I’ve been dating my girlfriend for six months now, and one thing that’s been weighing on me lately is that I still haven’t talked to her about my finances. It’s not that I’m hiding something bad – I actually make around $9K a month and have about $80K saved up. The savings came from a mix of steady work, living below my means, and yeah, a bit of unexpected luck from a sports bet win last year that gave me a nice little boost.
But despite being in a good spot financially, I haven’t brought any of it up with her. Part of me is afraid that talking about money could shift the dynamic in a weird way. I don’t want things to become transactional or for her to feel like there are expectations – or worse, for her to treat me differently because of what I’ve saved.
At the same time, I know money is a huge part of any long-term relationship, and not talking about it might end up causing more problems later. I’m not sure how or when to bring it up, or if six months is still too soon to lay everything out. But it’s starting to feel like I’m hiding a pretty big part of myself.