This is kind of silly but I am friends with this guy and I always complain to him about past friendships I have had with men who really overstepped and how annoying it is that girls can’t be friends with guys without them catching feelings and doing something stupid. And I knew it would be really ironically frustrating if he ever caught feelings, but he has and I know he can’t entirely help it but I just wish he didn’t have to become the thing I always told him not to be. I just wanted to have a friend who I never had to have an uncomfortable moment with that eventually lead to the end of our friendship.
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You could have sex and get it out of the way
A single straight guy is never “just friends” with an attractive woman. Most married men can’t even pull it off.
I think it’s physically impossible. And if you are a single straight guy and claim that you can be just friends with an attractive woman you’re either actually gay, or a fucking liar.
I think it’s possible, but you have to be like brother and sister in a genuine way.
I have a male best friend. Neither of us are unattractive people. But there’s just no way in hell. Just no. Just ew. And I know he sees me the same way.
I don’t really know why we are like this, but we are.
It has to be that kind of dynamic and it has to be genuine in that way. But it is doable.
Guy don’t want to be your friend. They like you or want to sleep with you. You like having male attention. Thats the dynamic of girl and guy “friends”. I’m certain you would be fuming if you saw him getting close with another girl.
Get used to it, girl.
Men don’t like women. They “fuck zone” us then cry that we “friend zoned” them. If we wanted to fuck, we’d fuck.
I’m sorry, OP 🙁 It’s an awful feeling, wondering whether they ever even saw you as a whole person or if they were just playing the waiting game since the start of the friendship. I don’t have any words of wisdom to offer, but just wanted to comment in support while this post is still recent bc the comments surrounding this topic can get so nasty sometimes. Sending virtual hugs❤️❤️
That is really frustrating. I have a guy friend that I trial dated (before we were friends) right after graduation for like two weeks and it was obvious we weren’t going to work out as partners but made FABULOUS friends. Its been almost 7 years since we went through friend route and he’s never once tried to make it anything more which I greatly appreciate. He’s the only guy friend I’ve ever had who hasn’t tried anything after we agreed on just friends.
You’re not so special to him that he’s willing to just keep you around anymore if he’s not getting what he actually wants. That’s why so many men tell their girlfriends that it’s pretty freakin rare for guy friends to just be friends.
But somehow all these women are such great friends with all these men. You included.
Sorry, but welcome to reality. Are you ready to come to terms with it?
the comments here are so weird. 😭 Like y’all don’t just befriend anyone because u have similar interests?? is everything you do with the opposite gender some scheme for a relationship?? I’m confused.
The majority of my friend group atm is men and we all vibe and smoke and talk about the world and what if scenarios. None of us like each other that way but we do enjoy each others company. It’s not even like a brother or sister connection it’s just genuine “hey I think ur a cool person, let’s do something fun together” n that’s it.
I have been in situations where some of my guy friends caught feelings but they already knew where I stood and that was that. Nothing else, it was never complicated. People just take a close connection with someone in different ways.