Been seeing so many posts asking “am i manly enough”
Im not even sure what this question means. Manly enough for who and what? If you are a male adult you’re a man. Theres no validaton ceremony or masculine checklist/scoreboard. Most people don’t care, they have their own problems and insecurities to deal with. You have to find and validate your self worth and identity from within.
I think men (and people in general) are facing a lot of real external problems but we make them worse by doing stuff like measuring our self worth by external metrics. A big driver of this nonsense is social media that’s literally designed to capture your attention by playing to your insecurities so they can advertise to you. Dont fall for it.
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People seek reassurance.
Men are people.
We are not a monolith.
Life is short, I can’t be spending it worrying about what others think of my manliness. Especially if the “others” are just randos on the internet.
In this particular aspect we are turning into women. You see it with the rise of eating disorders among young men, looksmaxxing, rateme, etc etc. We are developing the internalized issues around appearance that were once seen mostly in women.
Yes. Although I think seeking validation over the internet is a little different then changing your lifestyle to attain validation of strangers you meet in real life. That’s what really bothers me.
Absolutely spot on. The concept of ‘manliness’ now is like a bad RPG where the main quest is getting cucked by your own insecurities. ‘Am I manly enough?’ Sure, if your hobbies include bench pressing imposter syndrome and avoiding eye contact in public toilets.
Agree, but I’ve seen how society treats out of shape men. No amount of self acceptance is going to overcome that.
Youre basically invisible, and treated so poorly. People can claim they are nice to everybody but this is just not the case in reality.
Be comftorable in your skin, but its not an excuse to be out of shape or not taking care of yourself and others