Just wanted to get that off my chest . Even though my ex and I have been broken up past couple years , they just announced their marriage and still it still cuts like a cord . These people hurt me and get to have the perfect marriage and house with kids while I’m still alone trying to figure out why I’m not good enough for anyone.
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I get it—seeing them move on like that when you’re still carrying the weight of what happened can feel like a gut punch. It’s not fair that they get to live this picture-perfect life while you’re left picking up the pieces.
But here’s the thing: their happiness (or whatever they’re projecting) doesn’t define your worth. You’re not “not good enough”—you’re just on a different path, one that hasn’t led you to your people yet. Healing isn’t linear, and comparing your behind-the-scenes to someone else’s highlight reel will always leave you feeling shortchanged.
For what it’s worth, you’re allowed to grieve what you lost, even years later. But don’t let their chapter make you forget that yours is still being written. The right people won’t make you question whether you’re enough—they’ll show up and prove it. Hang in there…
Don’t worry about them, they have their lives, and you have yours. Live your own life, be happy with yourself. If you want, go out and find that person. It might take a while but it’s fine. Life goes on.
Their lives won’t be perfect. They are normal people and will have their fights and their lows. They hurt someone close to them to get together and probably doubled down to make it work.
It’s okay to be alone. You should focus on you and what makes you happy. No one is going to treat you better than you. Don’t think negatively about yourself – you will find someone. We’re all just bumbling around on this space rock trying to make sense of it all.
Just work on loving yourself ❤️
I used to feel bad that I met my husband late in life. But now I realise we have so much more to experience and discover together than other couples do (the ones who met in highschool).
There’s a different timeline for everyone. Enjoy your own company and make your company enjoyable for whoever comes into your life next.
Are they blocked?
don’t give them power over you, love always return in another way. a wedding is just a glorified party and doesn’t mean a happily ever after ending. stop calling her a friend.
Part of it is your mind set. If you go into relationships and dating thinking you aren’t good enough, the relationship cannot grow in a healthy way. You need to be confident in who you are and have the patience to find someone you are compatible with, someone with the same goals in life.