I 24(M) and my gf 23(F) were given a car for pretty cheap (around 800$) by my gfs parents since they just got a new car. We live in the city area so usually the only spot to park is on the side of the road on a hill outside of our house, but we have an alleyway behind our house with 4 cars parked there. For context it’s a double sided house with one side being my gfs parent’s side and the other side is rented out to her aunt. When my gfs parent’s offered us the car my gf wanted my opinion on if we should take them up on the offer. I said yes but only if we can have a parking spot in the back because I do the driving for me and my gf and it would be more convenient. They agreed but we had realized that as it was no other car could fit in the alley for parking unless they made room for our car. So we did just that and shifted the cars around and had made room, but then my gfs cousin that lives next door also 23(F) started freaking out and said she didn’t have a place to park. We went outside and there was clearly a spot about 1 and a half the size of a normal parking spot but she refused to park there and was throwing a massive fit over it saying there was no way her car could fit. I told her if she’s not able to park her car there then she had to park in the front on the hill and that it wasn’t my problem she couldn’t park since there was clearly enough room and even bigger cars could have parked there.(We tested it with a bigger car and it had fit in the spot) She then began demanding that we move our car so she could fit hers even though her car could clearly fit. We said no and that if she didn’t park crooked it would fit and went inside and this really set her off. She then began texting my gfs dad and mom telling them it was their fault she then started messing my gf to fight with her and they all blocked her. But the same night she used WhatsApp to make 4 different numbers to harass my gf all night. So am I the asshole?
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I 24(M) and my gf 23(F) were given a car for pretty cheap (around 800$) by my gfs parents since they just got a new car. We live in the city area so usually the only spot to park is on the side of the road on a hill outside of our house, but we have an alleyway behind our house with 4 cars parked there. For context it’s a double sided house with one side being my gfs parent’s side and the other side is rented out to her aunt. When my gfs parent’s offered us the car my gf wanted my opinion on if we should take them up on the offer. I said yes but only if we can have a parking spot in the back because I do the driving for me and my gf and it would be more convenient. They agreed but we had realized that as it was no other car could fit in the alley for parking unless they made room for our car. So we did just that and shifted the cars around and had made room, but then my gfs cousin that lives next door also 23(F) started freaking out and said she didn’t have a place to park. We went outside and there was clearly a spot about 1 and a half the size of a normal parking spot but she refused to park there and was throwing a massive fit over it saying there was no way her car could fit. I told her if she’s not able to park her car there then she had to park in the front on the hill and that it wasn’t my problem she couldn’t park since there was clearly enough room and even bigger cars could have parked there.(We tested it with a bigger car and it had fit in the spot) She then began demanding that we move our car so she could fit hers even though her car could clearly fit. We said no and that if she didn’t park crooked it would fit and went inside and this really set her off. She then began texting my gfs dad and mom telling them it was their fault she then started messing my gf to fight with her and they all blocked her. But the same night she used WhatsApp to make 4 different numbers to harass my gf all night. So am I the asshole?
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> I might be the asshole because I told my gfs cousin that it wasn’t my problem if she couldn’t park. And I feel bad but because its my gfs family but I have to know if I’m at fault
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INFO so the aunt and cousin live in the other half of the duplex right? and there are 4 parking spaces. in your new arrangement, are you, your gf, and her parents using 2 spots or 3? sounds like you have left half the house with 1/4 of the parking…
NTA, but cousin sounds like the kind of psycho that will trash your car
NTA at all. The cousin sounds like she has some control issues or something else going on though.
Glad to hear your family stood up for you
NTA
> there was clearly a spot about 1 and a half the size of a normal parking spot but she refused to park there and was throwing a massive fit over it saying there was no way her car could fit.
>it wasn’t my problem she couldn’t park since there was clearly enough room
Enough said.
Cousin isn’t just an entitled A H. She’s got other issues. Block her on everything & keep a careful eye for you, your gf & your car/property.
NTA, but this cousin problem looks like it might be going nowhere.
ESH Clearly, the cousin has some insecurities about parking. Maybe her depth perception isn’t as good as yours, or she has severe anxiety about parking and needs to build her confidence up. The random numbers harassing you all night are kind of creepy. She really shouldn’t be giving out other people’s phone numbers without permission.The people harassing you aren’t jerks, though. They got the story from her perspective, and she probably just wanted you to see other people are on her side.
You, on the other hand, called attention to the very situation she’s insecure about: her parking skills (even if that wasn’t intended to upset her.) Since she’s aware of her poor parking skills, it just made her more mad/frustrated. You didn’t approach her concerns with empathy. You didn’t offer to park for her.
Why don’t you offer to park for her when you’re home? Perhaps if she gets enough practice pulling out of the space, she’ll become more confident in her ability to pull into the space as well. (You could ask GF parents to do it when you’re not there so she doesn’t take up two spaces.) If you really care about how cousin’s flying monkeys think of you, you can feel free to take a picture of her car parked in it’s spot and send it to everyone who messaged you. But do not engage after that. A simple picture of her car in its generous parking spot with the text “problem solved” will be sufficient.
INFO :Who had their car first? To me that would be the difference. If cousin had her car first and was parking there, yta. If she didn’t get her car until after you did, nta.
Imagine throwing a tantrum over your own bad parking skills instead of just… parking correctly 😭. She should be mad at the DMV, not y’all.