TW: SA
I’ve rejected a guy more than once and was kind about it each time. When I said I wasn’t looking for a relationship, he said he’d wait. Don’t fucking do that dude, I said no already. Is ‘no’ not a complete sentence? Like fuck dude.
I’ve a traumatic past with two dudes who SA’d me so I’m just now adjusting to being around guys who aren’t my brothers or dad. I’m in uni so I can’t avoid guys no matter how much it freaks me out.
Last night, my brother found a sketchy ass box outside with ‘For my name please open alone’ written on it. I genuinely thought I was getting threatened by one of the guys who SA’d me. The cardboard box was broken and the handwriting was messy. Did not seem genuine at all, just creepy.
When I opened it, it was an expensive gift with a love letter and that’s how I knew it was him. Part of it said, ‘I know we haven’t officially met but I really like you’ what the fuck?? We only see eachother in one single lecture, when we’re ‘together’, it’s because you and I have the same friends. The only reason he knows where I live is because he happened to be with a mutual friend of ours when that friend had to drop something off.
If I showed the chat logs, you can see not only how many times I’ve rejected him but the amount of times I’ve not responded because all he does is flirt with me.
You ask for a set of lecture notes because you missed a day and suddenly, a man has a new crush because you asked HIM.
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Some dudes just be creepy
I learned in highschool that being generally polite to men gets you Stalked. Some guys cant take direct nos, either. Also can’t comprehend what “lesbian” means, apparently.
Tell him you like girls
That is stalker behavior.
Obsessing over someone he’s had maybe one casual interaction with is a little beyond “persistent”.
You need to use your real shut down language, not your spared feelings language.
“I’m not looking for a relationship” is not the same to an obsessive person as “No”.
“No, I find you unsettling and knowing you have obsessive thoughts about me and know where I live makes me want to call the police” is a “No”.
“There will never be anything between us period” is a “No”.
Some people are so full of themselves.