We didn’t divorce because of her. We divorced because I went to Afghanistan, Iraq and then Afghanistan again. After that we didn’t know each other anymore. We divorced like adults, stayed friends, and she remarried. Her new husband is great and she is still amazing.
Years ago she cheated on me several times for cocaine, alcoholic, unequal share of bills/ debt and let herself go (weight gain). Recently she started using drugs again (only weed) that I’m aware of.
We had a deep and serious conversation about the difference between loving someone and bein IN love with someone and we both realized that neither of us fit that latter for each other
One of the things that made it so clear we needed to break up was that he always planned vacations and other plans with friends first, and I could only accommodate his schedule in some weird week off. The same was true of parties or events; he brought me as his plus-one, seemingly to forget about me and be with his friends.
Also, I was moving out while he was still comfortably living with his parents (he was 27 and I was 25 at the time).
Lastly, when I asked him to talk and explained what wasn’t working, he said we hadn’t tried enough. This thought had been in my head for months, and I was feeling very angsty.
Obsessed with me on a scary fucking level. We broke up 6 years ago. He still manages to find ways to reach me. One day he left a note under my doormat🫠
Told me my depression was my problem to figure out (true) and that if I didn’t, she would divorce me in 6 months. 5 months later she asked for a divorce, was shocked when I said yes, and said she only did it because she wanted me to make a grand gesture.
She was also having an affair. It’s not like it was a difficult choice.
Oh man, where do I even start with this one? I should have never given them a chance in the first place. They creeped on me at several events before even introducing themselves, they were a grown ass man but couldn’t hold down a basic job, they perceived me as someone I wasn’t, trying to fit me into the little parasocial box they’d predesigned in their own head about me. They were into little girl shit because they needed fucking therapy, not a girlfriend. Fucking clown shit. Performative social warrior shit to inflate their own ego, completely lacking in self-awareness or any perspective reflecting reality. That didn’t last even a couple months. Pathetic trash, that’s why they’re my ex.
Basically moving into my apartment without asking. Alright, I liked having her there. She was not working at the time and did nothing to find a job, while I was working full time as a teacher. She couldn’t be bothered to clean the place or even make the bed while I was at work. She just hung around all day, drinking and watching makeup tutorials or stuff like that. She would often be tipsy on her white wine and Valium already when I got home. That’s the basics of it.
I told her about how my mom died when I was young and she changed the subject into what she WOULD do if her mom died and how she’d feel. Ya I’ve never met someone so self-centered
I’m still in the relationship, but I’m realizing more and more that I’m not happy. It feels like I’ve been stuck in a cycle where I’m constantly trying to fix things, but it never feels like it’s truly getting better. There’s a lot of emotional turmoil, and I’ve been questioning whether it’s worth the pain for both of us.
I’m at the point where I’m trying to understand if this is something I can work through or if I need to step away for my own mental health and well-being. The love is still there, but I think deep down, I know it’s been overshadowed by toxicity and patterns that keep dragging me back into this emotional rollercoaster.
It’s tough because I’ve invested so much, but I also have to think about my peace and the well-being of everyone involved, especially my kids. I’m not sure what the future holds, but I’m learning that I can’t ignore the signs anymore.
Woke me up to break up with me in the middle of the night. I was dealing with a condition that worsened my eyesight. He felt he wasn’t getting the attention he deserved for a few weeks. Mind you we got engaged just 2 months before. Im sorry my blindness isn’t going fast enough for you. Jeez
Anyway, fast forward 2 weeks and he is dating a girl from work who was flirting with him the past year or so. So i guess she had a little to do with it. The toughest year of my life but Im doing allright. The condition on my eyesight settled so i can still see. But not enough to identify passing strangers (or ex boyfriends). Silver linings guys
She was enmeshed with her mother, so her mother told me what the new boundaries and dynamics of my relationship was with her daughter (34) was going to be after us being together for 11 months and she living at my place for about 7 months.
I politely told her mom that she was crossing boundaries by dictating terms in our relationship, and that as a fellow parent, my job isn’t to decide for my adult child (in the future) but to guide him and let him do his own decisions. I also informed the mom that a ring was ordered and that had she wanted to know my long term plans with her daughter, she could have brought this up privately and not done this in front of her daughter as a 3 way conversation.
That was on a Sunday, by Friday I broke it off and canceled the ring (lost $600 but got back $4400).
He cheated about 5x within the duration of the relationship—at one point, it was with 2 girls. He was cheating on me with someone who didn’t know he had a girlfriend, and then he cheated on her with another girl. While we were still together. I estimate that in the 3 years we were together, it was probably only truly “just the two of us” for less than 5 months.
Nothing—I would directly tell him my needs for communication and quality time, and over and over again he’d go back to a pattern of “Good morning!” and then “Good night!” while ignoring me in between because he was spending hours playing video games. I didn’t mind the video games as a casual gamer myself, but it was the blatant ignoring and undervaluing of my voiced-out needs and feelings that drained me until I was too tired to try anymore.
Thankfully, I am now happily married so I dodged some very different bullets with those two.
without going into specifics, he only cared about what I could provide for him and not about me as a person, to the point where it was majorly messing up my mental health, and I made it very clear to him that it was and he still didn’t care. and, entirely related, trying to paint me as the villain for thinking realistically about and not wanting to be the sole financier of his multi-thousand dollar passion project.
In love with me but not in love with me. After 28 years together. I told her to leave. Her constant anxiety exhausted me she was not worth fighting for. You don’t understand that you can be loved improperly until it is done properly as evidenced by someone like my second wife.
Told me I was ridiculous for expecting him to take care of household chores without me making him a list every day while he was unemployed and I was supporting us.
I’m not sure if it was the manipulation, the smacking herself in the head when she was losing an argument she started, the controlling behaviour, or just how unlikeable she really was as a person.
BPD and AuDHD. She was kind of clever, but thought she was smarter than she was. Would take insane stances on random things just to “be right” sometimes even things within my field. She also figured she was too smart for therapists, so never needed to change.
I’ve had “crazy” exes before, and I myself have been a handful at times for sure, but this woman was fucking nuts. I’m happy I made it out alive to be honest. I really did fear for my life a small handful of times.
She has zero friends, and it is of course the fault of society, not her horrible fucking condescending attitude.
If you see red flags folks, pay attention to them and leave as quick as possible, just like all her friends and I did.
He was with his girlfriend and out of nowhere after arguing a lot they decided to take a break
And after 2 weeks she wrote to him saying that she got back with her ex, (the one from before him) And he wrote to her saying congratulations and things like that and she told him that he was jealous and he left her on read
After a while she told him to come back and he said no
Long distance relationship. She got very lonely and depressed and started blaming me for everything. I told her many many times to go for counseling she didn’t, she started being disrespectful towards me and my family. So with a very heavy heart, I had to leave.
Found out she did take my advice and is doing better. Happy for her, I hope and pray she finds all the happiness in life.
My ex boyfriend gave me a very hard time on the phone and proceeded to scream at me just because I didn’t answer his previous phone calls from the day before. A moment later, I hung up and decided to end things for good.
His anger became a normal thing, so I’m glad that I ended it sooner than later.
He made me feel like i wasn’t good enough, it showed he wasn’t good enough for me, took me a few weeks to realize it, when i did that’s the moment he became my ex.
Told me she was married and had 3 kids and then found out she lied about her mother being murdered. Then shortly after I was in the hospital and she had no interest in coming to see me. Rip
Pushed me down a staircase. However, I still wanted her back even after that, until I found out she was stealing money and not paying bills for over a year. I even wanted her back after I filed for divorce, hoping it would trigger her. Yes, to work on things with me. However, she had a no contact, then. I had a no contact. And neither one of us have spoken to each other since the incident 8 months ago. Now it’s a brutal divorce between attorneys
After taking care of the house, her kids, buying everything, making all the meals, and buying her gifts I had this sinking feeling something was up. Looked at her messages and she was talking to four other guys just that week. Who knows how many in total, I didn’t look farther back or in any other apps. She’s been trying to get me back for months, I think she realizes she messed up. I told her from the start that’s the one and only thing I’ll never forgive. Life is too damn short to deal with cheaters and liars.
Cheated on me and became a raging alcoholic, broke a bunch of my stuff so I left. Stalked me when I left. Would drive in front of my parents house even after I moved out to try to see what I was doing. Myself and my parents got a protection order against him.
Be Republican. I never really liked him that much though. He pursued me hard.
Be a crazy, creepy but “bad enough to be harmless” stalker. I couldn’t go to a coffee shop with a friend without him magically finding me by complete coincidence, and joining in for the chat. When I broke up with him, he by complete coincidence found me and my friends afterwards and made everyone feel weird crying to my friends about “that thing that just happened”. Eventually he did get the memo to stop stalking me every time I set foot outside and went away (unfortunately, only to permanently damage a 16 year old girl).
Just couldn’t adapt and meet halfway as close as possible. Also wasn’t putting in anymore effort into the relationship I felt was needed to keep it moving.
Deeply jealous of every girl I spoke with. I tried breaking up with her several times and every time she said she was going to kill herself. I didn’t want that hanging over my head for the rest of my life. 3 years I stuck with her, unhappy for most of the last 2. Finally, one night she stayed out all night with a girlfriend and some work friends and they both crashed at a male co-workers house. I showed up to said house in the morning and she was still there. I told her we were done and that I never wanted to see or talk to her again.
I still don’t know 100% if she cheated on me, but ultimately, I didn’t care. The level of happiness I had with the break-up situation really showed how deeply unhappy I was with her.
She got too needy, clingy, and emotionally draining. And I tried. I really did. I thought she was going through a rough patch, and once we got through it, everything would go back to how it was when she was sweet, happy and fun.
And, I dunno, maybe that would have even been true on a long enough timeline. But it wasn’t unsustainable enough to find out.
-he cheated on me with a girl friend while telling me he was only talking to me and dating me
-he masturbated to pictures of his exes/coworkers/classmates from hs
-he received nudes of girl friends while we were dating and encouraged it
-he flirted with coworkers and would lie about plans involving them or his little sister friends
-he lied about his sexuality and was planning to cheat on me with one of his guy friend
-he thought of other people while we were having sex
-he did everything for me to feel small and destroy the little self esteem I had
-it was a cycle of : everything was well between us, he cheat, he feel bad, he confess to me saying it was everything, confess more one day, confess even more untill I break another day, we would take a break, I would go no contact until a mutual friend would feed him information that I was moving on and he would do anything to get me back.
-The last straw : he confessed he molested his sister and cousin when they were 9-10 he was 13-14. And he got diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder while I got diagnosed with autism which explains the chronic nativity I used to have and thinking that everyone had good intentions like me !
It started small, all the lies, and progressively got worse and worse until I could finally let go
The last girl I dated sat me down and gave the the ultimatum to stop working out, stop riding a motorcycle, buy a “normal” car, and we would only have sex 1-2x a month or we were over. It was a very quick no from me. After that she met a guy who kissed her ass and did whatever she said. She also gained like 70lbs, she was a hottie before. The next girl I got with is not my wife.
This is real stupid and I regret every part of the relationship now and how naive I was, but this all happened when I was 18,19-20 years old. It was my first serious relationship.
He had trouble being independent from his mother.
I’m all for a man having a good, even close, relationship with his mom, but it was excessive to the point where he would only buy clothes that she liked on him, and things like that. He made way more money than me, and she controlled all of it. Anyway, we were living together in his family’s old homestead (which I kept immaculate – it was a dumpy/messy party house before I moved in) and I was paying for everything. Gas in both of our vehicles, car insurance for one of his vehicles plus my own, groceries, phone/internet bills, electric bill, food and drinks whenever we would go out, property taxes for the 2 years I lived there – just everything. I finally kind of flipped out and broke things off when his parents had us over for dinner one night, and it was a whole “we have to talk” event.
They had the nerve to tell me I needed to start paying rent (on a property that had been paid off for at least 50 years). He didn’t stick up for me at all, and actually agreed with them. Didn’t even give me any credit for already contributing everything I had to support both of us.
I packed what I could fit in my car and left forever.
Drank whiskey until he was slurring and blacked out every night. Also, wouldn’t take no for an answer when he was obviously too drunk to fuck. I swear it was like a dying fish flopping around on top of me. Had many sober talks about this, nothing ever changed behavior wise. The smell of whisky on someone’s breath brings everything back and makes me sick.
After repeatedly asking her to give me atleast 5 minutes a day (and her still failing at it), i straight up didn’t msg her for 2 weeks and she herself didn’t msg/call me for that time period. I then promptly broke up because i atleast deserve 5 mins a day of her time.
She broke up with me 5 times over things that would get sorted out by a heart to heart conversation AFTER detonating the relationship. All valid needs but she would let her feelings fester without saying anything expecting me to just “get it”, pull the rug, look at everything as “you vs me” with this lopsided victim statement and would take me back once I was able to offer a logical solution to what were very pedestrian issues like her wanting to visit her family more often, or for me to get help for depression and anxiety through Covid (which I needed and did so, bigly) and she would just weaponize it against me in the end regardless of how I delivered. Every mental receipt she could pull, was pulled and I truly thought we’d grown out of that.
Moving toward 3 years after the fact and I’m still grieving feeling betrayed and rejected after showing up as my purest self, genuinely, while she was resolute and in a new relationship within 3 months. I guess I wasn’t “the one” but thanks for wasting 8 years of my life and spoiling every bucket list memory we shared together since she, in her words “was never authentic” in the relationship and that it had been doomed from the start. I struggled to believe her when she said that – 8 years is a long time to live in a lie but why put that out there? Why continue taking me back? Calling me manipulative because I was conditioned to constantly chase the relationship you made no efforts to sustain? You got your cake…
I tolerated the verbal abuse when I should not have. Once she put hands on me, that was the beginning of the end. Our divorce was finalized about 5 months ago. No complaints here! Dodged like 3 bullets with her…I’ll spare you the details…
Took somebody home to our house and spread her whoring legs for him.
Ofcourse in her drunken state she forgot I have inside and outside surveillance. Not to mention I had friends at the bar and they provided surveillance at the bar
He was extremely avoidant, broke up with me twice during our relationship, and breadcrumbed me like crazy. Didn’t put any effort into our relationship, until the very end. But I didn’t snap and realize the relationship was no good until one night when we were having sex and he caught me looking at his face (not creepy or anything, just looking at him) and he got majorly grossed out and said we had to stop.
Idk why that situation planted the thought in my head to leave him more than him dumping me did but it’s how it went.
I was at a wedding with him and his family. He wanted to go out to the bar afterwards and I wanted to go home so his parents took me home. They decided to spill his secrets. Apparently he had been cheating on me with several women. They reminded me that it wasn’t at fault and that their son was a piece of shit and to get away from him as quickly as possible. That was 14 years ago and I’m still so thankful his parents told me.
Stopped working. Wanted me to support her becoming a housewife. Also wanted to control the money. (No kids). No thanks. She didn’t believe me when I told her this was a deal breaker. I told her she had to at least earn half as much as I did. (I earned a modest income, barely above average). She wouldn’t put in any effort and I lost patience. I moved on and found a true partner. I’m much happier but still a little salty over it even a decade later.
We were together for 2,5 years, and recently I found out he was cheating me for 2 years. I found out because I got an std.
Today I was going through our old messages, because now I know the exact time he started cheating, there was never any change in the way he spoke to me, nothing to hint he did something even remotely wrong.
She lives on the other part of the state, so if she didn’t give us an std, I would’ve never found out.
How could he lie for 2 whole years!?
She was having a very secret 2nd relationship. As in living with someone when I didn’t know. This was a longer distance relationship but not at first. I found out when I was visiting and she said her roommate was gone, then I walked into another room an found a guys PC setup with the shirt I gave her or she took from me to wear, he had been wearing.
We were both working low paying, low hour jobs during the recession. We were just barely getting by and paying all of our bills late. We had other issues too.
Anyways, I discovered that her ex boyfriend was paying her cell phone bill. They couldn’t have done anything physical because we lived together and he was in the military stationed in another country. She thought that somehow meant this was okay.
Him choosing his avoidance over maintaining a truthful connection, continued to have the Cold War with me.
I didn’t blame him for it or make him feel like anything is his fault.
I just told him what a meaningful connection is by definition and left it at that. Our connection had plenty of moments that makes it one over the 14 years.
I told him “avoidance kills any relationships, including the meaningful ones” not “congratulations, you ruined this relationship
He may hold grudges against me but I don’t hold grudges against him for not being emotionally mature.
And so I have every right to move on because I didn’t leave without an explanation. I left doing everything I could. He chose not to man up and I’m very well prepared to be “the crazy drama woman that got away” in his future sob stories to whoever he chose to repeat the avoidance cycle with.
In the stories of immature men, the woman is guarantee to be the evil drama queen.
But I left with no regrets and that’s what makes my heart feel light and not heavy with hatred.
There have been a few “wtf” moments for me with different people. But the last guy told me he loved his ex still. Then the next day I decided to try to discuss it with him and he completely gaslit me saying he never said anything like that. On top of that he was very coercive during sex and generally not attentive to me at all. Would walk really fast in front of me when we went places… I have POTS so that especially pissed me off.
She realized we had incredibly different short-term goals. I was looking at houses near where I wanted to live and wondering if I should be saving up for a ring. She wasn’t thinking beyond the summer. She knew that once she graduated she should figure out what to do with life, but she was happy thinking semester by semester, not ten years ahead. But we also had very different lives. I was getting away from an abusive situation and wanted to build a new life, she was happily living with her loving family. I was determined to make something out of nothing, with her dad’s financial abilities she is fairly set for life. We were living life too differently, and she didn’t want to be around a guy who was ready to settle down. ‘
I’m not mad. She’s found happiness elsewhere with someone who lives more like her.
Called me 70 times after I told him I was busy. We’d only been together for a month and a half and he was constantly insecure and accusing me of cheating on him
He would play video games for hours and night instead of cleaning up at himself, even though we split the bills and both worked full-time. Instead of inviting me to play with him, which I wanted, he just started hiding it from me. I went away for a month and he promised me multiple times that he would clean up the apartment. When I got back, it was fucking filthy.
The yelling. I was constantly walking on eggshells not knowing what would set him off any particular day. After 15 years together I finally had enough and asked for a divorce. Later found out he’d also been cheating on me and he remarried as soon as our divorce papers were signed. He yells at her now.
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We didn’t divorce because of her. We divorced because I went to Afghanistan, Iraq and then Afghanistan again. After that we didn’t know each other anymore. We divorced like adults, stayed friends, and she remarried. Her new husband is great and she is still amazing.
Voted for Trump
Caught her sending nudes in the middle of the night to another guy
I had an ex that got jealous I was talking to a black girl and told me to stop hanging out with that _____. I started dating the other girl instead.
Years ago she cheated on me several times for cocaine, alcoholic, unequal share of bills/ debt and let herself go (weight gain). Recently she started using drugs again (only weed) that I’m aware of.
After so many conversations with no change.. It was pretty inevitable
she was cheating.
Jealousy and mind games.
Never got over his ex, caught em railing each other
Learned she was spreading lies about me and used the death of my dog not to break up with me—she was cheating with her girl best friend.
He left me
We had a deep and serious conversation about the difference between loving someone and bein IN love with someone and we both realized that neither of us fit that latter for each other
Leave me haha
One of the things that made it so clear we needed to break up was that he always planned vacations and other plans with friends first, and I could only accommodate his schedule in some weird week off. The same was true of parties or events; he brought me as his plus-one, seemingly to forget about me and be with his friends.
Also, I was moving out while he was still comfortably living with his parents (he was 27 and I was 25 at the time).
Lastly, when I asked him to talk and explained what wasn’t working, he said we hadn’t tried enough. This thought had been in my head for months, and I was feeling very angsty.
Turns out she was an evil witch
He was having online sexual relations and conversations with multiple women the whole time we were together.
Obsessed with me on a scary fucking level. We broke up 6 years ago. He still manages to find ways to reach me. One day he left a note under my doormat🫠
It’s not what did she do, It was who she do’ed.
Told me my depression was my problem to figure out (true) and that if I didn’t, she would divorce me in 6 months. 5 months later she asked for a divorce, was shocked when I said yes, and said she only did it because she wanted me to make a grand gesture.
She was also having an affair. It’s not like it was a difficult choice.
Oh man, where do I even start with this one? I should have never given them a chance in the first place. They creeped on me at several events before even introducing themselves, they were a grown ass man but couldn’t hold down a basic job, they perceived me as someone I wasn’t, trying to fit me into the little parasocial box they’d predesigned in their own head about me. They were into little girl shit because they needed fucking therapy, not a girlfriend. Fucking clown shit. Performative social warrior shit to inflate their own ego, completely lacking in self-awareness or any perspective reflecting reality. That didn’t last even a couple months. Pathetic trash, that’s why they’re my ex.
Humiliated me in public in the middle of a school event
Broke up with me
He has problems with drinking and when he got into some big legal trouble, that was hard to keep the relationship going if hes so unstable….
I do blame him for some of it. But not all of it
She moved to SF with her ex, only as friends of course! 🙄
She turned out to be satan
Realized that she was only using me as a walking ATM/chauffer, almost went broke in that relationship 😅
Dumped me lol
Beat me
Found out he got FOUR other girls pregnant from the time I was 4 months pregnant until our daughter was 6 months old . 🙃🙃
He used to put me down and make me feel completely worthless.
I found out he was a ped0, but that is just the tip of the iceberg
I’d say it was the excessive amount of other dicks.
Cheated on me
Hi, my names Gigi and I married an aggressive alcoholic…
Do I love saying I was married barely a year? No.
Do I have any regrets that I left years ago? Not a single one.
Basically moving into my apartment without asking. Alright, I liked having her there. She was not working at the time and did nothing to find a job, while I was working full time as a teacher. She couldn’t be bothered to clean the place or even make the bed while I was at work. She just hung around all day, drinking and watching makeup tutorials or stuff like that. She would often be tipsy on her white wine and Valium already when I got home. That’s the basics of it.
Attempt an affair with her boss 😂
Refuse to deal with the death of her parents and instead self medicate.
What didn’t he do? Alcoholic with anger issues and a wandering eye.
I told her about how my mom died when I was young and she changed the subject into what she WOULD do if her mom died and how she’d feel. Ya I’ve never met someone so self-centered
Cheated and turned into an entitled narcissistic asshole,
Was fucking another guy behind my back and fucking another guy behind his back
Cheat
I’m still in the relationship, but I’m realizing more and more that I’m not happy. It feels like I’ve been stuck in a cycle where I’m constantly trying to fix things, but it never feels like it’s truly getting better. There’s a lot of emotional turmoil, and I’ve been questioning whether it’s worth the pain for both of us.
I’m at the point where I’m trying to understand if this is something I can work through or if I need to step away for my own mental health and well-being. The love is still there, but I think deep down, I know it’s been overshadowed by toxicity and patterns that keep dragging me back into this emotional rollercoaster.
It’s tough because I’ve invested so much, but I also have to think about my peace and the well-being of everyone involved, especially my kids. I’m not sure what the future holds, but I’m learning that I can’t ignore the signs anymore.
She divorced me.
Her ex
Realizing someone has S/A’ed you tend to be a deal breaker
Woke me up to break up with me in the middle of the night. I was dealing with a condition that worsened my eyesight. He felt he wasn’t getting the attention he deserved for a few weeks. Mind you we got engaged just 2 months before. Im sorry my blindness isn’t going fast enough for you. Jeez
Anyway, fast forward 2 weeks and he is dating a girl from work who was flirting with him the past year or so. So i guess she had a little to do with it. The toughest year of my life but Im doing allright. The condition on my eyesight settled so i can still see. But not enough to identify passing strangers (or ex boyfriends). Silver linings guys
Lied. A lot.
She was enmeshed with her mother, so her mother told me what the new boundaries and dynamics of my relationship was with her daughter (34) was going to be after us being together for 11 months and she living at my place for about 7 months.
I politely told her mom that she was crossing boundaries by dictating terms in our relationship, and that as a fellow parent, my job isn’t to decide for my adult child (in the future) but to guide him and let him do his own decisions. I also informed the mom that a ring was ordered and that had she wanted to know my long term plans with her daughter, she could have brought this up privately and not done this in front of her daughter as a 3 way conversation.
That was on a Sunday, by Friday I broke it off and canceled the ring (lost $600 but got back $4400).
After 29 years together she cheated
He cheated about 5x within the duration of the relationship—at one point, it was with 2 girls. He was cheating on me with someone who didn’t know he had a girlfriend, and then he cheated on her with another girl. While we were still together. I estimate that in the 3 years we were together, it was probably only truly “just the two of us” for less than 5 months.
Nothing—I would directly tell him my needs for communication and quality time, and over and over again he’d go back to a pattern of “Good morning!” and then “Good night!” while ignoring me in between because he was spending hours playing video games. I didn’t mind the video games as a casual gamer myself, but it was the blatant ignoring and undervaluing of my voiced-out needs and feelings that drained me until I was too tired to try anymore.
Thankfully, I am now happily married so I dodged some very different bullets with those two.
without going into specifics, he only cared about what I could provide for him and not about me as a person, to the point where it was majorly messing up my mental health, and I made it very clear to him that it was and he still didn’t care. and, entirely related, trying to paint me as the villain for thinking realistically about and not wanting to be the sole financier of his multi-thousand dollar passion project.
Her best friend
Irreconcilable differences. That and she was a cheating fuking whore.
Neighbors were harassing me, shot a bb gun into the yard twice
He didnt believe me.
Cheated with her boss after my brother’s suicide lbvs
mentally ill, needed help, no intimacy for years.
was smart decision to agree to just friends.
He left me like all others
Fucked his intern
Cheated.
In love with me but not in love with me. After 28 years together. I told her to leave. Her constant anxiety exhausted me she was not worth fighting for. You don’t understand that you can be loved improperly until it is done properly as evidenced by someone like my second wife.
he was abusive and I stayed as long as I could endure because I refused to admit that that’s what was happening to me. Getting out was hell.
Told me I was ridiculous for expecting him to take care of household chores without me making him a list every day while he was unemployed and I was supporting us.
I’m not sure if it was the manipulation, the smacking herself in the head when she was losing an argument she started, the controlling behaviour, or just how unlikeable she really was as a person.
BPD and AuDHD. She was kind of clever, but thought she was smarter than she was. Would take insane stances on random things just to “be right” sometimes even things within my field. She also figured she was too smart for therapists, so never needed to change.
I’ve had “crazy” exes before, and I myself have been a handful at times for sure, but this woman was fucking nuts. I’m happy I made it out alive to be honest. I really did fear for my life a small handful of times.
She has zero friends, and it is of course the fault of society, not her horrible fucking condescending attitude.
If you see red flags folks, pay attention to them and leave as quick as possible, just like all her friends and I did.
Broke up with me 🥴
The following happened to a friend:
He was with his girlfriend and out of nowhere after arguing a lot they decided to take a break
And after 2 weeks she wrote to him saying that she got back with her ex, (the one from before him) And he wrote to her saying congratulations and things like that and she told him that he was jealous and he left her on read
After a while she told him to come back and he said no
He didn’t do anything. I just realized I was too messed up to be in a relationship.
She liked jumping from dick to dick, while I was at work. Eventually I found out and dumped that 304.
Long distance relationship. She got very lonely and depressed and started blaming me for everything. I told her many many times to go for counseling she didn’t, she started being disrespectful towards me and my family. So with a very heavy heart, I had to leave.
Found out she did take my advice and is doing better. Happy for her, I hope and pray she finds all the happiness in life.
My ex boyfriend gave me a very hard time on the phone and proceeded to scream at me just because I didn’t answer his previous phone calls from the day before. A moment later, I hung up and decided to end things for good.
His anger became a normal thing, so I’m glad that I ended it sooner than later.
He made me feel like i wasn’t good enough, it showed he wasn’t good enough for me, took me a few weeks to realize it, when i did that’s the moment he became my ex.
Told me she was married and had 3 kids and then found out she lied about her mother being murdered. Then shortly after I was in the hospital and she had no interest in coming to see me. Rip
Cheated on me with my previous girlfriend. Cheated with my childhood bully. Cheated with a COUPLE. And then tried to jump me while we were dating😁
It’s more what they didn’t do than what they did.
Pushed me down a staircase. However, I still wanted her back even after that, until I found out she was stealing money and not paying bills for over a year. I even wanted her back after I filed for divorce, hoping it would trigger her. Yes, to work on things with me. However, she had a no contact, then. I had a no contact. And neither one of us have spoken to each other since the incident 8 months ago. Now it’s a brutal divorce between attorneys
The best exit ever
Dump me
She kicked a dog at her parents house out of spite, I ended it a few days later.
After taking care of the house, her kids, buying everything, making all the meals, and buying her gifts I had this sinking feeling something was up. Looked at her messages and she was talking to four other guys just that week. Who knows how many in total, I didn’t look farther back or in any other apps. She’s been trying to get me back for months, I think she realizes she messed up. I told her from the start that’s the one and only thing I’ll never forgive. Life is too damn short to deal with cheaters and liars.
Cheated on me and became a raging alcoholic, broke a bunch of my stuff so I left. Stalked me when I left. Would drive in front of my parents house even after I moved out to try to see what I was doing. Myself and my parents got a protection order against him.
The most recent one that I knew I was dating? He was awfully controlling for a guy I wasn’t that excited about in the first place.
Found her texting a man that she was craving his dick inside of her.
He left me, it was for the best though, relationship was starting to become toxic, but it still fucked me up for a long while after.
Be boring AF. Never up for anything fun.
Be Republican. I never really liked him that much though. He pursued me hard.
Be a crazy, creepy but “bad enough to be harmless” stalker. I couldn’t go to a coffee shop with a friend without him magically finding me by complete coincidence, and joining in for the chat. When I broke up with him, he by complete coincidence found me and my friends afterwards and made everyone feel weird crying to my friends about “that thing that just happened”. Eventually he did get the memo to stop stalking me every time I set foot outside and went away (unfortunately, only to permanently damage a 16 year old girl).
Just couldn’t adapt and meet halfway as close as possible. Also wasn’t putting in anymore effort into the relationship I felt was needed to keep it moving.
Existed
She liked to sample other dicks.
Deeply jealous of every girl I spoke with. I tried breaking up with her several times and every time she said she was going to kill herself. I didn’t want that hanging over my head for the rest of my life. 3 years I stuck with her, unhappy for most of the last 2. Finally, one night she stayed out all night with a girlfriend and some work friends and they both crashed at a male co-workers house. I showed up to said house in the morning and she was still there. I told her we were done and that I never wanted to see or talk to her again.
I still don’t know 100% if she cheated on me, but ultimately, I didn’t care. The level of happiness I had with the break-up situation really showed how deeply unhappy I was with her.
Broke up with me
She got too needy, clingy, and emotionally draining. And I tried. I really did. I thought she was going through a rough patch, and once we got through it, everything would go back to how it was when she was sweet, happy and fun.
And, I dunno, maybe that would have even been true on a long enough timeline. But it wasn’t unsustainable enough to find out.
-he cheated on me with sex workers
-he cheated on me with a girl friend while telling me he was only talking to me and dating me
-he masturbated to pictures of his exes/coworkers/classmates from hs
-he received nudes of girl friends while we were dating and encouraged it
-he flirted with coworkers and would lie about plans involving them or his little sister friends
-he lied about his sexuality and was planning to cheat on me with one of his guy friend
-he thought of other people while we were having sex
-he did everything for me to feel small and destroy the little self esteem I had
-it was a cycle of : everything was well between us, he cheat, he feel bad, he confess to me saying it was everything, confess more one day, confess even more untill I break another day, we would take a break, I would go no contact until a mutual friend would feed him information that I was moving on and he would do anything to get me back.
-The last straw : he confessed he molested his sister and cousin when they were 9-10 he was 13-14. And he got diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder while I got diagnosed with autism which explains the chronic nativity I used to have and thinking that everyone had good intentions like me !
It started small, all the lies, and progressively got worse and worse until I could finally let go
Tried to make me feel less than him because I am a woman. He didn’t have the guts to end the relationship, so he was trying to make me end it..
dodged a bullet there tbh
Forgot my birthday while I went all out for his birthday months before. Didn’t even apologize nor nothing so I said see ya 😂
Skid marks
The last girl I dated sat me down and gave the the ultimatum to stop working out, stop riding a motorcycle, buy a “normal” car, and we would only have sex 1-2x a month or we were over. It was a very quick no from me. After that she met a guy who kissed her ass and did whatever she said. She also gained like 70lbs, she was a hottie before. The next girl I got with is not my wife.
Failed his 18365328th chance back together (He loved cheating i guess )
This is real stupid and I regret every part of the relationship now and how naive I was, but this all happened when I was 18,19-20 years old. It was my first serious relationship.
He had trouble being independent from his mother.
I’m all for a man having a good, even close, relationship with his mom, but it was excessive to the point where he would only buy clothes that she liked on him, and things like that. He made way more money than me, and she controlled all of it. Anyway, we were living together in his family’s old homestead (which I kept immaculate – it was a dumpy/messy party house before I moved in) and I was paying for everything. Gas in both of our vehicles, car insurance for one of his vehicles plus my own, groceries, phone/internet bills, electric bill, food and drinks whenever we would go out, property taxes for the 2 years I lived there – just everything. I finally kind of flipped out and broke things off when his parents had us over for dinner one night, and it was a whole “we have to talk” event.
They had the nerve to tell me I needed to start paying rent (on a property that had been paid off for at least 50 years). He didn’t stick up for me at all, and actually agreed with them. Didn’t even give me any credit for already contributing everything I had to support both of us.
I packed what I could fit in my car and left forever.
Drank whiskey until he was slurring and blacked out every night. Also, wouldn’t take no for an answer when he was obviously too drunk to fuck. I swear it was like a dying fish flopping around on top of me. Had many sober talks about this, nothing ever changed behavior wise. The smell of whisky on someone’s breath brings everything back and makes me sick.
Cheated.
Apparently the gym machine was portable.
First wife left. We were too young and she missed her mom.
Second wife left. She was too old and had become too comfortable with living with her mom.
Third wife has been around for 15 years. Can’t wait for her to leave. I’m now too old and comfortable on my own.
He ended it because he needed to “work on himself”.
Cheated 50-11 times
Not support me when I was in need, while I supported him when he was
After repeatedly asking her to give me atleast 5 minutes a day (and her still failing at it), i straight up didn’t msg her for 2 weeks and she herself didn’t msg/call me for that time period. I then promptly broke up because i atleast deserve 5 mins a day of her time.
He has unresolved traumas that affected our relationship.
I mean, we tried—we really did. But there are some things that not even love can fix.
had a psychotic break due to improper use of prescription amphetamines, where she tried to literally kill me.
good times!
She broke up with me 5 times over things that would get sorted out by a heart to heart conversation AFTER detonating the relationship. All valid needs but she would let her feelings fester without saying anything expecting me to just “get it”, pull the rug, look at everything as “you vs me” with this lopsided victim statement and would take me back once I was able to offer a logical solution to what were very pedestrian issues like her wanting to visit her family more often, or for me to get help for depression and anxiety through Covid (which I needed and did so, bigly) and she would just weaponize it against me in the end regardless of how I delivered. Every mental receipt she could pull, was pulled and I truly thought we’d grown out of that.
Moving toward 3 years after the fact and I’m still grieving feeling betrayed and rejected after showing up as my purest self, genuinely, while she was resolute and in a new relationship within 3 months. I guess I wasn’t “the one” but thanks for wasting 8 years of my life and spoiling every bucket list memory we shared together since she, in her words “was never authentic” in the relationship and that it had been doomed from the start. I struggled to believe her when she said that – 8 years is a long time to live in a lie but why put that out there? Why continue taking me back? Calling me manipulative because I was conditioned to constantly chase the relationship you made no efforts to sustain? You got your cake…
left me LMFAO but im thankful he did that
hit me 🙂
Cheated on me and then left me for the guy. I found out on Christmas Day it was truly fucking horrible.
I didn’t like her other boyfriend.
She wanted to do heroin and sleep with other men
Told me it was over.
Never ready
Cheated on me.
Cheated on me and left me for him
After years of arguing he finally raised his hand to hit me. Verbal abuse I can handle physical abuse was my limit
Bop lore was insurmountable to overcome 🥲🙈
He loved that wretched alcohol more than me.
Disrespected me
Raised a 20something adolescent that she is determined to support for the rest of her life.
Broke up with me 🤷🏼♂️
I tolerated the verbal abuse when I should not have. Once she put hands on me, that was the beginning of the end. Our divorce was finalized about 5 months ago. No complaints here! Dodged like 3 bullets with her…I’ll spare you the details…
She went to a bar at lunch and became day drunk.
Took somebody home to our house and spread her whoring legs for him.
Ofcourse in her drunken state she forgot I have inside and outside surveillance. Not to mention I had friends at the bar and they provided surveillance at the bar
My lawyers couldn’t be more happier
He was extremely avoidant, broke up with me twice during our relationship, and breadcrumbed me like crazy. Didn’t put any effort into our relationship, until the very end. But I didn’t snap and realize the relationship was no good until one night when we were having sex and he caught me looking at his face (not creepy or anything, just looking at him) and he got majorly grossed out and said we had to stop.
Idk why that situation planted the thought in my head to leave him more than him dumping me did but it’s how it went.
His ex
Nothing. She tried her best. Our personalities and needs just grew apart and we didnt match each other at all anymore. I hope she is doing well.
I was at a wedding with him and his family. He wanted to go out to the bar afterwards and I wanted to go home so his parents took me home. They decided to spill his secrets. Apparently he had been cheating on me with several women. They reminded me that it wasn’t at fault and that their son was a piece of shit and to get away from him as quickly as possible. That was 14 years ago and I’m still so thankful his parents told me.
Stopped working. Wanted me to support her becoming a housewife. Also wanted to control the money. (No kids). No thanks. She didn’t believe me when I told her this was a deal breaker. I told her she had to at least earn half as much as I did. (I earned a modest income, barely above average). She wouldn’t put in any effort and I lost patience. I moved on and found a true partner. I’m much happier but still a little salty over it even a decade later.
Smoked too much weed, didn’t want me to travel, didn’t want me to spend a year in Europe.
I went out.
We were together for 2,5 years, and recently I found out he was cheating me for 2 years. I found out because I got an std.
Today I was going through our old messages, because now I know the exact time he started cheating, there was never any change in the way he spoke to me, nothing to hint he did something even remotely wrong.
She lives on the other part of the state, so if she didn’t give us an std, I would’ve never found out.
How could he lie for 2 whole years!?
She signed the papers. Telling the world she wanted out of her sacred oath.
My mate
She had a multiyear affair with a woman…
My ex did many things. He was controlling, manipulative, verbally abusive, degrading, demeaning, greedy and just plain evil.
Both of them cheated on me
He was ghosting me and being distant and simultaneously I met the person that would become my wife. We’ve been together for 25 years now.
She did other men, that’s waht she did.
He killed himself
She had a long distance relationship with another guy in another state.
Smirnoff became more important than being a partner in life.
She said “we have to talk…”
Her ex.
Insisted on breathing
She was having a very secret 2nd relationship. As in living with someone when I didn’t know. This was a longer distance relationship but not at first. I found out when I was visiting and she said her roommate was gone, then I walked into another room an found a guys PC setup with the shirt I gave her or she took from me to wear, he had been wearing.
We were both working low paying, low hour jobs during the recession. We were just barely getting by and paying all of our bills late. We had other issues too.
Anyways, I discovered that her ex boyfriend was paying her cell phone bill. They couldn’t have done anything physical because we lived together and he was in the military stationed in another country. She thought that somehow meant this was okay.
Him choosing his avoidance over maintaining a truthful connection, continued to have the Cold War with me.
I didn’t blame him for it or make him feel like anything is his fault.
I just told him what a meaningful connection is by definition and left it at that. Our connection had plenty of moments that makes it one over the 14 years.
I told him “avoidance kills any relationships, including the meaningful ones” not “congratulations, you ruined this relationship
He may hold grudges against me but I don’t hold grudges against him for not being emotionally mature.
And so I have every right to move on because I didn’t leave without an explanation. I left doing everything I could. He chose not to man up and I’m very well prepared to be “the crazy drama woman that got away” in his future sob stories to whoever he chose to repeat the avoidance cycle with.
In the stories of immature men, the woman is guarantee to be the evil drama queen.
But I left with no regrets and that’s what makes my heart feel light and not heavy with hatred.
She was just very annoying mostly. But also, the classic hot/crazy combo.
Left
They didn’t take care of their mental health.
my first girlfriend – threatened to end my life,I even blocked her
my second boyfriend – he ended up breaking up with me and got with the first girl
third boyfriend – parents forced the break-up
Dump me.
What did they do? Everyone in her contact list… except for me.
There have been a few “wtf” moments for me with different people. But the last guy told me he loved his ex still. Then the next day I decided to try to discuss it with him and he completely gaslit me saying he never said anything like that. On top of that he was very coercive during sex and generally not attentive to me at all. Would walk really fast in front of me when we went places… I have POTS so that especially pissed me off.
She realized we had incredibly different short-term goals. I was looking at houses near where I wanted to live and wondering if I should be saving up for a ring. She wasn’t thinking beyond the summer. She knew that once she graduated she should figure out what to do with life, but she was happy thinking semester by semester, not ten years ahead. But we also had very different lives. I was getting away from an abusive situation and wanted to build a new life, she was happily living with her loving family. I was determined to make something out of nothing, with her dad’s financial abilities she is fairly set for life. We were living life too differently, and she didn’t want to be around a guy who was ready to settle down. ‘
I’m not mad. She’s found happiness elsewhere with someone who lives more like her.
Called me 70 times after I told him I was busy. We’d only been together for a month and a half and he was constantly insecure and accusing me of cheating on him
Constant lashing out, berating, no patience, just downright mean and rude. I don’t deserve to be disrespected and treated like a doormat.
Nothing, really. I just realized I was madly in love with someone else. Whoops.
She did several other guys…
I felt invisible, but only when I was with him.
He would play video games for hours and night instead of cleaning up at himself, even though we split the bills and both worked full-time. Instead of inviting me to play with him, which I wanted, he just started hiding it from me. I went away for a month and he promised me multiple times that he would clean up the apartment. When I got back, it was fucking filthy.
She caught me sleeping with her sister.
Left me on my birthday and moved in with another guy the very next day.
Nothing……in bed.
The yelling. I was constantly walking on eggshells not knowing what would set him off any particular day. After 15 years together I finally had enough and asked for a divorce. Later found out he’d also been cheating on me and he remarried as soon as our divorce papers were signed. He yells at her now.