I don’t know where to even begin, but I just need to let this out. A few nights ago, I started having chest pain, aching limbs, and couldn’t sleep from the discomfort. It got so bad I had to go to the ER around 1 AM. I tried calling my boyfriend—he didn’t pick up. I had no one else to call.
When I got there, I was told I had to pay $2,500 upfront, and I just couldn’t afford it—I had recently paid $8,000 in college fees. I ended up taking an Uber home because it was too late for the bus. I tried to sleep but couldn’t. I called multiple hospitals until I found one that accepted my insurance—two hours away. That hospital was near to my boyfriend place. I tried calling my boyfriend again. No response. I texted him. Nothing.
I took another Uber to the hospital—it was closed so I had to go to another branch.I had to take a bus to yet another hospital, while in pain. When they asked for an emergency contact, I couldn’t say anyone. Not even him. No one.
They ran tests, took blood, did X-rays. I was terrified. At 10 AM, I got a text from him: “What happened?” That was all. He lived near that hospital and didn’t even offer to come. I was so heartbroken.
Later, I took an Uber home, took the meds, and finally slept. But the next morning, my face was swollen. I still went to work because I need the money. After work, the swelling worsened, and I was having trouble breathing. I went back to that hospital (again, two hours away). Took a bus this time—because I couldn’t afford an Uber.
Again, I was asked for an emergency contact. Again, I had no one. I told my boyfriend I was scared. His reply? “Tell your dad.” That broke me. Completely.
I was given more medications. I was dizzy, itchy, and exhausted. When I was being discharged, they asked how I was going home. I said I’d take the bus. They told me not to—but what could I do? No one was picking me up. No one cared. Not even him.
Now he’s texting me every six hours, like sending weather updates, and asking, “Are you holding a grudge because I didn’t come? I was sick.” No apology. No real care. Just trying to defend his absence.
And yes. It hurts. It hurts so deeply. I needed someone. I reached out. I was vulnerable. And the person who should’ve stood by me… didn’t even show up.
And you know I realized that yesterday that I really didn’t have anyone. And I am on my own ☺️
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You have to consider if you want the person you’re with to treat every emergency like this. He sounds like ex boyfriend material to me.
This should be EX boyfriend. You need someone who you can count on. He isn’t it
I hope you’re feeling better and that your primary physician has been notified of your ER visits and diagnosis, including the follow up reaction and they’re on top of it.
Give yourself a few days to come to terms with your boyfriends’ lack of empathy and what it looks like for your relationship moving forward. I kind of feel like you’ve been given a glimpse into what to expect should it happen again.
I’m sorry this happened to you.
Imagine if you had a child with him and it would just be more of this.
I’ve also been through something like this so my health anxiety wants to ask you what it ended up being. I’ve also been through knowing my partner wouldn’t even take me to the ER even though I took him to and from surgery and took care of him after.
AI written
Your boyfriend is an asshole sorry 🥹 he could have at least apologized. You have every right to feel upset coz imagine what’s gonna happen when one of your kids has a medical emergency. I pray for you Hun, and I hope you feel better soon.
Having literally no one is better than having that heartless loser. I’m sorry for your predicament. I hope you can use this as a strength builder 🫶🏼