The concept of a “Solo Date” is weird and senseless
I have nothing against caring for one’s own happiness. When I feel bored and none of my friends are available I do go outside on my own and go visit places or have some nice food alone.
But these days I see people use the term “Solo Date” and comments saying it should be normalised. No one has ever stopped a person from going out all alone and having food or visiting places on their own. It has been very normal for a very long time.
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speak for yourself.
I just don’t understand this need to rebrand totally mundane, normal things like they’re some new fad… going to a movie alone or going out to eat alone are normal things that people have done forever, rebranding it like it’s some kind of self care is obnoxious
So it’s not weird and terrible?
I’m confused. Do you think it’s normal or do you think it’s weird and terrible…?
Edit: a solo date isn’t some new term so I’m not quite sure why it’s being treated as such
Ehh sometimes being alone is better. If we need a term for it, sure
Once I went to a restaurant and said table for one and the hostess said “Just one?!” with surprise and pity in her voice
Honestly I kind of agree. I was talking to my friend about what I did on the previous weekend, how I was at some restaurant in a different city, and she was like “oh nice, a little self-date then, love that”
I never said anything but it kind of surprised me that she used the term “self-date” when I really have never thought of anything like that before.
But maybe the “self-date” crowd on tiktok and places are more talking about taking care of yourself in general and giving yourself more alone time? As in it’s aimed at people who don’t really give themselves that to begin with and are always busy taking care of their kids, spending time with their spouse, family, work obligations, and then keeping their social connections alive. Maybe it’s a reminder for these people to afford themselves some self care?
Some people feel the need to label/categorize everything. They are quite odd to me as well.
I can see a movie I wanna see by myself and not feel like a piece of shit with no friends. Saying otherwise makes you an ass /popularopinion
No one has stopped them but tons of reddit people seem to feel the need to post asking if it’s weird to go to the movies or a restaurant by yourself.
So there might be a stigma somewhere, I guess.
Someone doesn’t know how to enjoy their own company
Haha what about J dates?
I am not sure I agree. The concept of being alone has been stigmatized. GOing to a movie alone feels wierd, going out to eat gets you wierd looks. There is a idea in the daily grind of things that we focus on group activities and the needs of others so much. The idea of a date is a particularly special outing were you make extra effort. So its not going to the movies alone, its you taking extra effort to treat yourself well and have a enjoyable time. The language makes practical sense to me.
Just take a stuffed animal since you feel so weird about it
Doing things on your own at times I thought was just normally living life 😆 everything MUST HAVE A LABEL!! Pffff 😂
Being alone does get a side eye from society.
To be clear though: People are not saying “normalize not being weird about people eating alone ”, they are saying “normalize going out by yourself”.
“Normalize being comfortable by yourself.”
Normalize taking time for yourself to do things you find enjoyable.
Which isn’t a very common thing.
A lot of people feel the need to be in constant contact with others. Escaping themselves, in a sense.
Which is why you see people bouncing from relationships to relationships and continuing friendships that clearly aren’t meant to be.
Went shopping today and grabbed a coffee. By myself. Solo date: 10/10
Oh yeah, that’s just freaky. Not doing things by yourself, but feeling compelled to name it so it sounds like an “event.”
I’d rather be alone it’s cheaper you can stay or go at your leisure just bring ear pods listen to your favorite podcast , audiobooks or watch whatever you want .