I’m so glad I don’t have to date anymore. My friends sound miserable when they talk about it.

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I’m married and while I already appreciate my wife hearing my friends’ horror stories about dating makes me appreciate her even more (which I thought was impossible.) Reasons my friends have had to stop seeing women they’ve tried dating recently.

  1. 2 of them having “child free” in their bio and women with kids waiting several dates in to say they actually have kids and hoped they would be ok with that.

  2. 2 were just using them for free meals

  3. 1 Asked if he’d be a sugar daddy after their second date.

  4. 3 spent weeks talking to them only to not show for their date and ghost them.

  5. 2 MLM bait and switches

  6. 2 absolute unhinged weirdos going full psycho and freaking out when they didn’t text back fast enough resulting in them being called “low value men.”

  7. 1 told my friend that going out with him made her realize how much she missed her ex (that one stung to hear but he laughed it off.)

I don’t post this to bash on women. Just these specific women and the time they waste for my friends just trying to find love. Again thank goodness I found my wife because this would drive me crazy.

Comments

  1. allhailqueenspinoodi Avatar

    I mean it isn’t any better for the genuine women either. I’m glad I’m out too. Dating is terrible

  2. Different-Advisor-62 Avatar

    i’m a woman and have the opposite problem lol.

    1. not having kids and getting men who have them who don’t tell me.
    2. i get asked out and they expect me to pay for myself AND HIM? but he asked ME
    3. asked if i can pay his bills or put him on my flight benefits
      4567 same lol.
      you’re lucky you’re married the dating pool is terrible rn!
  3. Infammo Avatar

    Yeah I definitely feel like I missed my window to marry good woman if the last few years of dating are anything to go by. Least I’ll get to have all the room I need for a man cave when I retire.

  4. yeahokaysure1231 Avatar

    You should visit the nicegirls sub……it’s a nightmare. I’m also glad I never have to date again ❤️😪

  5. Waddayougabbaghoul Avatar

    I detest modern dating and yet I’m stuck here. It makes me feel hopeless. I’m 27 and I’ve had one serious long term relationship, which was long distance. The only others I’ve had were short term ones with people who frankly shouldn’t be dating to begin with. I know I’m far from perfect, but the inability to function without a relationship or function in a monogamous relationship are much bigger issues.

  6. cursetea Avatar

    Same. I’ll just be alone forever if my husband and i don’t work out lmao

  7. themysteryoflogic Avatar

    As someone who just got out of modern dating a few years back, lemme just say that I feel like Superman getting the last escape pod off Krypton.

  8. the_greek_italian Avatar

    A comedian named Taylor Tomlinson actually makes a joke similar to this in one of her Netflix specials:

    https://youtube.com/shorts/myYaQE7KGgY?si=eXUW1o3xQXJenYL7

  9. Wasps_are_bastards Avatar

    I don’t get it, I’ve had on my profile that I have 2 kids and that they’re adults. Why lie?

  10. KitsuneKamiSama Avatar

    I’ve never dated and this stuff just makes it even harder for me to approach the idea.

  11. MrMiracle26 Avatar

    I started dating again after my lady died and the women I’ve gone out with act pissed off when I tell the truth…that she died, I grieved and I’m ready to date again. They acted like it was my somehow

  12. Helianthus_999 Avatar

    Absolutely. If it doesn’t work out with my husband, I’ll be single forever.

    The dating pool is full of dishonest and delusional people. I’m sad for all our single friends. It’s rough out there.

  13. No-Boat-1536 Avatar

    Nobody has to date.

  14. Ok-Relationship2041 Avatar

    Sounds about right.
    For both genders

  15. Ok_Dog_4059 Avatar

    The only thing I missed being married was the “new person” experience. All of the firsts and all of the variation. Now that I am older the sex with a new woman isn’t as big of a deal as it used to be but it still exists. Beyond this though the game of are they flirting or just being nice? Did I miss an opportunity there? That could eat at me for days and I don’t miss it.

  16. Due-Lab-5283 Avatar

    I gave up dating at this point. Removed all apps, don’t care. I am better this way. I am adding more activities to my life now (roller skating that I am going back into after 2 decades, lol) to keep me even more busy so I have no time to think I could actually date anyone. Added some other hobbies too, but lol, I feel like I am enjoying my own company way too much to go back into dating and trying to prove anyone that I am worth anything. It is better this way.

  17. Framing-the-chaos Avatar

    As someone who met their soulmate/best friend on bumble after both our divorces and kids, I can say that I met some really great guys while I was dating in my late 30s. And to find my husband… the universe def sent me the man I deserved. Sounds like your friends are not attracting the best women. What are they putting out there?

  18. Blackfairystorm Avatar

    100% not surprised to hear this. 

    Just glad none of them were already married.

    Lots of secretly married people in dating sites. 😭

  19. notmyrealnamepapi Avatar

    I have never dated in my life and reading all these stories stop making me even wanting to try😅

  20. shecurve Avatar

    I agree. My husband and I were never on dating apps before we got together and we’re so greatful that we don’t have to deal with any of that.

  21. oldcousingreg Avatar

    Kind of refreshing to hear about the unhinged women on dating apps for once

  22. fragtore Avatar

    I kinda miss dating. It was fun, and I’m not a super hot guy. Idk where people meet these women, or maybe it was different a few years back? Maybe it’s because I’m nw europe and not usa.

  23. The_Salty_Red_Head Avatar

    My husband and I split up 3 years ago. I’ll never date again. I’m starting to think it’s some sort of cosmic joke that men and women are forced to come together to procreate tbh.

  24. TerminatorTWX Avatar

    You’re wrong if you think getting married means you’re guaranteed a wife for life. What you’re describing could happen to you sooner than you expect.