can wear. Try working on your confidence, I’m sure you will notice some positive results.
Wishing you the best! Even if you are not your type, you are still somebody’s type!
Some people find self-hate/disgust a good motivator, but I often see people still can’t throw their insecurity even after achieving that 6 pack. If you can find a way to accept your dick/belly now while also looking to improve yourself for the future, I think that’s a recipe for better confidence and change. Find out what motivates you in positive ways. Also, eat as little junk food as you can stand!
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I am not a woman. I am a gay man, fit, slim, 6 packs.. but I just love men with round body, round belly, and hairy!
So.. just take this off of your head, because I have some girl friends who have the same taste of mine!
Regarding the belly, I’ll give you the advice that men always give to women on this one. They can see your belly with your clothes on. They aren’t going to be shocked when you take your clothes off that you have a belly. Even if you feel a shirt draped over it camouflages the rolls, women still have eyes and inductive reasoning skills! If she’s attracted with your clothes on, taking them off won’t change that.
Regarding penis size insecurity, you are well aware yourself it’s not small, you just feel like it’s not good enough. You feel that way because in our society, the loudest opinions on dicks come from men teasing each other and porn (also created by men). If you spent time looking up (please don’t post bc it’s been done to death) all the posts on this topic on the AskWomenNoCensor sub, you will find the majority of women prefer exactly your size. So just stop listening to male opinions on penises and start listening to your desired target audience. You need to re-brainwash yourself with that.
Dude my boyfriend has a hairy belly and a fucking love it. You just have to find someone who’s buying what you’re selling. I have a lil’ tummy too and he’s only ever mentioned how cute it is. Also, just based on the weight/height you have – you don’t sound too overweight! Confidence is the main thing. I truly believe there is someone for everyone, or at least someone who will find what you got going on incredibly hot lol 🙂 best!
You can shave. Your penis is plenty big, life isn’t porn. Losing weight is easier than you think, stop drinking anything with calories for 60 days, you’ll be ready for a swimsuit.
Most women like a “dad bod,” but if you hate your belly so much for personal reasons then why don’t you dedicate time and energy to fixing your diet and exercise routine? You’re only 22, it’s easier for you to burn fat now than it’ll ever be. Playing sports is great for your mobility and cardio, but you need targeted exercise and a modified diet to burn body fat.
Just give it a shot! And always try to be healthy as long as you are healthy, the body changes every day every year it is what it is. I love my husband and he is the most attractive guy on this earth for me, he was handsome and attractive for me when he had a belly and when he hasn’t now and I couldn’t keep my hands off of him then and now also. Whoever is gonna love u they gonna love u no matter what.
And give it a try, cause partnerships and marriage means to stick with the person through all phases of life. My body changed now, i gained weight and Im working on becoming healthy again and fit but my husband kept and keeps telling me and showing me how I’m wonderful and attractive for him, and I really do believe him 😂.
The right person will love you for you, but you do need to give people a chance to meet you !!!
…bro. i’m trans masc, so probably not in your demographic buuuut
firstly- i fucking love chest/ belly hair- it’s soft and it’s nice to pet when i cuddle up to someone who has it.
secondly- small?? 6” is awesome! i personally can’t take more than 6.5” without being in pain- and girth is where its all at anyways lol
i don’t know what media you’ve been consuming, but give yourself some credit man.
also- i don’t know if it would help, but there is a type of hair bleach that they make specifically for body hair, it lightens it up so it’s farrr less noticeable
you would be famous in the gay furry community. not sure if you will ever find solace in this, but you should.
How often do you think about these physical features, how other people would react to them, and how much you yourself are in opposition to those features despite some positive masculine descriptions from people you know? These thoughts were intrusive and distressing enough, in your own mind, to get out on the internet in search of answers. If it’s affecting your everyday life I think you should seriously consider getting screened and potentially treated for Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder and other related anxiety disorders.
It’s normal to have these types of doubts and questions for yourself from time to time, but OCD cranks that self-interrogation and self-doubt up 1000x with rumination.
I have thought patterns almost exactly like this, they are completely irrational, it turned out they were based in OCD and I never would have known unless I started therapy. My parents and grandparents have OCD (the disorder is known to be familial and develops quickly when in an environment with someone else who has it) but did not deign it necessary to tell me until I was 21. 25 now and everything makes more sense now that I can identify when my thoughts are irrational. It made the world make a whole lot more sense. Maybe I’m just projecting in my own offmychest way, but I felt a kinship reading this post like I was reading a text from my past self.
The little things in your post, like pulling away from a hug because you’re more focused on how you feel to them rather than just being uncomfortable with the totality of the hug, focusing on the traits you deem less desirable in the mirror, fears about sexual encounters and how you know your performance matters and getting performance anxiety without even being in a sexual situation with someone else… thinking about it all the time, especially when alone… It is just so uncannily similar. I even have the same feelings about my belly and sexual performance even though I have a life partner. Please just think about reaching out for therapy! It can help everyone, even if you don’t need it as a permanent mental health solution. Counseling can change your entire life outlook.
A lot of women, myself included, do not prefer thin men. I don’t even like body builders personally. I like men who are just strong enough to drag me out of a burning building but soft enough to snuggle me at night. That being said, my partner shares your insecurity about his midsection, and while I respect it’s something he’s self conscious about, I love it and everything else about him. Confidence, a sense of humor, a great smile, compassion, and intelligence are all sexier to me than a six pack and porn star inches.
This gives me a heavy feeling in my heart to read- wasting time in this precious life hating our beautiful bodies is such a travesty. Fortunately, humans love humans- if a body type exists there’s somebody into it (even ones that don’t exist tbh… someone’s into it… Rule 34…)
You’re not that overweight and your penis size is fine. Women don’t want porn dicks, that’s a myth. Why don’t you find someone who has a little bit of a belly themselves so that when you get naked you can be on the same page.
Got 3 things for ya that will help: 1) stop watching porn. Full stop. 2) Don’t drink like a fish (reduce your alcohol intake) and clean up your diet. 3) Your dick is the finishing act, not the main course.
Your insecurity will drive women away much faster than your belly will.
This isn’t hard.. just watch your calories
It really is as simple as calories in vs calories out.
No excuses have willpower stop snacking and lose the weight.
Seriously, don’t make excuses just do it
Dude, if people are comparing you to Kratos, you’re good