We’ve been friends for maybe two years, but got a lot closer this year. It started with him hugging me instead of dabbing me up like usual, then spending more time together because of coincidental events.
I offered him to sleep over at mine after a party, because he lives further away, and we ended up spooning. I blamed it on being drunk, but the afternoon afterwards we were sort of cuddling again.
That’s how I realised he was probably somewhat into me, I thought I’d figure out how I felt about it by spending more time with him. I’m not necessarily opposed to being with him, I just think I should probably feel more enthusiastic about it. I’m also not necessarily opposed to being with a man, but as a 19 year old virgin I’ve been hoping to see some puss (sorry).
I do enjoy spending time with him and cuddling doesn’t feel awkward, but there’s still an odd amount of awkwardness in the air-like all the time.
He already asked if I wanted to be in a relationship and I told him to give me time. I can’t make my mind up so now I feel like I’m just stringing him along.
I don’t know if it’s worse to shut him down now and later regret it or continue like this and hurt him worse in the long run.
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If you like women more then why entertain this at all.
Either date the dude and give h8m a chance or stop what you are doing because you WILL hurt this person if this continues.
To him you are moving towards a relationship, to you you are just testing the waters.
Ah, gay!
u don’t really like him like that, u’re just scared to hurt him. but if u’re not sure, that’s already a no. better to be honest now than hurt him more later ❤️
If you’re already thinking you’ll hurt him in the future, then stop this now.
He isn’t being your friend here, he is just waiting around to shoot his shot. Friends dont have motives like this.
If you want to be with women, then go do that. You’re 19 you dont need to settle on anyone at that age.
You could also just be open and honest. Tell him youd be open to a limited relationship but that you have the intention of exploring with other people too
brutal honesty but you need to hear this. you are being a bad friend. stop this now. i’ve been where you are and i hurt him bad. i still regret it.