My husband cheated on me about 1 year ago, I stayed because at that time I loved him… but that broke me… I’m not the same… I was in a deep hole at that time and felt lost in life since I found out that. I went to therapy because I was in my lowest and that helped me but now I don’t really feel happy with him anymore, I’m annoyed by everything he does, he says he loves me and he really shows it to me but I don’t feel the same anymore… I’ve told him that I don’t love him or trust any word he says but he is really putting effort but I don’t feel it anymore I’m just unhappy… we’ve been together for almost 10 years and the relationship was perfect until I new what he was doing…
Also: I work from home so I’m always home alone… we go out to eat and then come back he has hobbies and always take hobbies a little bit too much (daily) I’m always alone… his time with me is just going to eat… same thing always, I’m bored.
I’m still here because I’m used to being around him but I’m just not happy anymore and I don’t now what to do, should I fight for my marriage or just move on in life.
Edit:
No children thank God but I also had an abortion 4 months after I found out he did that and I aborted because I couldn’t have a child in the situation I was and that also broke me even more because it was supposed to be a special time for us and he ruined it.
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U deserve better leave
I think this is a standard feeling for women, we check out of a relationship before we actually leave. If you’re not happy, what’s the point staying?
To short to waste i had tough time leaving partner. But after a while best thing I ever did .mind u it is scary at 1st
I’m so sorry OP. Definitely build your support system (friends, family, etc). Work with your therapist to help with the process of letting him go and then dealing with the aftermath. You Definitely deserve better, even if it’s you attending to your own needs
If you don’t love him anymore there’s no way to salvage this. It would be different if you had just “lost the spark” that’s something you can work with. But it sounds like he broke the things that made your bond special. At this point you are less than friends and it’s time to move on.
You are allowed to leave. You don’t owe him a second chance. Go live your best life.
The moment he cheated, the relationship was broken. You can’t put that back together. Leave him.
Why would you fight to save a marriage that he clearly didn’t fight for when he stepped out on you?
Leave. Go start a real life.
He betrayed your trust and perhaps that made you see the person he really is, not the person you thought he was, and now you cannot unsee it, even if you have forgiven him. Although it seems to me like you have already made up your mind about leaving, I don’t think you should listen to any one who encourages or discourages it here because there is not enough information about your relationship and only you will truly know about it, my only advice would be – if you decide to stay, make sure you are staying because of the person he really is, not the one you wished he was or that you believe he could become. I wish you all the best OP
Cheating on your partner is usually not a one-off; it will happen again. Make a plan for yourself and follow through. Life is too short to be unhappy and you didn’t mention children so the break has just become less complicated. You’ve outgrown him and his efforts to make you love him will diminish and you will be at square one.
leave but make sure he cant take your shared funds. Be strategic, patient and calculating
It can take a little time for things like this to really hit you. The relationship is over. No matter what, you will always remember he cheated. You will never get over that. You aborting your baby because of it is the cherry on top as there is a high chance you would be a mom right now.
Just leave. What are you fighting for anyway? For a man who cheats? Why? Wtf is the point in that??
You will be happier being alone by yourself than you are alone with him. Leave and learn that you are enough on your own.
OP, im sorry you’re in this situation. You wanted to try to continue the relationship and I think you should be proud of yourself for that, but it’s ok to admit it’s not what you want anymore. He smashed the trust and wrecked everything as soon as he cheated. Nothing can or will be the same anymore. Don’t stay connected to someone who can so easily discard you for another person.
I know how difficult it can be to walk away, but you can do this.
Why stay? He sounds boring 🥱, you’re bored. And he broke your trust. Time is irrecuperable. Go live your best life elsewhere.