I’m a married man (50s) who is friends with a single younger female (late 30s) who I work with. It feels like anytime we have a great hangout and/or conversation she retreats for a few weeks where it feels like even light interaction isn’t cool. The message feels like she doesn’t want to be friends with me anymore. Confusing. It’s a drag because we have many similar interests and I miss her perspectives. I don’t get romantic vibes from her which one person suggested to me, so I’m curious – what this thoughtful group might offer up on what this behaviour suggests or if there’s something I can do. I tend to politely retreat because I respect that. I like my friend and would love it if things were more comfortable.
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Given your post history I think she is probably understandably creeped out by you and not actually your ‘friend’ outside of your head.