I ’23M’ have gf ’22F’ we’ve been dating for almost 2 years, so the past that I’m talking about is 6 months before we get together she was dating a person that I know, he wasn’t my friend but he was close to my other friends and he was in the same dorm as me, so they were together for a short time approximately 2 or 3 months, and I was aware of it, I never saw her when they were dating, after they broke up, me and her got know each others through mutual friends, and after 6 months we started dating, her ex was a playboy, and before we start dating I knew from a trusted friend that the reason they broke up was the sexual pressures that he was putting on her, after like 3 months of us dating, I found out that she gave him a BJ only one time, she didn’t sleep with him, he didn’t even touch her private parts, but my mental images are driving me crazy, I spent most of days suffering through this hell, imagining them together or imagining her giving him a BJ, and I know for a fact she was under pressure, she even seeks therapy for what happened to him, but I can’t stop it, I can’t show love to her because I’m lost in this images and thoughts about her past, and knowing the guy is making it wore, we were planning to get married but I can’t continue with this thoughts, I’m lost, what should I do?
Note that I grow up in a country that purity is important for parents and society
And sorry for my rusty English
TL;DR: my gf past is bothering me what can I do?
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You should grow up, seriously everyone has a past and if you can’t be mature enough to realize and accept that, then you shouldn’t be dating anyone
>I can’t show love to her
So you can’t be with any woman who is not a virgin? What about your current gf? No one will show her love because they will have thoughts of her past with you?
You need to marry a virgin. Do not have premarital sex otherwise you are damaging the woman and no one will love her.
And please breakup now. You’ve wasted 2 years of your gf’s life since you can’t show her love.
Dude, I understand you, I couldn’t come to terms with one of my exes either. And there were worse things there. If you can’t live with it, I understand you perfectly, I have the same mindset, the best solution is to leave her and move on. Her pure image in your head is lost, the result will not be restored. It is better to move on and let her move on. Do not torment yourself with this and do not go against your principles, otherwise it will be much worse than now. I understand this feeling that your pure girl was used. Leave it and move on. The sooner the better. I speak from my own experience. You will not fix her image.