Military men. I didn’t experience that, but i know for sure that these men are probably traumatized to a point of being extremely abusive (some of them), if not, generally very unhappy. They need months of intense therapy before being released in society, not some random woman that sees war as a cool weapon game and sexy uniforms.
Driving in general, it’s cool to think of the freedom of where you get to go as a teen or young adult but that gets old really fast when you consider the anxiety that comes with driving such as other people on the road, pedestrians, and the over all costs of driving in the first place with the cost of both the vehicle, insurance, and more so general maintenance and other factors that makes it more stressful.
The whole college binge drinking culture. I almost lost my closest friends to it and that made me realization self-destructive it is and no amount of “we’re young! We’ll be fine!” Is going to help you avoid consequences layer in life or possibly DYING cause you went extra harsh that one time
I haven’t experienced all of them but dissociative disorders I’d say are the ones that annoy me the most to see them romanticized.
Even mild dissociation is not fun. It’s not a cool time. It’s scary. At my worst it was not super severe, mostly just felt like I’d “lose” time and my memory was spotty especially regarding conversations. I had a break down realizing that I could not remember most of my childhood at the height of my illness. Other people could talk about all sorts of childhood experiences and I could not remember anything except for a handful of the worst experiences in my childhood. It’s like the trauma completely took over everything else.
Yet there are people online talking about very severe dissociation like it’s so cool or straight up going “Oh I have DID look at my other personalities they’re my buddies teehee!” As if completely losing track of yourself to the point a different person takes over would not be horrifying.
Cheating, trying to destroy other people’s relationships because you want the guy/girl, boys being “lapitin ng babae” (chick magnet) and his peers cheering him on like that’s how it’s supposed to be.
Having OCD. I absolutely hate when people say something like “I’m so OCD, I hate when my food touches.”
OCD is not quirky or fun, OCD is obsessive repetitive thoughts that you cannot avoid. It’s panic attacks, it’s knowing full well that the thoughts you’re having are illogical and yet you are absolutely paralyzed and cannot leave the house until you check the stove at least three more times. It’s not cool or cute or quirky to have OCD, it doesn’t make you mysterious or some kind of “chaotic beauty.” And stop characterizing every single preference as OCD. We get it, you don’t like your carrots touching your mashed potatoes, but until you have a panic attack over it or you can’t shake the thought that your family will die if your food touches, you don’t have OCD. You have a preference.
Depression. Listen, I promise I’m not trying to diminish other people’s experiences when I say this. But having a bad day, or week where you’re sad, and go on about how “I’m so depressed, ugh. Its just my mental illness”.
Real depression is something I wouldn’t wish upon my worst enemy. That hollow hole in your heart, where you rely on autopilot to get through the day, all while hoping something outside your control kills you so you don’t have to die believing your friends and family think you’re weak enough to kill yourself. Where from the moment you wake up, to the moment you sleep, the only real thoughts on your mind revolve around “I can’t do anything right. I’m a literal burden to everyone around me. If I died, it would quite literally be a positive to the world”.
Real depression is ALMOST akin to a terminal illness. Like, if you had a family member who was a vegetable, would you think they had a quality of life worth living?
So glorifying it because you’re in a small rut, just rubs me the wrong way.
Rape, violent kinks, domestic violence, incest, pedophilia and controlling/jealous partners are all be romanticized in “dark romance”. It’s gross and indoctrinates especially female teenagers and young women to think that shit is normal and that’s how love is supposed to look like. Male teenagers and young men are indoctrinated the same way just by porn instead.
Being “hood” let me just start with -I grew up is super shitty inner cities all over California being dogshit poor with only my mom in my life. I had to grow up getting into fights, getting jumped, people reaching into my pockets as I walked by, walking around drug dealers and fends on my way home from school. It was just life for so much of my human experience.
We moved to the east coast when I was 16 and the amount of little suberb kids that glorify “hood” mentality blew me away. Don’t know shit about getting bullet holes in your wall but wanna throw gang signs up while rapping your little fantasy..
I respect my younger years and the people I love like family ARE “hood” but it’s just disrespectful that people assume that culture cus it’s “cool”.
TLDR: rich kids who glorify a life they don’t know.
Only cause I’m currently working in it… cruise ship work.
Look, some folks love it, but it’s all terrible management, high school gossip and mentality, absolutely the most trite experiences and mostly boring people I’ve ever met…bordem… and so much drinking.
Also…cruise ship guest may be the most lame people I’ve ever met. It attracts people who are entitled and can’t even think for themselves to go on holiday…they leave up all of their enjoyment in life to prefabricated experiences. The second it goes awry, they can’t fathom it.
I’m wrapping up my current contract and have hit my goals for money so far. I’ll keep it at it for short term work since it’s available to me…but it’s not romantic at fucking all. Also…incredibly unsafe should something go wrong. I’ve never seen so many lack safety knowledge.
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“Hustle culture” and “grinding nonstop” are unhealthy. We need to chill.
Military men. I didn’t experience that, but i know for sure that these men are probably traumatized to a point of being extremely abusive (some of them), if not, generally very unhappy. They need months of intense therapy before being released in society, not some random woman that sees war as a cool weapon game and sexy uniforms.
As someone who was physically and mentally abused as a child and bullied at school I hate those people who say ” it builds character”
Seriously what character?
I’ve ptsd, poor judgement in people, lack of confidence, easily a doormat and have suicidal thoughts whenever I’m alone
a lot of movies and tv show think childhood abuse and bullies make the characters arc interesting
Being raped by a woman.
Living in New York City.
Mental illness.
Polygyny
Depression and anxiety.
People sometimes fake it for attention. Urgh.
“Ships” especially from TV shows and anime’s, unless it’s implied by the producers then it’s fucking weird
My ex was a big one of these for “My Hero Academia”
1- Bakugo and Deku are rivals
2- neither are gay
3- it’s weird
4- their minors
5- it’s weird
She used to show me “edits” on tiktak about this shit ( still don’t get the point of edits to this day ) and had to basically follow along with it
Driving in general, it’s cool to think of the freedom of where you get to go as a teen or young adult but that gets old really fast when you consider the anxiety that comes with driving such as other people on the road, pedestrians, and the over all costs of driving in the first place with the cost of both the vehicle, insurance, and more so general maintenance and other factors that makes it more stressful.
Gay sexual assault specifically lesbian and probably also mental hospitals
The whole college binge drinking culture. I almost lost my closest friends to it and that made me realization self-destructive it is and no amount of “we’re young! We’ll be fine!” Is going to help you avoid consequences layer in life or possibly DYING cause you went extra harsh that one time
Most mental illnesses.
I haven’t experienced all of them but dissociative disorders I’d say are the ones that annoy me the most to see them romanticized.
Even mild dissociation is not fun. It’s not a cool time. It’s scary. At my worst it was not super severe, mostly just felt like I’d “lose” time and my memory was spotty especially regarding conversations. I had a break down realizing that I could not remember most of my childhood at the height of my illness. Other people could talk about all sorts of childhood experiences and I could not remember anything except for a handful of the worst experiences in my childhood. It’s like the trauma completely took over everything else.
Yet there are people online talking about very severe dissociation like it’s so cool or straight up going “Oh I have DID look at my other personalities they’re my buddies teehee!” As if completely losing track of yourself to the point a different person takes over would not be horrifying.
Working to the point of exhaustion.
Working while sick.
Mental illnesses and staying in psych wards being labeled as “grippy sock vacation.” It’s not fun, every moment is hell on earth.
Physical and occupational therapy.
In movies and tv shows they make learning to walk again look very easy.
I’m here to say that it’s very difficult. Baby steps to get there but it slowly comes back.
My memory never full came back but my peripheral vision did…luckily.
Cheating, trying to destroy other people’s relationships because you want the guy/girl, boys being “lapitin ng babae” (chick magnet) and his peers cheering him on like that’s how it’s supposed to be.
Being a NEET
People reposting the same post barely even a day after the original
Depression.
It’s not cute or funny or anything of that sort.
It can and does kill.
Adoption. It’s very complex, and it’s not necessarily beautiful. And it usually starts with something awful.
Having OCD. I absolutely hate when people say something like “I’m so OCD, I hate when my food touches.”
OCD is not quirky or fun, OCD is obsessive repetitive thoughts that you cannot avoid. It’s panic attacks, it’s knowing full well that the thoughts you’re having are illogical and yet you are absolutely paralyzed and cannot leave the house until you check the stove at least three more times. It’s not cool or cute or quirky to have OCD, it doesn’t make you mysterious or some kind of “chaotic beauty.” And stop characterizing every single preference as OCD. We get it, you don’t like your carrots touching your mashed potatoes, but until you have a panic attack over it or you can’t shake the thought that your family will die if your food touches, you don’t have OCD. You have a preference.
Toxic behaviors. Enough said
Depression. Listen, I promise I’m not trying to diminish other people’s experiences when I say this. But having a bad day, or week where you’re sad, and go on about how “I’m so depressed, ugh. Its just my mental illness”.
Real depression is something I wouldn’t wish upon my worst enemy. That hollow hole in your heart, where you rely on autopilot to get through the day, all while hoping something outside your control kills you so you don’t have to die believing your friends and family think you’re weak enough to kill yourself. Where from the moment you wake up, to the moment you sleep, the only real thoughts on your mind revolve around “I can’t do anything right. I’m a literal burden to everyone around me. If I died, it would quite literally be a positive to the world”.
Real depression is ALMOST akin to a terminal illness. Like, if you had a family member who was a vegetable, would you think they had a quality of life worth living?
So glorifying it because you’re in a small rut, just rubs me the wrong way.
Nothing, my experience is as unique as I am as a human being.
And fiction and reality are too very different worlds.
Rape, violent kinks, domestic violence, incest, pedophilia and controlling/jealous partners are all be romanticized in “dark romance”. It’s gross and indoctrinates especially female teenagers and young women to think that shit is normal and that’s how love is supposed to look like. Male teenagers and young men are indoctrinated the same way just by porn instead.
Being “hood” let me just start with -I grew up is super shitty inner cities all over California being dogshit poor with only my mom in my life. I had to grow up getting into fights, getting jumped, people reaching into my pockets as I walked by, walking around drug dealers and fends on my way home from school. It was just life for so much of my human experience.
We moved to the east coast when I was 16 and the amount of little suberb kids that glorify “hood” mentality blew me away. Don’t know shit about getting bullet holes in your wall but wanna throw gang signs up while rapping your little fantasy..
I respect my younger years and the people I love like family ARE “hood” but it’s just disrespectful that people assume that culture cus it’s “cool”.
TLDR: rich kids who glorify a life they don’t know.
Only cause I’m currently working in it… cruise ship work.
Look, some folks love it, but it’s all terrible management, high school gossip and mentality, absolutely the most trite experiences and mostly boring people I’ve ever met…bordem… and so much drinking.
Also…cruise ship guest may be the most lame people I’ve ever met. It attracts people who are entitled and can’t even think for themselves to go on holiday…they leave up all of their enjoyment in life to prefabricated experiences. The second it goes awry, they can’t fathom it.
I’m wrapping up my current contract and have hit my goals for money so far. I’ll keep it at it for short term work since it’s available to me…but it’s not romantic at fucking all. Also…incredibly unsafe should something go wrong. I’ve never seen so many lack safety knowledge.