When I was 14,I was talking to a senior that went to my highschool. He lived in my neighborhood and seemed really sweet and trustworthy so I befriended him. I know,it’s weird being friends with an 18 year old when you’re 14,but I didn’t care because I was stupid. One day,I went over his house for the first time after he took me on what he called a date (McDonald’s) so we could hang out. While we were there,he kept rubbing my thighs and told me I was mature for my age and that I had nice breast,which made me really uncomfortable but I didn’t say anything because I really liked him and didn’t want to lose him. Eventually,I started hanging out at his house more often. I was only able to go because I kept lying to my mom. During one of these meet ups,he took my shirt off and left hickeys all over my chest and started calling me his girlfriend. By then,I should’ve stopped going over his house but I didn’t, and eventually, we ended up having sex. It hurt so much and I told him that he needed to stop but he kept going. I felt so dirty when he was done and swore to myself it wouldn’t happen again but it did. Over and over again. The sexual contact only stopped when I told him I hadn’t had my period and he accused me of trying to trap him. I didn’t know what to do. I thought it was just another irregular period but my friends convinced me to take a test so I stole one(I’m not proud of it but the Walgreens wouldn’t have let me buy one without becoming suspicious) I took the test and it came back positive. I don’t know what to do. I’m starting to show and I can’t afford to be a single mother at 14. I don’t even know how to tell my mom.
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I meant to put 15 at the end,sorry.
Time to face this head on and make a decision. You need to tell your mother, as you’re too young to handle this on your own.
Im sorry this happened to you. You’re so young..please talk to your mom..I know its not what you want to do but you need to tell her. You are still a child yourself and you need an adults help in this situation
I’m sorry this happened to you. Please go talk to your mom and get some help. You need some help with this one.
Please tell your mum now, I wish you told her as soon as you took the test but tell her now and tell her everything. Who he is and what you guys have been doing. I just this is scary and you don’t know how she will react but there’s no other way out. The longer you remain silent the more dire the situation will become.
Tell your mum, admit your mistake and ask her for help.
If you’re starting to show it’s probably too late for an abortion, you should try seeking help on a different subreddit where you can find more helpful suggestions. I think telling your parents might not be comfortable, but it might be necessary.
You need all the support you can get. Please reach out to your mama. I’m sure it will be okay, I promise 🙏🏼
You should be telling your mom, and he should be in jail. What he did to you is a crime
My best wishes, girlie
If you can’t tell your mom right away- tell ANY trusted adult female in your life and ask her to help you sit down with your mom. She needs to hear it from you before she figures it out for yourself and catches you hiding it and becomes an even worse situation.
Do you know when you say no or stop and he kept going, it is considered rape?
You need to tell your mom and he needs to be held responsible. She’s going to know when your belly grows bigger.
At this point for your health and the baby you need to talk to your mom. You need to get prenatal care. Good luck.
I’m so sorry this happened to you, I know it’s so hard but at least find someone safe that you can tell. Your mom, an aunt, a friends mom, literally anyone!! Everything is going to be okay, just get the support you need.
Talk to your mom now so that she can help you either get an abortion or get the proper prenatal care. 18 is too old for a 14 year old. You should report him.
Tell your Mom now. Every detail. And your Dad if he’s part of your life. Make sure to give all the details to law enforcement. Consult an attorney about options.
Let the adults you trust in your life to guide you through this. Your mother should be that person. Your (BF ?) may be in trouble also, don’t let that effect your decisions.
Go to a plan parenthood they will help you decide what to do next.
Also I would call the cops on that POS! Send that guy to prison
Hey love, I just want you to know none of this is your fault. You were taken advantage of by someone older who knew better. What he did was not okay. You don’t have to handle this on your own.
I know you’re scared, but please try to talk to a trusted adult — maybe your mom, a school counselor, a relative, or even a doctor. You deserve support and safety, not shame.
It’s really important to see a doctor to confirm everything and make sure you’re okay physically. They can also connect you with people who help girls in this situation all the time.
What he did could actually be illegal — the law is on your side, and there are people who will protect you. You’re not trying to trap anyone — you’re trying to survive something that never should’ve happened.
Here are two safe places you can text or call anytime:
RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network)
Call: 1-800-656-4673
Chat online: https://hotline.rainn.org
National Teen Pregnancy Hotline (support, not judgment)
Text: “HELPLINE” to 313131
Or visit: https://optionline.org
You are strong. You are brave. You are not alone. I’m sure even though your mom might be stressed at what you’re about to tell her, she is your mom and will always try to do what’s right for you.
it’s best to tell your mom right away. especially since you’ll need prenatal care. at the end of the day there’s another life coming & that’s the only thing that matters
I’m so sorry this happened to you, it wasn’t your fault. It was solely HIS fault, he’s the adult in this situation, he knew what he was doing was wrong. He’s old enough to know now to be hanging out with 14 year olds even as friends, let ALONE a relationship. If your mom or anyone else blames you for this don’t listen to them because it’s not your fault at all, you trusted him and that shows you have a good heart because you see the best in people
Can you get his dna or saliva somehow? Maybe from a cup he drank from or a napkin he used, or maybe his toothbrush something like that. Then you and your mom or any other adult you trust can use that and take it to the police, they can do a dna test and prove the baby is his. I’m not really fully sure how the law system works tbh but once it’s proven you’re pregnant with his kid (not that I don’t believe you ofc just that the justice system likes having evidence and all that) they’ll figure out he’s an adult and you’re a minor and hopefully arrest him, anyways sorry this is so long but yeah
Hi love, labor and delivery nurse here and a mom to 4 kids myself, one who is about your age. My youngest patient was a 14 year old; I can’t imagine how scared and alone you must feel. But it’s time to tell your mom. What this senior did was wrong and you need an adult’s help. Your mom will be devastated but that’s ok. She’ll be devastated for you and what’s happened to you. Do not worry about this boy and the consequences that may come his way; he did not care when the consequences came your way. This conversation with your mom needs to happen this weekend. I’ll be praying for you and the courage it will take but you cannot bear this “burden” alone.
I agree with the comments here that you need to talk to your mom ASAP. It’s important that you tell her for the health of you and your baby, to make informed medical decisions, and to hold this man accountable.
Oh my heart breaks for you. What happened to you is not your fault — none of it. You were taken advantage of by someone older who knew exactly what they were doing. You were a child, and he used your trust and feelings against you. That is abuse, plain and simple. Please believe that.
You are not “stupid.” You were manipulated, and that’s what abusers do — they make you feel special, then slowly push boundaries until you’re scared, confused, and isolated. What he did was wrong and illegal, and the shame you’re carrying? It belongs to him, not you.
Right now, you need support — not just emotionally, but medically and legally too. Please tell a trusted adult immediately, if not your mom, then a teacher, counselor, school nurse, or someone at Planned Parenthood or a crisis center. You deserve to be safe and protected. They can help guide you through next steps, including how to talk to your mom.
You’re incredibly strong for sharing this. You don’t have to go through this alone. There are people who will believe you, stand by you, and help you heal. You are not ruined. You are worthy of love, safety, and a future. ❤️
Sweetheart, this isn’t your fault and you’re not stupid, you’re just a teenager. Please talk to your mum. I know if you were my daughter I would want to be able to support you! Even if I was pissed off I’d still want to keep you safe.
My best friend went through similar at your age. She had a rough couple.of years but I am.so proud of the woman and mother she has become. What ever choices you make through out this you will come out the other side okay. Please don’t blame yourself.
If you feel that you have no one to help just go to the hospital and ask them to help you. It will all get sorted out but the clock is ticking.
Its time to talk to the police, he raped you. Im so sorry this happend it was NOT your fault!! You told it 1) it hurt (aka “No”)
2) stop (aka “No”)
He is a rapist and a predator, you were just a kid! He is disgusting.
You were raped
Well I think you need to talk to your mother ASAP and come clean. Make the best decision you can! I know your scared to death. I was too as a 31 year old man! It’s scary. As fuck. You have every right to be. Best of luck I’m praying for you! Shes probably gonna be mad as fuck so be prepared as you can be!
Talk to your mom. It’s not gonna be easy. It’s gonna be the hardest conversation you’ve ever had. However, you need help. You are just a child yourself. There’s so much time left.
I got pregnant when I was 13 and I wrote my mom a note and told her that way so at least it wasn’t face to face and gave her time until I saw her again to process what I wrote. No matter what happens, it’s your choice. People are going to try to get you to do a lot of things, but stick to what you feel is right. It’s your baby, your choice regardless of your age.
If you have a hard time saying it, maybe consider writing it in a letter/note and tell your mom that it’s hard for you to vocalize but there’s something she needs to know. Writing it out might also help you get your thoughts together in terms of how or what you want to say. Thinking of you.
The longer you wait to tell your mom, the less options you may have.
Having a baby at your age would be really hard, but women young and even old are built for such hardships.
And getting an abortion is not wrong if you know you’re not ready. Just know that for some the heartache can last awhile, others find peace more easily.
Its a really tough decision. You need to tell your mom, Sweetie. And remember, it is your decision.
Edit: And your mom is going to be really crazy mad at him. Maybe tell her she can be mad later. You need help with this first. But give her a good 30 minutes to get her emotions in check.
Last thing!: There are “abortion” clinics that try to trick you into not having an abortion. They lie and tell you you’re further along than you are and say it’s no longer an option. Planned parenthood or hospital is your best bet if you decide to go that route.
Hey i’m so sorry this happened to you. i understand the pressure of not wanting to tell you mom, it’s a hard thing to do. i promise your mom won’t be angry at you. a similar thing happened to me when i was 14 and started dating an 18 year old. my my mom found out about the sexual stuff and she didn’t blame me, she blamed him. that man has groomed you and SA you. it’s not your fault at all. Please tell your mom because you are too young to handle this on your own. I believe in you.
I’m so sorry you are going through this. I cried when reading your post because I too experienced a similar scenario with an 18yo fella in high school. I became a mom at 14 myself. I am middle age now and can look back and see that I was essentially groomed and raped. He manipulated me in so many ways, separated me from family and friends and became physically abusive. I gave birth to my son a month before I turned 15. Being a single mom was so difficult but it turned out to be the biggest blessing in time. Life was hard, I’m not going to lie. I took my GED at 16 and went to nursing school thanks to a grant for college. Thankfully my parents were also very supportive after I got up the nerve to break the news to them. I have needed some therapy from the trauma that I really didn’t even know I endured until my 30s. I’m still so thankful for my son and all the joy he has brought to my life. It has been worth the pain. I hope you soon find the direction and courage you need to seek outside help from family or trusted friends.
You need to tell your mom. You can’t have a kid at 14. You need abortion. And the guy needs jail time. Your mother loves you, she’s the best you got.
All the best I hope everything goes fine.
I want to preface by saying this is not your fault. This will NEVER be your fault. He should know better than that. As a 20 year old, I would never date a 16 year old. There’s too much difference in life experience.
You have some options here. If you’re comfortable, where do you live? If you live in the US, what state?
You should tell your mom. I know its scary. If its easier, send her a text message. Basically what you told us. Tell her you’re really scared and don’t know what to do.
She might make you keep it. The government might make you keep it. But know there are options.
But first step is telling your mom. And the authorities. What he did to you is illegal and inappropriate.
I’m so sorry. And I’m so proud of you for speaking up.
This is called rape. There is no other way to sugar coat this and what he did was completely wrong. It’s called grooming. You need to talk to your mom and if you’re here in the US and are in a legal state for abortion, I would suggest seeking one. Adding a kid to the mix is not going to help you in any way shape or form.
You need to tell an adult. That guy is scum. Your mom needs to help you navigate this situation. He should be reported. And you and your mom can discuss how you should move on. I don’t believe in abortion. But I believe you deserve a choice. Having a child a your age whether you decide to give the child up for adoption or if you decide to keep it, will forever change your life. You should have your mom help you decide what’s best for you.
Sweetheart, as a Mama, please know that most of all we want to protect you from hard things like this. Your mom LOVES you as much as she loves your younger siblings and your needs matter too. It’s not your job to protect your mom from the truth. This is already happening and the sooner she knows the sooner she can help you navigate everything that comes next. I know it’s scary, but I believe you can do hard things, because you’ve already been sacrificing your needs and well-being for your mom and siblings. But, if you don’t get the care you need soon, the pain for them could be so much worse if something happens to you, as your mom will never forgive herself for missing it. Please talk to her this weekend. The sooner the better. Maybe show her this post to get the conversation started if you’re not comfortable saying it out loud yourself. I’m praying with you. You can do this. 🩷
None of this is your fault. But you gotta tell her, for your own safety. It’s important to start seeking medical care, no matter what route you take from here. You were manipulated and taken advantage of by an adult. And that’s also sexual assault if you tell him to stop and he doesn’t. Legally he could also be held accountable.
No matter what a child is coming. Idk where u are located but there are options. But u have to let your mother guide you through this time!!!! Something could happen and she needs to be aware of this situation. It’s 2025 I’m sure she won’t exile you so please talk to her
If you are starting to show it’s more than likely too late to do anything about it. But you do not need to be a single mother. Many families would love to adopt a baby. You do have choices and you aren’t alone.
You need to tell your mom. Who should also contact the authorities. You were groomed and it is statutory SA. He needs to be held accountable for his actions as a grown man. And you need to be supported and ask for therapy as soon as you can to process all of this.
hi girl, I’m so sorry you’re in this situation, I know it’s scary and stressful but you will be okay! I was also that 14 yr old girl dating a senior and please trust me. Tell your mama, there’s no way around it and you need her more than anything right now. And that boy is far too old to not see anything wrong with what he was doing to you. Sit your mama down and tell her the truth, let her get you the help you need.
One day when I was 13 I was on MySpace and a cool guy with a guitar added me as a friend. He was 16, and so totally cool.
He made me feel special and cool, so I let him come to my house. Where he SA me or as I thought “made love”.
I’m 32 now, and only 3 years ago I called it what it was.
I told my mom and she was hurt I never allowed her to help me. I was young and naive.
This is when you go to your mom now. There’s so many onion layer of what is going on right now and you need an adult , not an internet stranger.
I told you my story bc I was 13- 8th grade. I thought I knew what I was doing or what not, I had no idea how much it affected my life, and I wish I had my mom there.
Want to hear worst part? He was actually 19. And he was charged with rape by another friend- he was hopping the friend list online- true predator.
You got this kid. You need help tho
You are a victim and please know this situation is not your fault. No matter how the relationship started, that person is the adult let alone a predator. Advice to you is to have a sit down with your mom and explain what had happened. You were manipulated into doing things that you are not okay with and I hope she would understand. She can help you figure out a plan and your options. Also if and when you are ready, get justice and report him. Whether or not you decide to continue with the pregnancy is up to you and not my business but I am concerned about your overall wellbeing. I can’t imagine how scary this must be but I’m sure it will be less of it once you feel comfortable enough to confide into your mom. I really hope this helps and you are able to get the support you need during this time. God bless you.
As a mom, I would want to help my daughter through this no matter how stressed I was. The longer you wait the harder it’s going to be to talk to someone. Tell your mom honey, I am almost certain she would WANT to know and help you because she loves you.
Give mom the chance to help before it’s too late.
He could go to jail for that. And he sounds like he needs to. He’s VERY OBVIOUSLY a predator.
This is not your fault – he knew what he was doing & continued to take advantage of you. However..
this is the first of many lessons you will learn, especially now. You knew you shouldn’t continue going over there – I am in no way blaming you for this (you’re so young, making mistakes & learning as you go is exactly what you should be doing). What I am saying is – your gut/ intuition/ feeling/ vibe/ energy/ etc. will never let you down & should absolutely be trusted. Listen to it & follow it from now on as much as you can!
That advice doesn’t help your current situation though – this is real & you can’t take it back.
DON’T RUN FROM THIS!
It takes an incredible amount of courage & strength to face your problems head on… you must do this now. Your mom will know what to do & you don’t want to end up on the law&crime yt channel for giving birth in secret, hiding the fetus & now facing murder charges!!
He is a predator, knowingly having a sexual relationship w a minor?? Deplorable.
Don’t blame yourself for this, it wasn’t your fault & most importantly – blaming yourself & being beating yourself up will do absolutely nothing to help you. When these lessons are inevitably learned the hard way – all you can do is learn from them. What did you do wrong & what will you do differently in the future?
Everyone fucks up & there are truly evil people in this world, of whom do not care about harming others. This is just a truth of life.
I know this sounds impossible right now, but it will be okay! It won’t be easy – but hold tight, there is light at the end of this darkness.
I wish you all the luck I can muster. Please take care of yourself. You have to look out for yourself because no one else will you do it for you!
I have daughters. If one of them were in a pickle like this, I guarantee you that I’d want her to tell me asap. If it’s hard, consider writing her a note. Tell her you’ve been afraid. Tell her you need help. The best part about writing a note is that it allows her to do any freaking out on her own, to get it out of her system before she talks with you.
As a mom, I’m so proud of you for reaching out for help. That’s so hard to do! You can take a few hard steps more.
Do you have an older sibling? Or even the school nurse or counselor could help you talk to your mom
But it is better if you have someone close to you. Just for support.
Oh baby girl, I know how you’re feeling all too well. I got pregnant at 16 and was absolutely terrified to tell my parents. It’s such a unique kind of fear, no one else could possibly understand how it feels. When I eventually got the nerve to tell my dad, I approached him in tears, like I was a sobbing mess, and when I finally spit it out he was like “that’s all?? I thought something really bad happened!” Lol so you see, it wasn’t as horrible as I had imagined. I know every situation is different, so even if your mom is upset, she will still love and support you. You’ve got this.
Hopefully you live in a blue state with access to abortion services. Having a kid at this age will definitely alter your life choices and plans. Find a way to get rid of it and then get on birth control.
Not telling is isn’t going to stop the pregnancy. If you wait too long you won’t be able tto get an abortion, and then you’re gonna HAVE to tell her because you will have a baby. As a mother now to a teenager I would rather know right away while there are still options than wait till it’s too late
👏THIS👏WAS👏RAPE👏
You NEED to tell a trusted adult. This needs to be handled. I understand that it’s scary, but it’s NOT YOUR FAULT. You, however, are the only one who can help you right now.
Oh, sweetheart, please tell your mom! This is not your fault at all. The 18 year old has used you in a horrible and illegal way. Your mom may be upset initially that you lied, but give her a little time and I’m sure she’ll see what everyone here is telling you – it’s not your fault, and you need her help and support. You are amazing to care that this will add to her stress, but you are her baby, and you need her! I pray that you find the courage to tell her, and that you find the help you need.
Hey sweetheart, as a mom, I want you to know that this isn’t your fault. You didn’t do anything wrong.
This was rape and sexual abuse and that is not okay for him to get away with.
I would want my daughter to talk to me no matter how busy or stressed I was. And I would want my son to face the consequences if he had done anything like this.
Please please talk to your mom. Is there a school counselor you can speak to first?
You’re brave to even look for help and talk about what happened.
🫶🏽🫶🏽
You need to tell your mom immediately and also notify your brothers also to take “care” of this individual if you know where I’m getting that 🪓 🍆
Your Momma loves you. She will be angry but not really at you.
She will be angry you lost a lot of chances in life yes, mostly she’ll be angry you had to suffer this alone.
Honestly, depending on her emotional maturity she may say a lot of mean things bc she doesn’t have realization herself.
Mothers act a lot of ways but boiled down it comes back to fear and sadness for their child.
Write her a note if you have to but you need her now.
I am a mom. Please tell her. I know it will be hard but you were groomed and raped. Then he continues to have sex with you knowing you were to scared to object. He used you and knew how to keep you coming back.
I would go full scorched Earth. No one abuses my underage kid. This is NOT your fault. He was older and knew better. Don’t make this your fault because it isn’t. I know you kept going over there but you were likely manipulated to continue.
As a mom, I would never blame my daughter for being groomed, raped, and sexually abused. I would have him arrested. If he did it to you, he can do it to someone else and he will.
Please, please, please tell her. He needs to be held accountable and you need support and care. You might also want to think about getting into therapy. Sexual abuse takes time to recover from.
This isn’t your fault, you’re just a child. He is 100% in the wrong and manipulated you. You need to tell your mom and give yourself grace and understanding. You are going to look back on this and realize this wasn’t your fault and you are far from the one to blame in this situation. I wish you the best you got this good luck🩷🩷
Hello everyone,thank you so much for all of your advice and support. I sat down and spoke to my mom about it and we cried together. It went surprisingly well,even though she did yell at me. She told me she understands since she had my older brother when she was 16. She told me this wasn’t the life she wanted for me but she said she’d guide me through it. She asked me what I wanted to do with the baby and I told her I wanted to keep it. Based on the math she did in her head,she thinks I’m 4 months pregnant but we aren’t sure, she’s going to call in for an appointment in the morning. As for the senior I was talking to,my mom and I are planning on going to the police station after she plans my appointment. Now I just have to tell my dad,which might be a bit harder than it was to tell my mom since he gets really aggressive when he’s upset and I don’t want him to hurt my baby’s father,even though he hurt me.
I am sorry that this has happened. You do need to see a medical professional to check your health and that of your baby. It is important as you are young. Your life is taking a different direction to what you expected but it will be ok. You will need help though, as babies are tiring. If you can’t face your Mom may be there is another adult family, or a friends family that you can confide in.
As a mother, you maybe shocked at how your mum responds
Yes this will hurt her but she will be more hurt if she finds out some other way
It’s times like this that you see how supportive a motherr can be [hopefully)
Please talk to your mom or if you have a trusted adult, talk to them if you feel that talking to your mom will be hard. They might help you figure out a way to approach your mom about this. Please don’t wait too long though. Your health and the baby’s health are important and need to be taken care of. As for this boy, he took advantage of you. That is not ok. You need to file charges on him. He can say what he wants but in the end, you are only 14/15 he is 18/19!!!! That is not ok at all nor consensual. Please talk to your mom or a trusted adult.
The start of your post is “WHEN I was 14….” How long ago was this? Are you currently pregnant? I’m confused because it sounds like you are, but most of the story like you were telling something that happened in your past.
But, I agree, you need to tell your mom
Your mom will not be mad at you. She may be stressed and shocked when you tell her but please don’t keep hiding this. Chances are your mom will help you out and comfort you. You do have options and you didn’t deserve this to happen.
Your life is not over, you will get through this no matter what direction you go. If you have a good relationship with your mom please tell her tonight
Sweetie non of this is your fault !! You were taken advantage of by a predator!
Please talk to a mom or another trusted adult that can fo with you to your mom.
Your mom maybe stressed but she will want to be there with you and how to decide what to do .
You need to be seen by a doctor and having your mom with you will be so much better for both of you .
I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through this for this long alone.
Please do talk to your mom!
Hugs and love to you sweetie !!
I think you have to think about how you would feel.. if the child you’re carrying (if you decided to keep ) felt like they couldn’t come to you if they went through something like that in the future .. how might that make you feel?.. but also you should talk to someone you trust . If you have a decent relationship with your mom I truly feel like she would do all she can because she loves you and has experienced a few things from making mistakes of her own ,like every human does . But you’re already being responsible, and taking action just by this post , unfortunately I’ve experienced men like that at a young age too and it’s truly shitty how evil some people can be . But you will come out stronger from this and wiser and hopefully he gets what he deserves and doesn’t do this to anyone else . You’re in my thoughts love and I hope everyone gave you some good insight on your next step !
Hang on, you said you were 14. Are you still 14 and are saying you’re pregnant?
You are going to have to tell someone, anyone you trust that’s an adult. Do you have a teacher, an aunt, friends mum that will listen and support you? If so you need to tell them and they can tell your mum if you can’t.
Or you send your mum a message/letter. Your mum will be shocked but there’s something you really need to listen to…
You’re 14, you cannot consent and the person who did this is over 18 so they’re an adult. Do you know what this means? It’s statutory rape.
Do not blame yourself or feel ashamed. How far do you think you are in weeks if you’re starting to show?
Please go and tell someone, you need support and can’t do this alone.
You start out saying “when I was 14” but by the end of the post you’re implying that you’re still 14, which is it?
Why did you start with ‘when I was 14’… if you are now 14 in the present? Utterly confusing.
i can already hear her calling the law on him for rape and sex with a minor. He has prison time to look forward too.
Please tell your mom. Explain. How you felt, say you’re sorry. But do tell your mom. You need help, and only an adult can do it.
Oh honey !!!!! So sorry you’re caught up in this situation. Let me ask two questions first . What type of relationship do you have with your mom/family? What state do you live in?
I’m sorry this happened to you. You have to now deal with issue. You need to tell your mom and understand that you have options. You can give the child up for adoption. There at are tons of people who have the s desire and means to raise this child.
As a mom of 2 daughters, tell her. She is going to be crushed. BUT.. she will be ok. You will be ok. I would also encourage you to reach out to local resources in your area to help you with whatever your decision is. You need medical care for you and your baby. Please talk to her.
Mugwort tea. If your mom wont help you love please get rid of that fetus.
Adoption is always a loving option
I’m a father of two daughters, and no matter what problems they face, I expect them to come to me or their mother. That’s what we’re here for. Even if we get angry, hurt, or upset, we live to be there for our children — to protect them, to help them through their problems, and if we can’t fix things, at least to carry the burden with them.
Also, someone older than you manipulated you. That’s an extremely despicable thing to do, and there needs to be consequences for it. You may still have feelings for him and not want anything bad to happen to him right now, but if no one stops him, he’ll keep doing this to other girls who are too young to protect themselves.
Please talk to your parents.
Hunny, you need to tell your mom.. it’s going to be so scary & she might be angry but I promise you she is not going to be angry AT you but what happened to her baby girl. ❤️🩹
My daughter called me one day. Which was weird because I would be seeing her in about a hour.
She told me she was pregnant.
I’m normally very reactive (ADD) but I paused and said. I love you and I’m behind you and will help with any decision you decide to make.
Long story short. I have a beautiful amazing grandson
Tell your momma girly. I have a 14 yr old. We parents get mad but we get over it. You are her child. She just wants to protect you. I’m not sure what she will want to do with the baby but she isn’t going to stop loving you honey. Also being a nurse you need proper healthcare while you’re pregnant. We all make mistakes sweet child. It is human. How we handle the consequences and outcomes is what matters. Tell your momma
listen everyone the first part of the text says it was when she was 14, so does that mean its a typo or shes talking about tht shes 14 now?
Friend, I am so sorry you are going through this. I know it’s hard. I know it’s scary.
I had my baby last year at 30 with my husband, and I still didn’t know how to tell my parents. I felt 14 and scared.
You gotta tell your mom. She’s going to be mad or maybe disappointed, but she loves you. She’s going to help. She is going to be there for you. You need to tell her the entire thing. Tell her you lied to her, and you were with the 18 yr old. This is serious, tell her you told him stop, and he didn’t. You told him about the pregnancy and he called you a liar and a trapper. You and your mother need to go to the police and the Dr.
If you’re showing, that means you’re probably over 12 weeks- you need to go the the OBGYN soon. They will be able to tell you how far along you are and what options you have and help care for you.
I don’t know where you live- my area has programs, many in the schools, for teens who are pregnant and/ or parenting. You may want to see if there is anything like in your area. Often times they can help you broach the subject with a parent. Do you have a teacher or social worker you trust- they can often help, as well. I’m a teacher and I’ve had to help kids several times have this hard conversation just of being pregnant- you have a whole other layer of abuse added. You definitely need to tell your mom. I wish I could give you a hug right now and help you through it!
Poor baby, hopefully youre in canada where you can take care of it you know…
Oh Sweetie!
I’m so glad you told your Mom and you have her support. Being a Momma myself, I couldn’t imagine my child trying to navigate this alone😫
Next step:
Add his address here so we can go say ‘hi’. Kidding…(kind of).
Please go and tell your mom everything. Don’t delay at all. Initially everything will seem too harsh. Your mom would need some time to process all this and you need to be understanding to give her some space to let her emotions out.
Don’t be afraid of your mom. She wants best for you
Please talk to a trusted adult. If not your mom, a teacher, neighbor, aunt, friend’s mother, nurse at highschool.
There are lots of resources. You have choices to make but there is help. But you have to let people know who can help you.
Mom may be angry. But at him. Because you were assaulted, and taken advantage of. That was not fair. She may want him punished.
Focus on seeking help. Consider strongly taking advice from older folks who have experience.
I know what you feel is scary. You can face it. It will get better.
You have to talk to your mom.. please darling. I know it’s hard. But do it please. You have so many people supporting you from the side lines. I will literally send you stuff if you need it.. like pick up at your post office kinda thing. But you need to tell mom sweet girl.
Tell your mom. I know it’s going to be difficult, and you’re very scared right now. You have options though, and you need your mom’s support. You don’t have to carry any of this by yourself, sweetie. You don’t.
I’m going through this with my own daughter. No pregnancy, but she was also groomed and abused and it went on for years. I have told my kids over and over if they ever need an abortion I will be here to take them and hold their hand through it, just like my mom did for me many years ago.
You are not alone. My inbox is open, and your mom will absolutely want to be there for you through this. You were groomed and sexually assaulted. You have no fault in this. Sending you hugs 💕
He can 100% and 100% should go to jail for this. You’re a victim. I am sorry this happened to you. Definitely a fucked situation.
Tell your mother so that you guys can make the best decision for you. She will be upset, but she’s an adult and a proper decision needs to be made. Having a child is not easy and your life will never be yours again and you are very young. Tell your mother after you read this if you haven’t already. Good luck and be blessed.
ok im only a year older lol, but i think you should tell her because she’s gonna find out eventually and you’ll want her to know before it’s too late and baby if you know she’ll understand the situation then tell her and make sure she knows how it happened
firstly, what happened is not your fault. he shouldn’t have even pursued you because you’re a child and he is an adult. he is not a good person and i’m so sorry you had to go through that.
coming from a mother who was so involved with trying to just give my brother and i a good life, i didn’t want to stress her out with things happening in my life because i thought i could figure it out by myself. i was raped at 15 by a 17 year old guy and didn’t tell anyone for 6 months. i was ashamed i let it happen. eventually, the depression and shame was too strong and i told my mom. she was there for me while i dealt with it mentally.
at 18 i was raped again by a 20 year old and the morning after i was freaking out and immediately called my mom. she literally stopped a plane from taxiing to come be there with me.
recently, i had found out i was pregnant at 22 and the first person i called was my mom. she helped me sort my emotions out and decide what i wanted to do.
long story short, your mom is your mom. you are her baby. she is going to want to help you. she may get more stressed, but hon, she’s going to be stressed more that she didn’t know sooner. you are only a child and you need an adults help with this. it will be okay. any anger she may have or fear or whatever is temporary—this pregnancy can be life changing and you need someone in your corner every step of the way no matter what happens.
please please talk to her. you also have so much support on this thread and are not alone. but we don’t know you. your mom knows you and your mom may have her own stories that she hasn’t shared with you but it can help.
i believe in you and support you. you are not alone and it wasn’t your fault. you are strong but it’s okay to need help. best of luck hon💜
Wait are you 14 now or was this in the past?
Talk to your mom, you’re going to need all the support system you can get. It’s hard being a parent, and I can’t imagine being one at 14….I’m so sorry you were taken advantage of. He should have stopped when you said to.
So much emotion felt here, Please know everything will be ok. What was done to your mind,body and soul by the male you speak of, was completely preditory of him. None of this is your fault! I have read almost every comment here and I am moved to say this- This discussion and advice given could not be anymore on point and full of so much support!!!! We as woman NEED this more and more!!!! Every single person, whether commenting or not, has experienced some type of circumstance that evokes the raw emotion that stems from the need and desire to be both LOVED and supported- no matter what! I’m beyond amazed and quietly tearful- this is an extremely delicate situation that your young body,mind and soul will one day be healed from…..To have this be true and to receive proper medical/emotional and possibly legal support, turning to your Mom with honesty & openness AND allowing her to help you, will be needed. As a Mom myself, I have literally said to my Daughter,” We both have certain feelings, emotions and of course opinions that may be different from each other. I need to be able to feel what I’m feeling as your Mom.” The honesty part is beyond important and I know confessing that you weren’t as honest as you could have been, will be tough. This is still not your fault! Lots of hugs to you & please update us with what you are comfortable sharing/able to share. You will be more than ok and your strength as a young woman already shows!! ♥️♥️♥️♥️
You need to tell your mother. It’s your mother. She is going to want to help you, and you were groomed. You didn’t know what he planned on doing and you have to have an abortion before a certain time. If you choose to keep it that’s your choice but I would highly advise against it. You are not even the person you’re meant to become yet and children are a lifelong commitment. As someone who was conceived in high school, for yourself and the child. Please do what is best for you and that kid.
Hey I know most comments say tell your mother but I never had the best relationship with my mother so I still have tons of near death (near life in your case) experiences that she knows nothing about I’m not sure where you’re from but an abortion is the best thing you can do for yourself bc nobody has life figured out at 14, focus on school and/or work try traveling to your nearest pro choice state good luck!
Please talk to your mom. I’m so sorry you’re going through this and you def need support. This isn’t something you should be holding in and trying to navigate alone. Go to your mom, it’ll all be ok
Shit child. I mean, this guy definitely groomed you and if you told him no and he kept going I hate to tell you that’s rape dear. He raped you and impregnated you. I’m so horribly sorry. I’ve been through SA and was impregnated as well. I went the herbal abortion route. It sucked and was painful and emotional but it worked.
You definitely have to tell your mom. What state are you in?
Fake story like you said when you were 14 then at the end said u showing.
I know it’s scary but you have to tell your mom or at least a trustworthy adult I know it hurts to think about the trauma but you have to tell someone what happened to you wasn’t okay
Talk to your mom and pursue charges on him
Please please please tell your mother…whatever it is, parents know what to do best when it comes to their children
She’s gonna find out one way or another I mean she can’t whoop a pregnant person
Your mom will be your best ally here. I know you don’t want to but she is the one that will help you and help comfort you. You need your mom and she wants to be there for you no matter what, I promise.
Hey you don’t have to have the baby if you don’t want to. Make sure that’s your decision not hers.
You should’ve stole a “day after” pill. Talk to your mom. Be smart and get an abortion.
You need to talk your Mom. Explain just like you explained it here.
The father is on the hook for 50% of this. You and your Mom will need to talk to him (and likely his parents) soon.
I know where and with whom my 14 year old is at all times…. Like how does this even happen??
I’m sorry this happened. First- stop hanging out with the guy. You knew you shouldn’t have been- it felt wrong- you should have trusted your instincts. They won’t let you down- listen to yourself so you can protect yourself. You’re still a kid- I get you’re 14- but you are a kid. I was you at 14- with a guy who was 24. I thought I was grown at the time. When I was older- when I was 24- I could see how wrong it was and I wish someone would have said to me what I’m saying to you. Lastly- you have to tell your mom. What he did to you was statutory rape because of the age difference – and since you told him you wanted him to stop- it’s is rape. Tell your mom- or show her what you wrote here and tell her after she reads it that it was you that wrote it. Your mom will know what to do about the pregnancy and the guy. I’m sorry you had to go through this. No one should. But you need help and you need to heal. You need an adult to help you. If not your mom- can you talk to your dad or another trusted adult? You really do need to talk to someone that’s an adult and let them to help you. As a mom I can tell you she will be heartbroken- but more so that she didn’t protect you when you needed her to. So let her do that now.
You have the biggest mountain ahead of you. (I know that doesn’t sound reassuring, and is probably not what you want to hear, but it’s true) You absolutely *have* to tell your mom. If you have a confidant (a friend, other family-member, or other trusted adult) you can tell, tell them; and ask them to help you tell your mom. This I’d say is necessary, no matter what. Your mother is going to find out, and immensely painful and embarrasing as it may be to tell her, letting her find out on her own is Guaranteed to be much, much, worse.
Now, if you want some more advice; If it is at all possible for you where you live, once you have told your mother – get scheduled for an abortion. You say yourself, that you’re not ready to be a mother. Also you’re 14. That tells me everything I need to know, to tell you, that an abortion is far and away the best choice for you.
Like I said in the beginning – this is a huge mountain to climb, but you *can* do it.
Edited to say:
Obviously, you are not to blame for happened to you. But that’s a seperate issue, that will probably will need to be dealt with, but it does you no good to think about that right now.
I’m so sorry this happened to you. You were raped. I hope you have a community to support you. Please seek out any and all resources available to you. Hotlines, crisis pregnancy centers and yes your parents. Also, this isn’t your fault at all. Even if you were at his house, an 18 year old should NEVER engage in sexual behavior with a 14 year old. The fact that you said no just reinforces that. I would recommend that you not only get pregnancy support but also rape survivor support. RAINN is a good contact.
You are blessed to have a mom who is understanding. Not all do. I am sure the way you told her helped too. Being a teen mom isn’t the end of the world. I wish you an easy pregnancy, and your folks form a close circle of support.
If he is 2 years older than you, especially when he is legally an adult, he will be charged with a sex crime just like if a 50 year old man raped you. You were too young and inexperienced to know that sex is all he wanted. He is so stupid not to know to wear a condom when he knows he was your first sexual partner. He “trapped” himself. Even if he denies it, they will do a DNA test on the baby. So sorry. I wish you well. Make the decision that is the best for your family. If you decide to terminate, I would go to his parents and make them pay for it.
Abuzz will send you free abortion pills if you cannot afford them. Any state.
Do you have a good relationship with your mom? You’re going to have to tell her at some point. I’m sorry. I went through something similar when I was your age. I’m 44 now and have kids your age.
I hope your mom is there for you with whatever you decide to do and I hope you live in a state where abortion is legal if that is what you want.
Please tell your mother. Explain what happened, and honestly babes… it’s gonna sound harsh but, that adult man r-ped you. He coerced you into it and didn’t stop after you asked him to. He groomed you. Please tell someone.
He’s using manipulation to make you think that you’re somehow in the wrong, when in reality you were being abused. You’re just a child, and he knows better.
An adult man s-xually abused you, and now he’s gotten you pregnant. You need your mother’s help.
I know all of that is harsh, but it’s the reality of the situation. Allow yourself to cry and grieve, it sucks so so so bad. But it’ll be okay in time. But coming from me, someone who’s been through much similar, please tell her. I wish I had my mothers help when I was going through things like that.
Your pregnancy is not going to just go away. You have to tell your mom
Guy sounds like a piece of trash, instead of manning up and taking responsibility he walks away.
First off this man groomed you he knew exactly what he was doing hanging out with a 14 year old. And that’s also statutory rape and regular rape due to you saying no and him continuing and being 14 you are under the age of consent. But the fact that after it happening once you continued to go over there. I know it’s scary to have to tell all this to your mom but your going to have to you can’t hide it forever and if you decide to keep this baby your going to need her help and support. There is always adoption as you feel you are too young to handle this and doesn’t seem like your going to have help from the father. But first things first tell your mom
I wanted this movie on life time 15 years ago
Calling bullshit
When you were 14 you had sex and now your pregnant? Weird way to start this off in a seemingly long ago past tense situation…regardless of my adhd I would definitely confide in family you trust.
Coming from a 25 year old, I had a “scare” back in February. I’ve been with my boyfriend for just shy of a year at that point and I was freaking because my period wasn’t coming. And let me tell you I was Petrified of telling my mom too… EVEN AT 25 YEARS OLD. But I did and I’m so glad I did because she reassured me that we’d figure it out and that’s she’s there for me and she loves me. She wanted to help me and said there’s options and said to just relax and everything will work out.
(I got my period later that day, so I could finally relax)
Long Story Short: Tell her. You can’t keep going on especially at your young age. And tell her what happened to you, you can’t hold onto that either. It might feel scary to tell her, however not telling her and doing it basically alone is worse. You’re just a child yourself, all she would want is to help you and be there for you through this.
That’s what mothers are for.
Good luck, you got this🫶🏻
You made an adult decision so you have to handle it like an adult tell your mom & the boy’s parent(s) & be a woman of your word. Age wise you’re still a child, are you ready to be an adult? Because part of being an adult is being mentally and emotionally strong enough to handle the consequences or rewards of your decisions. You chose which one the child is to you & make the right decision for you and your child. Lastly this will be the hardest thing you’ve ever done in your short life. I hope you have a good support system around you.
The time to tell your mom was when it happen the next best time to tell your mom is now. It’s going to be nerve wrecking but your are risking your health and the baby by not being checked at all. You could end up suffering from pregnancy related issues and not even know. Speak to her first by telling her you lied and thought this bout cared. Tell her his age and how you felt it was wrong but wasn’t sure how to say no or if you should. Then lay the truth on her that you landed down with him how it felt and what happened. After that just wait it’s all you can do.
Please go talk to your mom❤️❤️ this isn’t something you can handle alone, your mom is going to be your biggest support and will help you on what you wanna do with the baby
Tell your mom ASAP sweetheart