My uncle is 36, I’m 14 15 in a couple months but , but this stuff has been going on for a long time but recently it’s been getting kind of bad I think. So there’s a couple of kind of bigger situations that happened, and I’m going to say them
Okay so we had a family gathering and I was alone in the living room and my uncle came in quiet, and I think he shut the door behind him im pretty sure. then he came over to me and got on his knees below where I was sitting, and placed his hand on my thigh and the other on the couch next to my other leg putting his weight on the couch, the whole time really quiet and then he leaned in and placed his forehead on mine, and just stared at me, for a long time, then and he got up after a while and said “I wish my girl was as cute as you” when he was talking about his wife, and btw they have a 6yr old son, and he treats me differently from all the rest of my siblings, and cousins, he sits with me he talks with me, he hugs me he tells me to kiss his cheek he says I’m cute and beautiful, and other stuff.
The other thing that happened was a few days ago when they were over another family gathering , so, he came into my room alone, we were talking, then he became quiet, and I was sitting on my bed and he was standing in front of me, he became quiet and just was staring at me, quietly, and he leaned down and placed his hand under my chin, to probably make me look up at him, but I stayed looking down because I’m shy, so then he placed his hand on my arm, and leaned down further (because he’s almost 6’0 I’m sitting on a bed and I’m 5’0 or 5’1, idk anyway)then he kissed my cheek and his face lingered on my face, he pulled away then looked at me face to face quietly still, then my cousin walked in she sat down staring, and he backed away and he gave her the quickest peck on the cheek, ans started being loud and outgoing how he always is.
I don’t know if this is bad.. or normal, I don’t know I don’t know, but the thing that makes me think it’s bad or the weirdest thing is the way he stares at me, and quietly a lot. But I don’t know. I don’t know. I don’t know:(
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steer clear
He’s definitely a weirdo to say the least. I would avoid being alone with him at all costs. Fuck that creep. The fact that it makes you feel uncomfortable is all you need. Trust your instincts
This is not normal. If he ever tries to be alone with you leave immediately and tell your parents about it right away. Tell them he makes you very uncomfortable.
Not normal. Have you told your parents about this?
It’s not normal. Tell your parents what’s been happening. Please.
He sounds like a creeper. Your instincts are correct. Do your best to avoid situations where you are alone with him. If you are comfortable speaking with your mom and/or dad, you should tell them he makes you uncomfortable.
Personally I find the situation quite bizarre, you should talk to your parents (or anyone trustworthy and adult) and clearly tell them that his behavior makes you uncomfortable. If he insists, try to keep your distance as much as possible, take care of yourself 🫶
Please find and speak to a trusted adult when you feel safe to do so.
Tell your parents yesterday!
He could be doing worse things to others
I just want to say, your uncle’s actions are absolutely not okay or normal. What you described is deeply concerning. The way he touches you, stares at you, talks to you — that’s predatory behaviour, and it’s not your fault.
Please don’t let yourself be alone with him. You deserve to feel safe and respected, especially around family.
I know it can feel really hard to talk about, but as a parent myself, I can promise you if my child were going through something like this, I would want them to tell me, no matter how hard it might be to hear. Please sit down with your parents or another trusted adult and tell them everything you’ve written here, word for word if you need to. You don’t have to carry this alone.
You’re brave for speaking up. You’re not overreacting. And you’re not alone.
Never ever stay alone in a room with this person. He is clearly a predator, and although he hasn’t done something worse YET it doesn’t mean he won’t. He might actually be checking how far he can go before you push him away and tell someone.
If you are close with your mother and trust her, please tell her. Or your father. Or both, if you trust both. Tell them about these instances, they need to be aware. If you can’t trust them, tell someone else who is adult and you trust, because someone needs to be warned and needs to keep watch. Ideally, at least 2 different people need to know, and at least one of them shouldn’t be related to your uncle to make sure they will be protecting you and not be blindsided by “knowing him very well”.
Then again, never ever stay alone in a room with him. If you are in your own room, lock it when he’s in the house. If it’s another room, just make sure there’s always someone with you, and move as quickly as possible as soon as you’re not.
I’m sorry you need to deal with this. However, you really need to take care of yourself and make sure you’re safe. Please be cautious and don’t let this guy get near you again.
That is fxcd up bad, I really hope that this is a fictional made up story
This isn’t normal AT ALL. If he makes you this uncomfortable then you need to tell your parents or any trusted adult and NEVER be alone with him again in the future.
Please talk to a trusted adult. If it’s easier show them a screenshot of this post.
Please know, that your uncles actions are not right. And you did nothing wrong and you don’t have to feel ashamed.
Your uncles behaviors are not okay or normal! It’s giving pedo/weirdo. Try not to be left alone in the same room as him, and please tell your parents asap that his behaviors and words are making you feel uncomfortable. He seems like he’s plotting something. Take care of yourself, you don’t have to deal with this alone. 🤍
Tell your parents that your uncle is being pervey.
This is called grooming and sexual harassment! Talk to your mum and dad. It isn’t normal.
This is bad, very bad so you don’t need to question if it is anymore. He’s grooming and each time is seeing how far you will let him get close to and touch you. He will keep pushing the boundaries further and further each time. You have to tell your parents asap!!! You aren’t safe around him! He’s showing what he is willing to do even with other people around so I would hate to imagine what he would do if yall were alone! Tell your mom and dad asap and never ever be alone with him ever! He is a predator!
You should tell your parents. This is NOT normal. Stay away from him. Tell him “NO” and mean it. The fact that you are asking here means you feel uncomfortable and you know that this isn’t right. Listen to your instincts.
not normal
don’t be alone with him he’s definitely having inappropriate thoughts and acting on them
it seems “subtle” (not really , it shouldn’t be happening at all) now but later it’ll get worse
keep yourself safe trust your gut this guy is weird