I (M18) have been in a long-distance relationship with my girlfriend (F19) for a year now. i am able to visit her every 3–6 months. For our 1-year anniversary, I wrote her a pretty emotional letter, shared it over DMs during a FaceTime call, and planned to mail it as well.
She didn’t do anything for the anniversary in any way. In the past, she’s done small things for events like my birthday or Valentine’s Day, and i in general feel like she’s not putting in the same effort into this relationship as i am
This is my first serious relationship, so I’m still learning how to deal with things like this. I’m looking for advice on how to communicate my feelings about the situation and better understand hers, so we can stay on the same page moving forward
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TL;DR:
I’m (M18) in a 1-year long-distance relationship with my girlfriend (F19). I put a lot of effort into our anniversary, but she didn’t acknowledge it at all. This made me feel like the effort in our relationship is one-sided. It’s my first serious relationship, and I’m looking for advice on how to talk to her about this in a healthy, constructive way.