For starters I hv 2 bsf who we’ll call J and E, I met them both n my first year of jhs and rn we’ve been friends for a couple years. The 3 of us r all introverts, however, if I would rank from most to least introverted it would be E, me, J.
To clarify I hv nothing against being super introverted. Its js after these few years I’ve begun noticing how everytime my friend grp would hang out it was mostly E and I who were starting convos. I get it ok, sm ppl prefer listening but I felt that J was rlly not trying to talk at all which felt rlly frustrating to me, especially since this wasn’t a one time thing it was literally like almost all the time. First bc it felt like we were leaving her out and second bc it felt like she wasnt putting any effort to help the convo keep going. At school when she does this she blames her behavior on her lack of sleep, which would be fine if her reasoning was literally that she can’t sleep bc her neighbors were blastinv music or sth but no, instead she fricking said that she stayed up playing games. Not only that I js personally feel that J rlly doesnt know what shes doing w her life, like she’s lost but she refuses to acknowledge it. She literally sounds like she has no ambitions whatsoever and it sounds harsh to say this but its true. She doesn’t hv many hobbies or interests, refuses to tell us what shes reading abt when we see her reading on her phone, and says that in uni shes gonna be taking business bc “that’s how u get rich” and she literally said that shes not even interested in business. Nothing wrong w taking business tbh but the fact that she had no passion for it at ALL was kinda concerning to me.
I know its not rlly my place to butt into her flaws when she seems like she doesn’t want my help but it js feels so wrong for me to let her keep living like this. I rlly wanna help her bc I’ve dealt w sm similar problems b4 but it seems like she doesn’t care. What should I do abt this?