I have a new bf and I noticed on his iphone banner notifications that there was a logo with a green “F” and it was some kind of porn livecam description. Does anyone have an idea of what app it could be?
Also, since we have only been dating a month, he seems pretty kinky (sexting, asking for my thong, etc). I went to his place for the first time and he had sex toy cleaner and lube in the bathroom in his house and didnt care to hide it. It kinda freaked me out because we havent had sex just yet. He even said he bought something for us both to enjoy when we do have sex. In my prior relationship, my ex had a half sex doll so im kind of traumatized from that and not wanting repeat patterns in this new relationship. I dont mind the lube and cleaner at my bfs but then seeing the notifications on his phone im like is there something else I need to look out for? Thoughts? I do want someone who is open in bed as well so I dont necessarily mind the kinkiness as it really gets me going. The whole phrase “good girl” is new to me as well and I dont know how to take it honestly.
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Could be Fetlife. Honestly, dudes like this give me the biggest ick mainly because my ex was like this in the beginning of our relationship, being super open and kinky right out the gate and early on the relationship. He was on Fetlife too, and although it didn’t bother me much to start with, I should’ve taken it for the big red flag that it was because he turned out to have a massive porn addiction and couldn’t go a few hours without looking at porn online – instagram, Reddit, Fetlife, Twitter, Facebook, like every platform you could think of he was looking at porn on it.
I’m not saying your guy is like that, but if he’s getting porn notifications, it’s a red flag.
If your BF is getting livecam porn notifications, I’d be running in the opposite direction!
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I can tell you’re already uncomfortable. If you really like him, sit him down for an honest talk. Set your boundaries and if he doesn’t respect them? Run, and quickly. For me, it would be a hard pass from the “I bought us something fun to use.” Like, he doesn’t even know what you’re into! Further more, personally, don’t start assuming we are going to hook up or plan it before we talk about if it’s heading that way! This gives me the creeps honestly, but like I said, if you like him, you could always try and conversation and see how it goes before deciding.
One thing is for certain, I would NEVER trust a man who’s into the weird “good girl” crap. Seems like he just gets off to degrading women.
Yeah he’s a weirdo. The “good girl” thing is safe under the context that you enjoy being praised. These things are fun to learn when you are with a guy who has a balanced relationship with sex. Why would you wanna be praised by a guy who is giving you red flags or being weird about sex?
You can be very kinky and not so straightforward and loud about it. People who are actually healthily into kinks are very communicative about boundaries and respect.
I’m traumatized from some broad who tried to peg me.
Fansly? its like an alternate to OF.
He knew you were coming over, so he will have cleaned up his place. Leaving the sex toy cleaner and lube out was intentional, and in my opinion, a weird move. Strange guy for sure.
Without shame or judgment please talk with him about your experiences, expectations, kinks and non sexual things, ask about his in equal.
Get comfortable talking about the uncomfortable, otherwise you won’t know if your on the same book let alone the same page.
Communication is key.
TBH I’d be surprised if I didn’t find a dildo orr sex toy in my partners things (not actively looking). Getting to that point where I use those toys on her is amazing, I don’t get butt hurt if I can’t finish her (toys help).
Sex is one of the major components to a relationship and being able to talk about it is a great thing for a healthy relationship.
Be ok with setting boundaries and expectations and respecting your partners.
You already sound uncomfortable, may be best to not continue seeing this person based on past trauma you have.
Anyone that bombards you with their fets and kinks right out of the gate without having a healthy discussion about expectations and boundaries for both parties is a massive red flag. Honestly girl I’d run for it, no man is worth your discomfort.
I’d be out of there.
You’re more of a vanilla kind of person, you’ll probably want to steer clear of that guy. Because he has the biggest dildo collection you’ll ever seen in real life.
Were you at his place when you seen the notification?
He left them out on purpose.
If he wanted to talk about sex things, he shouldn’t just jump straight in with a new partner. Those are things you discuss together after a while.
He’s creepy. Run.
He’s new and not fo youu. He’s newww
It’s giving porn/sex addict.
Yeah, it seems off
Why do people judge? How about talk and get to know him more before you classify him as some kind of weird pervert… if he turns out to be the one thing you feared the most well whatever happens after that point is completely up to you