I’m 35F and lately I’ve had this quiet craving to just… disappear for a bit. Not in a dark way, but in a “drop everything and start fresh in a city where no one knows me” kind of way. Life feels too structured, too known. I’ve been journaling a lot, and talking with this website called Aitherapy just to sort through it, and it keeps coming up: I don’t miss the past, I miss a version of me that wasn’t constantly managing expectations. Anyone ever actually take that kind of break? Did it help?
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I really feel this. That longing to just step out of your life for a moment, not to run from it, but to reconnect with the version of you that felt more free, it’s something a lot of people wrestle with, especially when life starts feeling too scripted. I haven’t done the full “new city” reset, but even small breaks—a solo trip, a new routine, time unplugged can really help you breathe and remember who you are outside of your roles. It’s not selfish to want that space. Sometimes it’s exactly what you need to feel human again.
Maybe plan a vacation.
Yeah, had a job lined up and everything was ready to move but then a family member got really sick, i felt guilty leaving everything behind knowing they were sick and slowly losing mobility and being the only family member not supporting and helping them in there time of need all in all i din’t wonder what would have been if i left, for me family comes first that’s all we got
Yesss I have felt this many many this. But then I usually end up asking myself, what if I do drop everything, start over new, will it be better.? Will I feel better? And why? What would be the difference? Is it my past that I’m holding onto? Or external factors that is weighing me down?.. I always came to the conclusion that if I did move, I would probably be happy for a while… but later the emotions would resurface and I would feel like it was all completely pointless.