20F. It’s so exhausting. As a woman recovering from life-long body issues it’s tiring to see images of “what people really want.” I’ve always found it hard as an overweight woman to go through life being reminded of that every time i go on social media. Don’t even get me started on being a young women who is into fashion and trying to find fashion inspo. Everything is riddled with porn/thinspo/sex now and i am not healed enough to where it doesn’t bother me. I can’t just get rid of social media either— for one I use instagram often and I do work in journalism where we often use Pinterest (another mecca of thinspo).
The body neutrality mindset has helped but i feel it has only gotten me so far. How can I become more tolerant of these things and not let it get me down?
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get over it
I recently deleted TikTok and Instagram off my phone. Only keep them on my iPad for if I really need to see something. Did it partially for this reason and it’s helped so much. You could try keeping them on another device so you only use them for work. Less inclined to doom scroll in that case
A lot of sites offer the ability to block or mute certain words and hashtags. You can also just start blocking any account you do come across, and your algorithm should catch up.
I’m sorry that you’re going through this. I’m a retired clinical scientist, and I’ve developed a probiotic protocol that may start you down a different path.
Honestly you will not be able to change society. What you can work to change is your view of yourself ans being truly happy with yourself. Letting things effect your life like this that you have zero control over will limit your happiness in life. I know I didnt give you some magical answer but this is a realistic one. Also think about what you would tell your younger sister if she posed this or if you had a child someday. Good luck.
You can’t change the world, you can only change you. Do you have legitimate health conditions that cause you to be overweight?
Social media apps usually adjust what they show according to what you spend more time on. Just stop going through those posts or videos, and instead start looking at other videos that randomly pop up, to make this faster, just clear your app’s history in the settings, then start looking at other stuff that interests you. Just note that no one is perfect, and not everyone looks the way they want, and at the end of the day, it doesn’t matter. It’s understandable what you feel, and everyone would feel the same at some point in life, but unless you can fix something, no point of worrying about it. You mentioned you are overweight, if that is something you can change, great, if not, just enjoy life as is.
Read your bible whenever you see something lustfully and it puts you into the cooler goober state read your bible
I understand. It doesn’t affect me as much, but that’s only because I’ve been so desensitized to it. The degree to which media is sexualized is absurd and we need regulations to stop this.
I’ve done a lot of blocking because of this. Block people, words, pages. I have trauma from a horrible experience & it really fucks with me. I really hope you can find some peace. 💕
This is how I feel about tv shows and movies. I don’t want to watch shit because it has so much nudity and sex everywhere.
I feel like I exist in a pretty porn free environment on a day to day basis. How is all this porn reaching you, to the point it’s a problem?
Weird, I’m a single male who’s often on a computer and I don’t’ encounter porn unless I intentionally go looking for it and watch it. So how is it that porn is so omnipresent in yours? What is happening in your life that is exposing you to so much porn, and an uncomfortably sexualized notion of the female form?
One tug at a time.
I dunno what it’s like to be a woman with body image issues, but I am actively a man with body image issues and if it feels anything like this it sucks. I’m in a constant spiral all the time. I need abs or I feel unworthy, and even at my leanest, all I see are love handles. People tell me I look good and I don’t see or feel it. I haven’t eaten for pleasure in a while. I track my macros meticulously and if I miss a gym day I panic. As a gay man, the buff men on RuPaul’s are the ideal and the gay community is so hypersexualized. It’s pretty freaking awful. Especially as someone with sexual trauma. Maybe I need to make my own post, lol.
Riddled ? Wtf are you talking about. Please.
I only see sex/porn/etc if I seek it out. So, don’t?
I feel you honey. It’s absolutely everywhere
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As a guy I am tired of this too. It sucks being reminded of “what people really want” constantly, as if real life weren’t enough of a reminder. It also doesn’t help me to stay away from it when I rather focus on something else. I used to be really sex positive for some time but the older I get the more negative I have become about it and see why so many older folks become that way. It is because lived experiences have shown us time and time again that sex/porn/etc. have the very real power to destroy the lives of individuals, and the victims of it are completely undeserving of it. Also it’s tragic to me how love and romance no longer seem to play as much of a role in sexuality anymore, as perhaps they did in older generations. Hookup culture’s prevalence has made love and romance cheesy corny and cringe. And I hate it. I have become jaded as hell and no longer believe in love like that at all. I wish I could find a woman who wanted all the cheesy corny and cringe I have to offer, instead I seem to attract the opposite, or seem to be drawn to emotionally unavailable women who just couldn’t give two shits about me. I get it OP.
Hey I totally agree with you, it’s hard today online because the harsh reality is there. And the average person feels inadequate. But to play devils advocate, maybe take all the anger towards seeing that shit online
and turn it into motivation to become fit/healthy and better your appearance by working out and eating correctly.
You get to choose who you are. Don’t forget that.
perhaps for some of these apps you can use “hide/blur NSFW content” ? 🙁 i totally feel you and it angers me too
It’s your algorithm that’s making it seem that way. Start avoiding it and flagging it as something you don’t want to see and it should start to change. Replace it with something else – for example once I started looking at cat videos my whole feed transformed from boobalicious babes to derpy kittens