So I’ve been dating this guy (26m) for about a month now, and it’s starting to become serious between us. He is such a sweet guy, I haven’t noticed any red flags – and I’m normally very hyper vigilant to such.
The other night we were both scrolling through reels on our phones, and I see a couple of Andrew Tate videos pop up on his for you page. So I ask him if he likes Tate, he didn’t really give a straightforward answer – but while discussing, he says something like “Tate is kinda misunderstood, and if you watch his full discussions with women etc. you would view him in a different light”
But idk, I must confess I don’t really know that much about him, but from what I’ve heard he’s basically a walking red flag.
I know my boyfriend likes boxing, and that’s probably partly why he’s interested.
I should also mention that my bf was raised in a female dominated home and is a little mamas boy, and loves his sisters very much too! He’s never spoken disrespectfully about any women and is very gentle and mindful of me!
So should I be worried?
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Backup of the post’s body: So I’ve been dating this guy (26m) for about a month now, and it’s starting to become serious between us. He is such a sweet guy, I haven’t noticed any red flags – and I’m normally very hyper vigilant to such.
The other night we were both scrolling through reels on our phones, and I see a couple of Andrew Tate videos pop up on his for you page. So I ask him if he likes Tate, he didn’t really give a straightforward answer – but while discussing, he says something like “Tate is kinda misunderstood, and if you watch his full discussions with women etc. you would view him in a different light”
But idk, I must confess I don’t really know that much about him, but from what I’ve heard he’s basically a walking red flag.
I know my boyfriend likes boxing, and that’s probably partly why he’s interested.
I should also mention that my bf was raised in a female dominated home and is a little mamas boy, and loves his sisters very much too! He’s never spoken disrespectfully about any women and is very gentle and mindful of me!
So should I be worried?
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Red. Flag. This is a man with trafficking and DV charges. You can’t say that’s “misunderstand”. He’s probably absorbed misogyny by osmosis even if he didn’t go into his videos.
Don’t waste time with tater tots
INFO
how long have you met this guy for? honestly, saying a human trafficker and raper is misunderstood is inexcusable in my eyes
Holy shit yes, you should worry.
As quickly as you can change “new” to “ex”
We are who we listen to and surround ourselves with. Do not forget this.
Run away as fast as you can. Guys like this will hide themselves until a few months in when he thinks he has you “locked in.” Girl, run. You’ll regret it later if you don’t.
You should be running in the opposite direction of this guy, or really any person who makes a claim like “Tate is really misunderstood”.
Barf.
YES you should be worried!! Definitely a huge red flag.
Your future ex. FIFY
I mean he told u he watch it and u dont see any problem resulting so what’s the issue u wanna control what he watch and follow ?
Tate is on video violently choking a woman and is currently fleeing a trial for rape and sex trafficking charges. He’s also a generally massive, idiotic piece of shit.
I’d be concerned.
He’s gonna start talking about “females” and slowly become insufferable to be around.
Yes.
Huge giant man sized red flag slapping you round the face.
Runnnnnnnnn
Yes.
They are always “mamas boys”. You’ll be picking up after this “adult toddler” very soon and then the tantrums will start.
Yeah that would be a big red flag to me, you’re only known him a few weeks, run away quick before you get any more involved
Yeah you’re gonna wanna run from that one.
I’m a woman. I like Andrew Tate. He can be a bit over the top but he isn’t all bad. The person who said he trafficked women and DV women is accusing based on zero evidence. We do not live in a world of guilty until proven innocent.
My new ex bf you mean.
Yes. RED FLAG! 🚩
You should watch it with him and talk about what bothers you. Take a stand and see what happens. Then you’ll know, stay or go.
I disagree with your “I haven’t noticed any red flags” statement.
GIRL, RUN !!!!!!!
Yup, he’s agreeing with an abuser. You don’t want to be on the receiving end of that.
Tate is a walking red flag and so is anyone who consumes his content.
Walk away
Big old red flag
Yes
RUN. Tate’s advice to his followers for “dealing with” a woman who disagrees with you is “punch, chke, rpe” until she’s compliant.
Oh, you sweet summer child…
Leave.
YIKES. A maroon flag
Yes. Run girl. RUN.
There are videos out there of Andrew Tate literally beating the hell out of his female partners. That is the only light I need to view him in, he is a monster.
RUN RUN SO FAST AND FAR FROM THIS MAN
Definitely
He is masking until he’s got you where he wants you then the controlling behaviour and abuse will start. Don’t wait until it’s too late to get out. He’s not going to show his true colours straight away. There is no misunderstanding Andrew Tate. He’s an abuser period. Get out whilst you can!
He’s fixated on a sex trafficker who brags about abusing women.
Yeah, it’s a problem. A huge one
FFS, DUMP HIM!
If he follows Andrew Tit he should be an ex boyfriend
RUN!
Girl. you in danger. run.
Byeeeeeeeeeeeee this will become a nightmare later, please leave before you get too emotionally invested
I am a man. I am friends with many men.
We all see Andrew Tate as a guy who hates women, wants to subjugate them, strip them of their humanity, and define them as property.
We all hate him and hope he ends up in prison for his horrific crimes.
Any man who likes him, is not a man. They are a child. A hateful child.
He’s not worth it.
No question, be very worried. You’ve only dated for a month, dump him, men who listen to Tate are misogynists. He is a sex trafficker, and your bf is faking his kindness. They pretend to be kind before they show their true colors.
Guy here. Tater tot is a human trafficking domestic violencing pos. You can do so much better than this … man child. Gtfo now girl.
Yes.
You know that tiktoker who’s whole thing is running across a meadow with a giant red flag? Yeah…
100 percent get out
RUN
Run the other way and don’t look back.
My brother was also raised in a woman dominated house. three sisters and a mom who ran everything. Bit he fell big time into misogyny to the point where he looked my mom in the eyes and said giving birth hurt less than getting kicked in the balls.
There is so much more that happened than that, but if I recounted every screaming session he had at me for not fitting into his misogynistic views of what an older sister should be, I’d be here all day.
Leave. He’s nice now, but one day, you’ll wake up and realize that you’re trapped in the 1940s.
Yes
He traffics women – he’s not misunderstood he’s a sociopath
My brother is an abuser, mommas boy and nothing but sisters. It doesn’t mean shit- my brother is a bastard who hits women.
RUN
Unfortunately there is little room for nuance when it comes to Tate. There is likely a bunch of unrecognized misogyny under the surface for him to be able to consume this content and defend it.
This level of deprograming/education may not be possible, but you should at least warn his sisters/mother that he listens to that kind of stuff.
I would break up with someone over this
Are you joking? That’s a huge red flag
Truly, leave now.
He will treat you no better than his mother’s past lovers treated her. Which wasn’t well, I just know. I’m really taking liberties on a story I don’t know… but feel confident in my analysis.
Only one month in, this will be easy to leave. Don’t be fooled by him having female family, or by him knowing how to play nice to you now.
This can’t be real. If you want a boyfriend who absolutely loathes your entire existence, you nailed it.
Yes, you should worry. Very much.
Yes dump him immediately
If your boyfriend had a of Mein Kampf you wouldn’t question dumping him. It’s the same thing different flavor.
Run. Don’t justify. Just leave
So, because he’s lovely to *you*, you’re happy with him supporting a man who has been charged with multiple sex crimes, and is responsible for a wave of foul misogyny in young men around the world? At what point would it matter to you? When it affects someone you know? Someone you love? You? HE IS TELLING YOU WHO HE REALLY IS. GET OUT NOW.
It’s a red flag, but I don’t think you should jump the gun yet. Have a good sit down with him and try to get some clarity on his view point, like what exactly is misunderstood to him. If he really thinks Tate is misunderstood, that’s a good sign to walk because there’s not a lot to misunderstand.
Absolutely not. Abandon ship.
yes. why are you even asking? why did you not break up with him on the spot?
Huge reg flag! Anyone can be on their best behavior for a month. It’s too early to be able to give him the benefit of the doubt. Andrew Tate only attracts toxicity. RUN!!
I grew up with a guy who, as an adult, would post the most insane misogynistic stuff on social media. When he’d be called out he’d act offended and say he was raised by a single mom he loves, he couldn’t be a misogynist
Most people aren’t self reflecting enough to understand their beliefs or their affinity to certain things
This dude agrees with Andrew Tate. There’s not much nuance to be had here. Tate’s online presence is pretty straight forward
RUN FORREST RUN
So you don’t know much about Tate and your worried? His about you look into him a bit , I’d recommend any of his motivational videos on YouTube , if you go in ig or tik tok you’ll see just find videos where he’s trolling and being a bit over the top, the funny thing is in some it’s obvious he’s trolling but in the comments people respond like they think he’s being serious, but his motivational videos are more likely to get you to see him in a positive way , or you look up a podcast where he’s trolling debates any women
Troll, troll, troll ur boat gently down the stream
There’s no bright side to a rapist human trafficker. That’s not being misunderstood. Y’all are so fresh in your relationship, and this would have me walking away. Hard pass.
Yes. It’s ok for this to be a dealbreaker.
I HATE Tate. That said, because your BF has not acted like a Tate follower, if you really like him, I would:
Let him know that him watching Tate really bothers you so you want to make sure that the 2 of you are compatible long term as things get more serious. So you want to take his suggestion to open your mind about Tate.
Ask to watch some of his favorite Tate videos together so you can discuss their ideas together
In addition, have ChatGPT or something provide you a summary of some of Tates beliefs and specifically ask your bf to discuss those with you
People might disagree but to me that’s a red flag. I wouldn’t really want to date anyone that listens to that guy for anything
You’re here asking us because your gut is telling you something. This guy is going to slowly turn into a tate type guy. Red flags girl. You know it deep down too.
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