People who are unaware of their actions which hurt others. I get that people just don’t realize how damaging things can be, but my god read the room. They just keep projecting their insecurities on to others with no regard for how they make others feel
People who abuse elderly patients in nursing homes. I worked as a nurse for 6 years and had to report a coworker who was deliberately ‘forgetting’ to give pain medication to the residents she didn’t like. Makes my blood boil just thinking about it.
Hypocritical people who always turn the tables and portray themselves as victims rather than an actually oppressed group of people. This applies to many groups of people, but this is especially relevant for me as a lesbian with nowadays attempts to erase us.
I’m actively forgetting everything & can’t hold grudges anymore. It’s fantastic, increased my quality of life more than I could ever imagine. Still get angry on the spot but it’s getting easier to manage
I can forgive anyone. It may not change anything, any change in our relationship is solely dependent on their behaviour, choices, and acknowledgement. It may not change my behaviour, I’ll still do what is necessary. I have only twice been in a situation where I may have had to kill in self-defense, I could have done that and still forgiven the guy. Forgiveness is about me, my mental, emotional and spiritual state, it’s not about the relationship. Don’t confuse forgiveness with reconciliation or perpetuation of hierarchy.
There is almost no one I cannot forgive. Note – I am not religious in the “belong to club” sense.
But there is a difference between forgiving someone (I look at it as understanding them) and then wanting to be friends…or close family…or anything else with them.
You live and learn. It’s the very rare individual who does not have positive attributes.
When I’ve forgiven them repeatedly in the hopes they’d change, only to be disappointed. Now, if someone shows me who they are, I believe it. I’m not going to hold a grudge or hold hate in my heart for them, but they aren’t getting access to me again.
Personally? Bullies who tormented me. With each rep in the gym, I imagine a brutal end to them. (Being more financially successful than (I assume) all helps, too).
Regardless if you forgive or not. The people who have a challenging time forgiving, are those who realized early on that people aren’t stupid or unaware of what they’ve done. They just decided that their interests are far superior to you so called precious ‘feelings’ and “game is game”.
My mother sold my son her house. He trusted her way too much and she screwed him over.
My son won’t even kill bugs. He’s the best person I know. She cared for him while I was hospitalized for almost a year when he was 9. He loves her so much.
She dragged our names through the mud and turned family against us.
I wish there was a hell so I could revel in her burning
So people who take advantage of trust and love for monetary gain.
People who you cosign for with a car loan etc and quit making payments and screw you over then act like its all your fault. NEVER cosign for someone ESPECIALLY FAMILY or do a joint venture because it will all fall back on you.
Sounds cliche right now, but literally, any trump 2.0 voter. I forgave the stupidity the first time; not this time. There’s zero excuse.
Beyond that, the normal array of abstract things; rapists, child molesters, people who have monkeys as pets, and of course, any catholic who finds it necessary to tell me how many reason there are for my going to hell.
Oh, and people who put ketchup on hot dogs. Freaks.
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I don’t discriminate..
So true. Forgiveness is easier when someone shows real remorse. But when people hurt you and act like it’s no big deal that’s the hardest to let go.
They took the secrets I trusted them with and used them against me—that kind of betrayal cuts deep.
People I’ve never met and never heard of.
maybe i cant say i cant forgive. just forgive but never forget.
Hurting a child through physical abuse is beyond cruel—I have no respect for people who do that. It’s something I truly can’t stand.
pregnant and drinking alcohol.
I can forgive anyone as long as they regret and have changed.
People who believed fake rumours about me. I showed up to a job interview and the person told me I was making up my workplace history.
Racist kind
People who hurt animals for fun.
People who are unaware of their actions which hurt others. I get that people just don’t realize how damaging things can be, but my god read the room. They just keep projecting their insecurities on to others with no regard for how they make others feel
People who abuse elderly patients in nursing homes. I worked as a nurse for 6 years and had to report a coworker who was deliberately ‘forgetting’ to give pain medication to the residents she didn’t like. Makes my blood boil just thinking about it.
Hypocritical people who always turn the tables and portray themselves as victims rather than an actually oppressed group of people. This applies to many groups of people, but this is especially relevant for me as a lesbian with nowadays attempts to erase us.
Children abusers, animal abusers
People who text “k” in an argument
People who beat their kids. Idc what was acceptable in the 60’s you were a POS then you’re a POS now
Cheaters.
Drunk Drivers
Violence against children. I mean violence against anyone is bad enough, but kids? Inexcusable.
People who abuse children
I’m actively forgetting everything & can’t hold grudges anymore. It’s fantastic, increased my quality of life more than I could ever imagine. Still get angry on the spot but it’s getting easier to manage
I can forgive anyone. It may not change anything, any change in our relationship is solely dependent on their behaviour, choices, and acknowledgement. It may not change my behaviour, I’ll still do what is necessary. I have only twice been in a situation where I may have had to kill in self-defense, I could have done that and still forgiven the guy. Forgiveness is about me, my mental, emotional and spiritual state, it’s not about the relationship. Don’t confuse forgiveness with reconciliation or perpetuation of hierarchy.
Pedophiles, child abusers and anyone else who intentionally hurt children.
There is almost no one I cannot forgive. Note – I am not religious in the “belong to club” sense.
But there is a difference between forgiving someone (I look at it as understanding them) and then wanting to be friends…or close family…or anything else with them.
You live and learn. It’s the very rare individual who does not have positive attributes.
Those who can’t even articulate what they did wrong
Trump supporters.
Pedophiles
A person who hides his true identity…
Selfish people
Friends who constantly make me feel like shit. I learned to cut off people who belittle or make fun of me and think it’s funny.
robots
People who leave shopping carts in the middle of the parking lot
When I’ve forgiven them repeatedly in the hopes they’d change, only to be disappointed. Now, if someone shows me who they are, I believe it. I’m not going to hold a grudge or hold hate in my heart for them, but they aren’t getting access to me again.
Personally? Bullies who tormented me. With each rep in the gym, I imagine a brutal end to them. (Being more financially successful than (I assume) all helps, too).
Those who voted in a convicted felon/rapist and the death of democracy.
Backstabbers and traitors
Regardless if you forgive or not. The people who have a challenging time forgiving, are those who realized early on that people aren’t stupid or unaware of what they’ve done. They just decided that their interests are far superior to you so called precious ‘feelings’ and “game is game”.
My mother sold my son her house. He trusted her way too much and she screwed him over.
My son won’t even kill bugs. He’s the best person I know. She cared for him while I was hospitalized for almost a year when he was 9. He loves her so much.
She dragged our names through the mud and turned family against us.
I wish there was a hell so I could revel in her burning
So people who take advantage of trust and love for monetary gain.
Anyone who hurts children in the form of sexual, physical, emotional and mental abuse, which also includes exploitation
Hypocrites.
Really bad grammar in post titles.
Those who backstab and break promises. Hopefully karma cames back right at them
People that are cruel on purpose. People who know they are hurting others and either find joy in it or who are indifferent to it.
Cheaters.
Anyone that hurts children or animals.
Child SA’ers. Just that kind in itself is disgusting but completely unforgivable when it’s a child.
Rapists and Pedophiles.
Trump, Tyson, McGregor, Tupac, Ali, Diddy, Tates.
Every American that voted for Trump and his cronies.
A thief or liar. Or both.
Cheater. Liar.
Apparently I forgive everyone no matter the fucked up shit they pull on me
Hypocrites. Once you’ve burnt the trust bridge with me there’s no rebuilding it.
People who you cosign for with a car loan etc and quit making payments and screw you over then act like its all your fault. NEVER cosign for someone ESPECIALLY FAMILY or do a joint venture because it will all fall back on you.
If I don’t trust you any longer I will have a hard time forgiving
hurting old people (ages 70+)
Anyone who insults my mom.
Sounds cliche right now, but literally, any trump 2.0 voter. I forgave the stupidity the first time; not this time. There’s zero excuse.
Beyond that, the normal array of abstract things; rapists, child molesters, people who have monkeys as pets, and of course, any catholic who finds it necessary to tell me how many reason there are for my going to hell.
Oh, and people who put ketchup on hot dogs. Freaks.
Scammers, particularly those who prey on the elderly.
The kind that are unrepentant.
MAGA
The ones that left when you were at your lowest and they knew it.
Trumpers
People who steal
You would not kiss the ring on my pinky, that I do not forgive.