Every time someone compliments me, I don’t believe it and immediately insult myself

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I constantly insult myself now but I especially notice it when someone, usually my bf, compliments me. It could be something small like someone complimenting my cooking skills or drawing skills and instead of saying thank you and believing it, I take it as an opportunity to knock myself down a peg and talk about how I used to be so much better or how there are people who are more talented than I am. It feels unnatural when someone compliments me, like they’re mocking me or they’re just trying to be nice. I wish more people wouldn’t mention anything about what I do, in a negative or positive way, as I think I respond the best when nobody calls me out for my work whether it’s good or bad. When I did believe the compliments I hated them too as I felt so much pressure to be perfect from that point forward and would destroy myself if I fucked something up. The only people I’ll take compliments from is myself, which is rare but not impossible, as I can assess my own skills and assets based on the criteria I think is important and strangers who I’ll never interact with again. In a perfect world I’d keep my work to myself so it doesn’t get out and lead to people forming opinions around it.

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  1. CoolBeansSkater Avatar

    People like what you do. Don’t have a low opinion of yourself. Nothing is ever going to be Michelin Star or Michelangelo or completely perfect in your view. Just see that it makes others happy and they’re clearly not lying to you by the sounds of it