I (M44) did Karate in the 90s and grew close to my Sensei. Over time, that relationship crossed a line and he ended up kissing me on the mouth and molesting me. Years later, I learned I wasn’t the only one—what happened to me was part of a pattern with several other young men at the dojo. I eventually found out he was 86’d from the Karate School in the mid 80s where he was trained because he was questioned on his locker room etiquette with other teens (which he was in the same age).
Some of us have been able to speak openly about it. Others, who I believe went through the same thing, still deny it—and that’s okay. Everyone processes this kind of trauma differently.
As a teen, I wasn’t confused about my identity. I liked girls, and I was fortunate that they liked me too. Still, this happened. I’ve spent years trying to understand how I let it happen. But the truth is—I froze. I didn’t tell anyone. Even when he was later publicly accused, I stayed silent for a while.
Admitting it in counseling changed everything. There’s no feeling like the freedom that comes from finally saying the truth out loud. Since then, I’ve been able to support a few of the others who went through it too. That’s been the most healing part of all. I was able to confront him about it before his passing in 2016 from organ failure, and I’ve since learned how to just let it go altogether.
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People are Trash, I’m happy you are in a safe and healthy space to talk openly about your trauma.
So sad to see such stories. No words will be enough to heal the wounds. My ex was on meds for ptsd from years of abuse as a kid. It changed her way to cope with anxiety and stressful situations which I was a witness of, but never reported it out of the love I had for her with the knowledge of what she endured in the past.
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I also went thru this and later I heard the teacher eventually went to prison and died from suicide. That does not change what I allowed to happen to me. What changed everything is this: My body is a temple. I use it to contact the physical world. Sandwiched between the brain in my body and the intuition in my spirit is my mind. I call on the Lord to fellowship with God in my spirit in His word and my mind is set on the spirit. Thru this fellowship God’s life and nature is given to my body. This changed me. This vision plus this experience plus this enjoyment changes everything. It’s not a religion. It’s resurrection life that cannot be held by Satan sin and death. All mankind needs this. It’s how we are made. It’s what we are made for
Uma pergunta: O Karatê era Shotokan?
Man just reading this makes me want to karate chop his balls.
How was the confrontation. I’m glad that you are at peace and let go.
Is your dad Gary Plauché? That’s what it sounds like to me
Was his name Steven segal?
The Oh No, Don’t Go DoJo
I’m sorry about the people taking it as a joke. It’s not. Your healing is such a big deal! I hope you are proud of yourself too! Please remember you didn’t let anything happen. It’s not your fault but it is a big testament to your character how you kept going and improving in your healing journey. Hoping the best for you 💖
I went through the same thing in the early 2000s with my tae kwon do instructor. I repressed the memories until they came back a couple of years later. Bastard opened up his own gym where he teaches children specifically. I wish there was something I could do, but everything happened ages ago and I don’t think anyone would believe me.
Dude, I’m sorry that happened to you – I’m glad to see that you have had counseling to move past it. Good luck to you brother!
I’m sorry this happened to you. I’m glad you were able to speak about it.
You felt like you needed to discuss your sexuality and seem to be blaming yourself for not stopping it, and I think so many boys suffer in silence because of these same misconceptions.
It’s not your fault, it’s not incumbent on you to “stop him”, and it doesn’t mean you’re not heterosexual. This victim blaming needs to end. You were with an adult and leader that you should have been safe with. None of this is on you.
I hope more boys/ men get the help they need.
I (M45) was molested in 90s too. Also did karate at that age. The person was doing education guidance for my school. Think I was set up by our principal with this person. The principal was also reported by some boys a couple years later for the same thing. School was catholic. Principal was a priest. I wasn’t catholic myself. Anyway found a lot of similarities with your story OP. I suspect we’ve had similar challenges in life as a result.