30F. Have been attached for most of my 20s and recently single. Took awhile but now gradually beginning to socialise a bit more again. Have been for just a couple of social events and been in several situations where guys ask for my IG. I don’t use social media (boomer alert HAHA) but when I tell them that they seem not to believe me. Wondering if it’s the norm nowadays for people to connect through IG and wondering if I should set up an account just for this.
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Huh, I’m 35 and surprised at somebody five years younger than me also questioning this norm, just based on how commonly it happens. Yep, asking for socials is definitely the norm, even for us middle millennials!
That said, are you looking for quality or quantity here, OP? If you want quantity IG is practically a must. If you want quality, you can probably just rely on old-fashioned texting – the right person will be happy to get in touch whatever way. IG will definitely make things easier if you’re actually looking to expand your social circle, though (whether romantically or even just platonically).
I don’t like that you called yourself a boomer at 30 🥲 30 is super young! God, even 40 is. I wouldn’t dare make age jokes about myself until I’m at least mid 50s.
Go ahead and make instagram. TikTok is a wonderful resource too, if you use it correctly. It is a portal to so much information and female empowerment. Gen Z women are seriously flipping the script on all kinds of norms, and we should love them for it.
It is normal to ask that but dont set up one just for that😭
I think people should just accept that and ask for your number but people do ask for IG as like a lower stakes connection
This makes me feel so old…if someone asked for my IG I wouldn’t want to give it out, like I don’t really post stuff for the public there, it’s mostly pics of my kids.
If asking for a phone number is just way too ancient, what’s wrong with snap? At least there if I add someone I’m not giving them access to the other people I’m connected with.
Some of my friends have absolutely met and connected on Instagram. Even if not, I always looked at my Instagram as my “dating resume” as cringe as that sounds. You look at someone’s dating profile, but if you really wanna get a glimpse into their life, you find them on Instagram. It also helps prove you’re a real person and not a bot/fake account.
I wouldn’t say it’s necessary but it is very useful for dating. In fact, I’m currently in a relationship now and I deactivated my Instagram. I found it to be a waste of time and I won’t pretend that the fact that I met my boyfriend didn’t factor into that opinion lol.