What type of people did you surround yourself with, what words did you choose to speak over your mind and life, what behaviors did you cultivate and which ones did you no longer tolerate in yourself? If your confidence was shot, if you were met with a fork in the road – how did you respond to better your life, despite the overarching shadows?
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Learning to live and speak honestly, and acting from my values rather than my insecurities. It seems maybe overly simple and obvious now but it was a major shift in me from 20 to 30 if I really think about it. When I stopped scrambling to be the person I thought “society” thought I “should” be I was able to more authentically honor and develop the person I am and do right by the people I care about. And find the people I needed to be around, including partners who changed my life for the better.
Everything else kind of fell into place downstream of that. I sought work that sustained my focus and motivated me to show up. I found that some people didn’t like me or I didn’t like them (totally ok), and some people I did.
It’s also just very exhausting to pretend and cover up aspects of yourself. I spent so much energy doing that thinking it was necessary and now I’m like damn what a waste.
gratitude – stopped taking people and things for granted. recognized that what you have and who you have can be gone any second. cherish the things you value you in life.
stop making excuses – understand that life is not fair and no one promised that it was going to be fair. whining about things you can’t control is a waste of time. instead focus on the things you can control and make the most out of them. if something in your life is not the way you want it, the solution is not to whine, but to figure out how to fix it
Peace > Principles – i used to be very confrontational and overly concerned with being ‘right’. which led to a lot of dramatic situations and people being annoyed if not enraged at me. Even if I think i am right, it is often better to just let it go
and just general good habits – exercise more, read more books, drink water, save money etc.
Just 6 years ago I was so happy. Now I am a product of what I expected to be. But we live in the real world not some fantasy, you gotta be grateful with what u have.
You’ll only be truly happy when you’re yourself. Don’t pander to ego or what other people think is cool, do what makes you happy. So much today people do whatever to get noticed, what they wear, what they drive, what they do, how they look, it’s all just living a live that is to impress others who actually don’t give a damn. Wear what makes you happy, comfortable, and live YOUR life!