I think it’s kind of sad how we celebrate and encourage teenagers to suffer for the rest of their lives for being mean or a jerk. I understand that bullying has long-term effects, but it’s just so strange to see people who believe that others living a miserable life is justifiable karma. I see many comments like, “All the popular kids will realize they aren’t as great as they thought and will reminisce about their glory days,” or “All the asocial nerds are the real bullies and will continue to be losers in adulthood,” or variations of this.
High school is just four years of your life, and it doesn’t determine your future. Life is long, and we all learn and mature over time. It’s only a quarter of your life. Life doesn’t end after high school; it continues to evolve. It’s very possible for both the mean jock and the asocial nerd to change—they have plenty of time to do so. Heck, even that guy who peaked in high school can go to therapy, turn his life around, and find his own happiness.
Also, it’s important to recognize that we can all be nice and be jerks; it’s very possible to be both. We all make mistakes; we were teenagers dealing with hormones, and I’m sure we’ve all messed up someone’s day at some point.
Anyway, school doesn’t determine anything, and I would prefer for everyone to find their own fulfillment in life, even the mean kids. It’s strange how some adults are fine with seeing a group of kids have a miserable existence based on what they did during a quarter of their lives.
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Of course almost nothing is ever black and white, but typically assholes tend to just turn into old assholes.
Hahaha
Define mean.
Yes, I can’t seriously hate anyone for what they did in high school. After about ten years it seems almost irrelevant as they likely changed as a person since that time.
Were u a bully or something?
Looking back on my younger days i was pretty nice and caring, but then other times I was a total fucking asshole and I cringe at some of the things I said and did. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realised that that’s a pretty universal feeling. We can all be dickheads sometimes.
I love to see people who were bullies change for the better and live good lives.
I also love to see karma bite the others in the ass who didn’t change and are still awful people.
Unless someone drove someone to suicide or something and didn’t seek help or have remorse.
What makes you think they’re suffering? Between the bully and the kid being bullied, I‘m going to side with the bullied kid. That said, I’ve never had to deal with adult bullies.
This is a bad take…I’m sorry but I’ll always hate the bitch who got into contact with my abusers and spread that shit around the school.
If I didn’t know the person in high school, I wouldn’t care what they did in high school if it conflicted with what I know of them as an adult.
But are you saying that people who did know the person in high school, including the targets of bullying, should put that aside because “we’re all adults now”? Because no. Actions have consequences, and if you’re an asshole to someone, there’s no requirement for them to ever develop warm fuzzy feelings for you.
Sometimes the bully “peaks” in HS. Thats karma perhaps. Ive seen that a lot.
Until they make restitution, they are still bullies.
Just adult, nasty powerful ones.
Like some presidents.
Unfortunately, we don’t all learn and grow over time. If a high school bully grows and realizes “wow, I was a total shit when I was in high school” and changes so they’re not an AH adult, that’s great, and a win for everyone. But some people are young assholes who grow into old assholes who learn nothing and don’t ever grow out of it.
Clearly you are suffering from being mean in highschool.
This sub is turning into r/rant Junior.
You should watch ‘A silent Voice’