In the last few days, I’ve felt something not quite right with gf. She just blamed stresses going on in her life.
This afternoon we went for a swim and when we got back she hopped into the shower after me. When i went into the room i noticed left her phone unlocked on the bed. For the first time in my life i looked through someone’s phone and read the messages.
She’s been graphic sexting her boss for months and months. photos and videos Between them. Shes been doing all the chasing from the start.
Although he has sexed back with video and facetime, he has stopped short of any actual sex because he “is her boss and it would be a problem if anyone found out”. Still, she is basically begging him for sex all the time. Only on messages outside of work.
Anyway, I found out this afternoon. I haven’t told her i know. Haven’t been able to sleep at all. I just blamed it on being ill.
I can’t actually bear her lying next to me right now.
But we’re away on short weekend break, and I can’t wait to get home.
We have no kids.
[Note: We have sex often.]
He is an older man. It may be his wild dress sense or some power fantasy or something, but from reading the messages, i feel the thing she is no longer mentally stimulated by me.
she’s put on weight. I still compliment her looks, but I’m guessing she doesn’t feel sexy. looking through the messages, he calls her sexy a lot. On her naked photos, at least.
Im slightly younger than her too, so maybe she’s finding me immature now? She doesn’t say it though. We never row or have big arguments.
My head is scrambled. I just want sleep .
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Update: i finally got 1hr sleep. Couldn’t eat breakfast.
This afternoon started a conversation to see if she would tell me anything, without telling her I know something. She said nothing going on. She is very good at lying, while telling me she’d never be able to get away with lying.
I might wait a few days before telling her what I seen.