so i (25m) was dating this girl (27f) for almost 1 year. everything seemed chill with netflix, takeout, dumb inside jokes, occasional weekend trips. she told me she “loved how safe” she felt with me. i thought we were building something.
fast forward to last month. she goes on a “girls trip” to tulum. whatever, i trust her. then i notice she turns off her location. weird. she comes back and starts crying the moment she sees me. says “we need to talk.”
turns out she cheated. with two different guys. one was her “friend” she told me not to worry about, the other was some dude she met at a beach bar and “connected with spiritually.” she said it was “a moment of clarity” for her. WILD.
i was obviously crushed. but wait. it gets better.
she then tells me i made her feel “emotionally unavailable” because i didn’t always ask how her therapy sessions went. apparently that means i’m not “meeting her emotional needs.” this while she’s literally being tag-teamed in a beachfront airbnb by dudes named kai and tyler.
she leaves, blocks me, and posts on instagram the next day with a caption that says: “healing looks good on me.” she’s doing yoga on a cliff in a $300 matching set that i probably paid for.
and now her friends are DMing me to “not speak badly about her” because she’s “reclaiming her power.”
i thought we were the bad guys. i really did.
apparently we’re just the plot devices in someone else’s self-love arc now.
can someone explain what tf just happened to me.