How do men get better/last longer in bed?

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How do men get better/last longer in bed?

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  1. LesBoisduMonde Avatar

    kiss every man you see duh

  2. ElJefeTurdBurger Avatar

    Go deeper where the head of your wang isn’t going in and out of the vag. The top of your dick is filled with millions of nerve endings and the most sensitive part. The less you stimulate it the longer you last.

  3. Ok_Method_988 Avatar

    A woman being interested in him plays a factor. 

  4. heariam7 Avatar

    Plenty of exercise and spank that monkey before you go out on a date. That’ll help you last longer!

  5. DavosLostFingers Avatar

    Improve your oral game

  6. AdorableTime8937 Avatar

    You jerk off in the bathroom of the bar/club

    Ask her age again in the club and shes like 23

    Then again in the cab/uber and shes like 21

    Then once more at home and shes like 19

    Then don’t ask again

  7. XaviTheZombie Avatar

    Stop jerking off/watching porn that helps significantly makes you care more about real sex

  8. throwawayur7rash Avatar

    Start 👏 Going 👏 Down 👏.

  9. Step-Daddi9 Avatar

    Think of someone ugly

  10. CivilPerformance8312 Avatar

    Go down on her and do it well and she won’t care how long you last cause she got hers

  11. Cutiebytheblock Avatar

    Watermelon, bananas strawberries before sex or Ashwagandha. Will have you hard as rock

  12. Ringlovo Avatar

    Hims has a 2 in 1 pill for early climax which is tl tadalafil + a small amount of ssri. 

    Went from finishing in under 5 minutes to being able to go an hour . Seriously.  Like robot dick. It’s fucking great. No hesitation,  no holding back. Some of the best money I’ve ever spent. 

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  14. GatsbyCode Avatar

    More sex helps

  15. Cutiebytheblock Avatar

    Take breaks. Caress her if you feel your nut coming. Pull out, take a break and kiss her touch her keep the mood going then keep pounding

  16. Defiant-Unit6995 Avatar

    You need to actually get good at getting women off with oral and your fingers. If you cum fast that’s fairly normal especially when you are really attracted to the girl. But if you make her cum before you actually fuck, it matters less and less how long you last per orgasm you gave her during foreplay.

    Tips are start with gentle pressure on the clit with your tongue slow rhythmic vertical licking maybe some circular rotations. Do that for awhile and feel her body language out to judge how into it she is. As she gets more into it, slip two fingers in curl them upwards into her g spot and apply more pressure to her clit with your tongue while massaging her g spot with your finger in the same rhythm as you are licking her clit with your tongue. Keep the rhythm steady and consistent most girls will cum from that. the other 10% you just need to talk to them and figure out what exactly gets them off don’t be shy.

  17. wkndboozing Avatar

    Lifting weights or exercise in general.

  18. burger_boy_bob Avatar

    Lasting longer isn’t really a thing or issue unless you are very premature. Like people try and put times on it but sex starts with foreplay and can end with it too.

    I love it when my wife has a shuddering orgasm on my dick but there’s plenty of times where some aftercare is required or desired. And there’s always round two.

    Just relax and enjoy yourself, and don’t be selfish when you’re done.

    You get better in bed by understanding what your partner wants, likes, needs. It’s about communication.

  19. tetragrammaton19 Avatar

    Breath. Deep breaths. Focus on breathing and not the feeling. Also push out with your dick, like you’re trying to pee as fast as possible.

  20. tailnich Avatar

    Breath control. From the time you pull your Johnson out of your pants. Breathe in slowly through your nose and out of your mouth. Vary the speed and depth of your stroke. Pause when your get close.

  21. DarkFox81 Avatar

    Breathing. Practice breathing and slowing your heart rate as long and slow as you can. Think about a super old fatty granny. Unless you’re into that Ig. Something that grosses you out basically.

  22. Defiant_Abalone_7161 Avatar

    Its weird for me. Sometimes it sensitive but its a good enjoyable sensitive

  23. Minimum-Platform518 Avatar

    Make sure she comes first

  24. SugarDelicious1434 Avatar

    Lasting longer definitely is not the same as getting better, just want to clarify that

  25. Annual_Ad6999 Avatar

    Pace yourself during the beginning.

  26. ChivlrousPants Avatar

    Practice edging! You dont need to cum to be satisfied in bed

  27. pm_me_ur_boobies6969 Avatar

    r/AskRedditAfterDark

  28. H2Osexual Avatar

    Dry dickin your hand will make you less sensitive.
    Jerking off the morning of, also helps.

  29. Master_Air_8485 Avatar

    Cardiovascular exercise and male kegels have worked fairly well so far.

  30. cryptodog11 Avatar

    The same way you get to Carnegie Hall…practice!

  31. Dmunman Avatar

    Have many orgasms a day. Like an athlete training. Worked for me.

  32. NeuroguyNC Avatar

    Age and experience. And you have to teach him what you like.

  33. sam_the_beagle Avatar

    Turning 65 worked for me.

  34. RoboShinji Avatar

    Cardio and eating well for blood and oxygen flow. Recent experience so it isn’t overwhelming. You’ve gotta last 5 minutes at least to numb it up so you don’t, you know, do that thing, that’s imo why foreplay is so important.

  35. Heavy_ninja39 Avatar

    Don’t get fat, have good cardio. When i was 40kg heavier the fat wall of my groin and the size of my belly meant my dick spent more time in the entry way where the head would just be rubbed. All the sensitivity is in that spot so i would last fuck all. Fast forward to now and i ride, gym, swim and a. My gut is no longer a barrier so my penis goes further in where the head is being rubbed less and b. My cardio fitness is massively improved and i was shocked at how long i could go without getting exhausted.

    Also get good at foreplay and oral. When i was fat i ised oral and foreplay to get my partner to orgasm, that way i could giver her another one during the brief time sex lasted.

    Now sometimes for a little more fun, i pop half a viagra, use a silicon ring and a little desensitisation cream on my head. I have the viagra as now i am older and a few health issue i sometimes struggle to stay hard. But i dont need it everytime. I usually just use it when i know me and the mrs are both wanting a gooooood night.

  36. chodegainz Avatar

    Exercise, especially HIIT
    Get enough sleep
    Don’t be overweight
    Reverse Kegels
    Learn breathwork and start meditating
    A tiny bit of alcohol always does the trick
    Get good at head

  37. theoreticaljerk Avatar

    Get depression. Get on meds. Profit?

  38. tryinandsurvivin Avatar

    Slow down, pace yourself, use cock rings. Using your hands helps big time, tease her more and if she has toys they are your ally not your enemy.

  39. notnot_randomuser Avatar

    Switch positions when you’re close. This kinda resets it and you do it over and over until you can last until eternity.

  40. drippy_dik Avatar

    Well, I started thinking about my mother to last a big longer. But it backfired spectacularly, and now because I’ve become so accustomed to thinking of my mother during sex, I can’t think of my mother without getting horny.
    I can’t even hug her anymore without getting rock hard

  41. Organic-Lab240 Avatar

    Those are two different things. If you do the first, no need for the latter

  42. Nikadaemus Avatar

    Lots of foreplay, the longer you are hard before diving in, the longer you should last

    Get them there with 🖕 and GSpot to warm up, make sure they O

    I find cowboy can help slow things down,  

  43. army2693 Avatar

    Think of work. Not your coworkers, unless you don’t find them hot.

  44. SneakyTactics Avatar

    Stop watching porn.

    Get in good physical shape (do regular cardio/running).

    Add more foreplay (both good for lasting and getting her going).

    Add oral to the routine and get good at it. That way even if you do nut early she’ll have a consolation prize.

  45. UltimateHeatBlast Avatar

    Jerk off before seeing them. Works every time

  46. Formal-Text-1521 Avatar

    Masturbation is the key. Watch whatever gets you on a roll bring yourself right to the edge and stop. Go soft. Repeat. Do this at least five times for every session. Do at least five sessions a week. Within a couple months you will have full control.

  47. AlienFromVarginha Avatar

    First intimacy. It is super difficult to have good sex if you mind and body are not 200% sure that’s where you wanna be. This has a million reasons, feeling insecure, feeling that the other side is insecure, problems at home, etc. to me this is first and foremost.
    Second is avoiding over masturbating. Depending on your age and porn addiction it can really kill your mind and body connection.
    Last, keep it real — is that person you wanna be having sex with?

  48. unclemattyice Avatar

    Practice, practice, practice.

    It helps to have an understanding, patient, communicative partner.

    If you are seriously struggling with premature ejaculation, there are medications you can get prescribed and shipped to your door in about 15 minutes of effort, on several online men’s sexual health apps.

    I won’t name drop any specific service at the risk of being called a shill, but let me tell you, there are medications available for a wide range of sexual health issues, they have negligible side effects, and yeah.

    There’s no shame in taking a private, online survey about your sexual health issues, and letting an AI doctor prescribe you the correct medication for the issue (with a real doctor’s rubber stamp)

  49. az0303 Avatar

    1 pump per minute

  50. GingerPrincess666 Avatar

    (Re)search the A-spot

  51. TooSexyForThisSong Avatar

    Thinking of disgusting things.

  52. Kyubi_game Avatar

    Get in shape, wear a condom, or take a second to switch positions when you get close. Any woman reading this ever had a dude flip you around to 10 positions real quick? yeah its cause he was getting little breaks to try not to nut XD

  53. kaikoda Avatar

    dont try. just be happy you can get off, says the guy with deathgrip, i might last for hours, but no happy ending :C

  54. GrandUnhappy9211 Avatar

    Think about baseball.

  55. crazyhappy93 Avatar

    Mantra: Margeret thatcher naked on a cold day! Margeret thatcher naked on a cold day!

  56. Grobfoot Avatar

    It’s mental techniques that make the biggest difference IMO… my secret technique:

    I mime out typing song lyrics onto a keyboard and it works really well. Just like sorta flexing the finger you’d use to type the specific key, and then a song to give you words to type. Insane how effective this is and I haven’t heard of it anywhere.

  57. leftrightandwrong Avatar

    Breathe. There’s a tendency to hold one’s breathe which causes everything to build up. I think this is also partially and conversely where the whole choking thing comes in for women.

  58. boot2skull Avatar

    Margret Thatcher on a cold day

  59. Kafrizel Avatar

    Do kegals. Walk min 20 mins a day. Stretch your hips and groin. Slow down during sex, use a lube that deadens things if youre in a relationship. Practice mental control too. More sex will make you last longer too but ymmv.

  60. LittleBear42 Avatar

    Kratom. Piped a girl for an hour the other night, then had her try to furiously j my peen and still couldn’t nut

  61. pup5581 Avatar

    Cialis helped the duration for me