As the title says, I’m my family’s outcast. I have three sisters that all have a great relationship with each other, but stop all conversation when I attempt to speak to them. My parents are no better, and have said for years to just be patient with them and keep trying, but it just isn’t working. They have zero interest in knowing me or talking to me outside familial obligations that holidays force them in to.
Recently, I graduated from college and received my degree. All my siblings got a big party, hut me? No. The most I got was my meal paid for today at Easter dinner at a sushi restaurant (weird choice, I know). No acknowledgement. No celebration. Just me and my fiance sitting there in silence while they all embarrassed us publicly with their poor manners and blatantly inappropriate conversations that should have been only said at home. Even the waiter and waitresses were looking at me with pity, as my fiance and I were the only ones to say thank you to them or help make removing empty plates easier. It was embarrassing beyond belief, and not a word was said about my graduation, where as they were celebrated for months after graduating.
To make matters worse, when it was time to say goodbye, my siblings acted as if I didn’t exist. I watched as they all hugged and said goodbye, while I had to brute force a goodbye out of two of them. One flat out ignored me and walked away as if I didn’t exist. It was honestly devastating, and I just can’t take it anymore.
I’ve tried to attend all family gatherings, helped with two weddings and will be helping with a third next year, tried to set up countless times to spend time together, and tried my best to reach out consistently. What did I get in return? Treated as free labour and ignored when I’m not immediately useful. Passive aggressive behavior whenever I express any interest in them or dare to express if I’m doing well.
I’m hurt, insulted, and just out of fucks to give. I feel completely isolated by them, so I’m just not going to play the game anymore. Any connection with me will require 100% effort on their part, because they’ve shown my effort means nothing to them. That despite trying to know them, they don’t give a fuck about me. I’ll simply celebrate my achievements with my fiance and they’ll all learn from photos of everything they missed like I learn from all the things they never even invited me to.
Thank you all for letting me get this off my chest. Despite my fiance being a loving and sweet person, today was just awful for us both. She’s out of spoons, and I have no friends to talk to due to social opportunities being extremely limited in these hard times. I hope you all had a wonderful good Friday and celebrated the ways that are most meaningful to you all!