Adhd in a relationship
I am a newly diagnosed 32F with non attentive adhd. I am at a point where my severe depression+anxiety have decreased to almost nothing.
TL;DR my husband never researched anything but believes that certain attitudes are not actually adhd. being extremely forgetful is something normal.
I feel angry and sad that I don’t have support from my husband especially in a culture where ppl already tell me its not true that i have adhd or ‘everyone has adhd nowadays’.
I don’t know how I will tackle and resolve this.
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so like… one thing that’s helped me a lot when I feel all messed up in my head is this weird little thing I do called “room of selves.”
basically, I just sit in silence for a bit. no phone. just me. and then I imagine there’s like this house in my mind with a bunch of rooms. each room has a different “me” in it. like one room has the sad me. another one’s got the super angry me. sometimes it’s the tired one or the me that just wants to give up. whatever I’m feeling at the time.
sometimes I draw the rooms on paper and label them. doesn’t have to be perfect, just scribbles.
then I pick one room to go into in my imagination. I walk in and just look around at what that version of me is doing. sometimes they’re just curled up. sometimes yelling. sometimes staring at a wall doing nothing. I don’t talk to them or try to fix them. I just watch, like I’m some kind of outsider or alien or something. just being there.
some rooms are scary. like, I wanna leave right away. but if I can just stay and sit and not run out, things kinda… soften a little. I feel less afraid. sometimes I go back to the same room a few days in a row and eventually it doesn’t feel as bad.
it’s not magic or anything but it really helps. This little mind trick helps me befriend myself when I’m falling apart.
Anyway I just recorded an audio guide exactly the way I do it, in case it helps anyone – called “Room of Selves” on YT Take care….. :))