Finding love after 31

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I just broke up with a partner of 3.5 years. He was non committal, and deep down I knew it.

I guess I’m not thinking about the next relationship, because this will be the first time in a long time that I get to focus on myself and my happiness in a real way, and I’m excited by that!

But I am aware of my clock, and I do eventually want to get married and have children.

Feel free to comment anything here that helped you, or something that I should consider, or tips to meet men that aren’t on the apps! All advice welcome!

Comments

  1. Estefania323 Avatar

    Good for you for finding the positives in this!

    I am still waking up, so sorry if this sounds crass or isn’t fully put together, but I have a friend who froze her eggs a few years back so her and her husband could have kids on their timeline. If you have the means for something like that, it may take the pressure off you to find a relationship.

  2. Timely_Ad_5691 Avatar

    Congrats on the start of your YOU chapter! I am 34 now and had my “ME” chapter start around 28. One thing that brought me joy in that period was coming to the realization that I am my own best friend. I hope you can become your own best friend too!

  3. New_Film545 Avatar

    Not a chick, this came across my feed! Good luck; western society is mentally cooked!

  4. _Do_what_now_ Avatar

    I left my ex-husband, who I’d been with for 11 years, when I was 33. I met my now husband at 37.

    I spent the years in between healing, resting emotionally, learning about myself, enjoying my solitude, establishing healthy hobbies, and rejecting the wrong men. I always say finding the right person is a game of rejection. DO NOT SETTLE.

    You’ll be just fine.