Hi, I (29F) am in a relationship with 32M (together shy of a year) and I am struggling to show him intimacy and affection. I have quite a bit going on (medical bills, a new medical diagnosis, new skin allergies, new food allergies, finished school and on the job hunt, two jobs, feeling depressed about getting older) and l’ve gotten a bit overwhelmed over the past few months and I have been struggling to show him affection. I love him so much and I don’t want to lose him. My struggle with showing affection is taking a toll on him and our relationship and I don’t want to lose him éo) I know we haven’t been together long but I truly feel like he is my person and I am willing to do whatever to not lose him.
His love languages are physical touch and quality time (stemming from the lack thereof from his childhood). My love language are acts of service and quality time with a touch of receiving gifts (I am a huge gifter on the side of “just because”)
To me, personally, I attribute it to me trying to work through the new challenges in my life and sometimes I get to a point mentally where I just want to be in my own world/bubble. Just to exist and feel like life is actually worth living. It’s hard for me to show affection when I get to that point be I’m stressing and thinking about everything I have going on and trying to figure out what to do next. I think I’m struggling with adjusting to my life and I’m not doing it well and it’s straining my relationship.
TL;DR
My question is how can I be better at showing my partner affection while I work through the new challenges in my life without overwhelming myself and straining my relationship? Or are there any suggestions of how to create a healthy balance?