So I’m 24 turning 25 this year. I have a job and am pursuing a degree that I hope to get by the end of the year/early months of next year. I have friends, I don’t have to worry too much about money, because I’m being supported by my parents until I finish my degree and I go to therapy.
Overall and objectively I’m living a good life, but I constantly have something that makes me feel like I can’t enjoy myself in the current.
No matter if it’s a lack of activity (gym, etc), being hooked up on ex’s, annoying boss, whether I want to study a different subject after this one or start work…
It’s all things I can influence but I just feel so indecisive and unmotivated – I feel stuck and by that I’m making myself stuck and miserable I think. I’m constantly doing anything in order not to do something of value for my life. Maybe it’s a reaction based on fear.
I feel like I’m in my head too much, too analytical and a bit oddly wired.
How did you learn to shift your perspective and take action? Did you just…do it?
Also how did you deal with feeling like the entire weight of the world lays on your shoulders when you really shouldn’t?
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I am your age.
How are you stuck?
I am also getting a degree (though I don’t plan on finishing it soon), I work, I workout, I live with my significant other, We are not supported financially and I can go on about the good and bad in my life.
Look, my perspective on life is probably different from yours due to different experiences we both probably had however, my perspective? Do good to your loved ones and be your best version. Also, make sure you are dependable. That is all.
Sure there are hardships and shit so what? I know what I need to do, and I try to do it.
Without an iPhone or social media
I spent half of it at university, the other half trying and failing to become a filmmaker, I was also in a failing relationship for most of it.
So… I navigated it poorly.
In hindsight I wish I had just gotten a steady office job like I have now and started saving as much money as possible.
Ngl I spent my 20s doing most of what I wanted. Had a lotta fun
Sounds like you have a lot of “hidden” considerations. I’ve struggled with having little to no energy to analyze my life, just to find out that I already had a lot on my plate I did not consider. Try and write down what your aspirations are, getting a job, finishing degree, going to the gym etc. Then write down all you currently have to manage, and this includes everything that takes an active effort. For me it was cooking dinner, showering, doctor visits, family issues and so on. Then I looked at what am I doing to achieve these goals, what am I doing to sustain life (the minimum necessities). Lastly I looked at everything I did that was not contributing to anything and saw if I could phase it out to clear out more mental energy. I was also advised to see what prevented me to achieve the things I wanted, but I was apparently horrible at that.