What helped you gain confidence?

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I often find myself hesitating and feeling lost, uncertain about my life’s direction.

It seems like everyone around me is confident, while I struggle with anxiety, both at work and elsewhere.

I want to be confidence, how?

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  1. hellimhere28 Avatar

    Following, but I know it helps to just keep busy and build confidence in small ways to help work towards something bigger should you choose

  2. Glass_Animal_2714 Avatar

    It happens sometimes after I’ve done something I didn’t realize I could do. Like for example much later on after I do something challenging, like go to a social event where I have anxiety or don’t know anyone or complete a task I wasn’t sure I could. Later on I’ll be really impressed by what I did and realize I’m capable of even more.

  3. Just_Natural_9027 Avatar

    The etymology of confidence means trust. Trust comes from competency/mastery in the specific domain.

  4. Strict-Brick-5274 Avatar

    Gym & education.
    Looking hot and being smart.

    Gym also gives me achievements in non superficial ways .. like I can leg press over 300lbs. I can do things with my body Lara croft does. These are pretty cool considering I always had eating disorders and body dysmorphia and anxiety and depression which I healed by changing to a healthier mindset (with lots of therapy and meditation) and healthy lifestyle (making how i feel the goal, not how I look and ironically that made me hotter!).

    All those year wasted on trying to change my aesthetic…when all I needed to do was focus on feeling good.

    Then my education helped me secure a job that helped me feel confident in what I do and that I can support myself comfortably.

  5. Eva_Roos Avatar

    I think everybody might seem confident, but I also think a lot of it is fake. Why do hesitate? What is holding you back? I think if you have that clear goal (maybe your current job is not what you envisioned or where you want be) you might get more confident i the decisions you make i getting there.