Especially about accepting your looks, but it can be about anything else you struggle(d) with.
Thanks a lot in advance and I’m rooting for you!
How did you learn self love and self acceptance?
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Especially about accepting your looks, but it can be about anything else you struggle(d) with.
Thanks a lot in advance and I’m rooting for you!
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I’m still working on a lot of those things, but, frankly, the internet has helped a lot. There are two specific quotes that are sort of tattooed on the inside of my brain:
When it comes to my appearance: “Beauty is not the rent you have to pay to take up space in the world.” I am worthy of existing and living my life even if I don’t stir strangers’ loins. I just…accept how I look, because it’s how I’m always going to look. My body gets me through the world and lets me do the things I need/love to do, and that counts for way more than fitting into a fleeting beauty standard that’s based hugely on racism and misogyny to begin with.
When it comes to myself in general? My mental stuff?: “If beating yourself up worked, it would have worked by now.” It’s still not easy for me to be as kind to myself as I am to the people I care about, but I have gotten a little better about not dwelling on dumb things I’ve done. I don’t know if it’s full-on healthy to just parrot “GOD that sucked and it was dumb but now we know better and now we’re done thinking about it so now think about something ELSE” at yourself, but it’s working for me, so it’s what I’ll continue to do.
But this is what works for me. I’m not offering advice to anyone.
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It became so much easier to like myself once I was out of school and away from the relentless bullying. I started looking at all the things I was bullied for and was like, “It really isn’t that bad. Why did I let that get to me?”
Cutting off toxic relationships, setting boundaries, and therapy! Also just learning about concepts like body neutrality was helpful to get into that mindset.
It comes and goes. But it’s gotten better it also helps that I’ve dropped over 70 lbs so that’s helped , but then my body dysmorphia likes to rear its ugly head.
But I can say I’m doing way better than I was 10-20 years ago. Small progress is still progress.
comparison is the thief of joy so i try not to compare myself to others. i try to focus on things i do like about myself and know that theres always room for improvement
Getting off social media (I think the anonymous nature of Reddit makes it different than IG/TT/FB) was the number one thing that helped me stop comparing myself to others and accept my body and life as I am.