I am so appalled rn. For context I am 24M, my friend group of 4-5 people both M&F of similar age group were sitting together.
For some reasons, we all were sharing bits and pieces about our past relationships / sexual partners and then a female friend asked me “What’s your type?”
I don’t remember exactly what I said word to word but I said something along the lines of:
“I kinda find petite women very attractive. I am not a big guy, I am 5’8 slightly muscular not too buff. So I kinda like women who are shorter than me who kinda awake my masculine side. So I like women that are like shorter and smaller than me so I can just pamper them and feel like I can protect them.”
Then she asked me show me some pics of celebrities that could be your type.
So, I showed her pictures of Tyla, Emma Myers, Arianna Grande.
And she said my type makes you “borderline pedo”
Idk if she’s tripping or should I care.
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Don’t care, weird reaction..
she is tripping and you should care. why? because if this is legitimately how she thinks of you, she could tell this to other people and they will actually think you are, in fact, a borderline pedo. it is not a label to be used lightly, ever. having a type that is literally just a woman smaller than you is not even close to pedophilia. you arent one, but most importantly you 100% need to address this before she starts deciding this is something to go around saying. it’s inappropriate and diminishes real predators and real people who have dealt with pedophiles. its a dangerous label to be throwing around.
Tell her that wasn’t called for and that she should watch such accusations if she wants to stay a friend. That’s like her saying big, bearded men and you saying “oh, so you have daddy issues.”
It’s offensive. Is she mad she’s not your type?
She’s fucking stupid. Then as per her petite women are “children” and should not do anything remotely sexual or even have a partner? Ridiculous I swear.
She might have been joking which is still extremely unacceptable. You can’t joke around with labels like that, someone can hear her say that label in passing without context and get the wrong idea.
She might have also been jealous or insecure because she maybe doesn’t fit that criteria. I know Tyla has a body that many women envy and it’s extremely hard to achieve for most. (Also, if you don’t have the genetics for it, it’s basically impossible) That doesn’t excuse her behaviour, it’s still completely unacceptable. You’re not responsible for her insecurity when she’s literally the one who asked.
And even in a broader sense, it’s not okay to diminish the womanhood of Tyla or any petite woman. She thinks she’s only insulting you but she’s actually insulting petite women in general as well.
Personally I would just cut someone off because of that, because like I said, it’s a serious label. But at the very least, you need to put your foot down, defend yourself, and tell her what she said isn’t okay.
She’s pissed you didn’t say she was your type. Double down that she’s not.
Yeah, that comment is a red flag for that friendship.Would not ever discuss anything sexual with that person again. I get so annoyed at what is being called “pedo” these days in the US. In much of Europe the age of consent is 15. Lots of states in the US is or was 16. It is so stupid to try to tell people at their peak hormone levels they can’t have sex. Giving them good sex education would be so much better.
This perpetuates the idea that petite women with smaller assets are child-like which is so fucked up. Not everyone looks the same. This is a huge piece as to why smaller women feel inclined to getting work done to feel more “womanly”. She’s sick in the head. You can be a beautiful grown woman who is smaller all around.
If she said it jokingly, you gotta tell her that’s not funny and to take it back, especially if other people heard it.
You need to tell her that was messed up.
That’s a really really weird take. You said you like smaller women. That doesn’t mean little girls? I’d call her out on it
She is stupid with a case of social media rot
That’s not okay of her to accuse you of something like that. I would not take something serious like that so lightly, nor would I ever tolerate a friend talking to me that way. That’d be the straw that breaks the camels back for me.
She’s a red flag. You got to be careful about what you say when you’re around her and people like her.
A fallout with her or someone like her would leave you looking bad.
I don’t got time for that offended bs that’s what’s wrong with society
I’ll straight up tell her to stfu and eat a dick
I’m 4’11 and my bf is 6’2. Sometimes we both just like the duality of being able to be tossed around during the appropriate time, and feeling protected.
Sure, someone out there will be attracted to a woman for that reason. That’s no reason to second guess yourself.