I’ve noticed that some women seem to enjoy when a guy takes charge physically — things like holding their hand, grabbing them playfully, or getting touchy in public. Sometimes, even when they act like they’re resisting, it feels like it’s part of the moment — almost like they want it but don’t want to be too forward about it.
But then, there are also situations where the resistance is real and the girl is clearly uncomfortable. The tricky part is that in both cases, the surface-level reaction might look similar.
As men, how do you personally distinguish between the two? What signs or cues do you look for to know if a woman is genuinely into it or not okay with it?
Nota trying to overthink things but I also want to make sure I’m always being respectful. Curious to hear your thoughts or experiences.
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If you can’t tell DONT ask Reddit and DO ask the girl. Every girl is different, consent is always the same.
Body language is everything. If she’s smiling, making eye contact, and reciprocating touch — it’s likely playful. But if she stiffens, avoids touch, or doesn’t laugh — it’s discomfort. Just communicate and never assume. Consent is cool.”
Read the room, be a good judge of character and know your partner (from experience and from asking directly).
You dont try to distinguish between the two, you ask them.
If consensual non-consent is a thing she’s into then you work out a system so you know whats happening, whats safe to do and how she can communicate genuine non-consent.
You can ask them. Dude. If you’re making women uncomfortable you’re doing it wrong.
I’m a first date, I never invade a woman’s personal space. I wait until she invades mine.
If I want to touch her back or leg, I simply ask something like “I’d really like to touch your leg right now, how do you feel about that.”
Last time I asked that question I got a big smile and a nod.
The biggest secret seems to be that consent IS sexy.
Want to kiss her? Ask to whisper in her ear.
Then tell her exactly what you want to do
If they’re resisting, assume it’s a no. Use your words.
its all tone and body language man. if you cant pick up on it its best to assume she doesn’t like it