Sleep, being tired all the time does not help. Not only in sex. Age of so much digital consumption you can easily fall into the trap of watching to much YT or reddit or insta and there goes your sleep.
Confidence—real, unapologetic confidence. The kind that makes you walk into a room knowing exactly what you bring, knowing your body, your wants. When you feel that good in your own skin, trust me… everything behind closed doors gets way hotter
Weight loss and communication. Communicate what fantasies, desires and fetishes you have. It is scary to do as your leaving yourself wide open thinking she may think i am weird etc. best thing i ever did, we communicate, both got our things out and now we are exploring and learning each other in anew way.
While I miss it dearly, I stopped cycling. Seems unrelated, but I was covering long distances on a super light and aerodynamic saddle that was putting a ton of pressure on my gooch and causing circulation problems.
Complimenting my wife more and being more engaged when we discuss our day before bed. I honestly have no desire to go over what I did every day, I find it tedious and I would much rather just chill on my phone. But I have learned that my wife really values connection through communication (I’m 46, I should have figured this out a while ago!).
So while sometimes I want to be anywhere else, I make sure to take the time to listen and have real conversations with her. I see her really light up and it makes me feel good. Even if I do dumb shit I have found she is much more forgiving as long as I stay vulnerable and engaged every day.
Oh yea, and the sex is awesome because she feels fulfilled and actually wants to get me off and be my “good girl”.
being comfortable to be seen in your “ugly” state. bed hair, morning breath, hairy legs, bloated stomach, puffy face.. those things should not stop you from feeling sexy and acting sexy
Stopping hormonal birth control. I guess you could make the argument that that does indeed have to do with sex, but I wasn’t expecting that aspect of my life to improve so much. It was truly night and day
Coming to terms with the shitty sexual partnerships of the past, letting them go and truly moving on from them. This took a lot of pressure and baggage off my relationship and both of us to enjoy it that much more.
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Eating clean
Exercise
COMMUNICATION: sex is all about that, but it doesn’t come from sex (at first).
Getting all the secrets out…is weak but true
exercise and weight lifting.
Not watching porn.
liking your own body
Being confident in my body
Lexapro for multiple reasons
Clean, honest, mentally and physically healthy.
Talking.
This includes flirting, compliments, sharing insecurities, dirty talk, teasing and the eventual exit interview conversation that leads to break up sex
Gym and a whole food diet
Eating healthy, drinking water, exercise.
Healthier living has a drastic impact on one’s sex life!
deeper emotional connection. also more self confidence
Celery, look it up.
That women not always want to be treated like a princess.
Quitting smoking.
Sleep, being tired all the time does not help. Not only in sex. Age of so much digital consumption you can easily fall into the trap of watching to much YT or reddit or insta and there goes your sleep.
Just loosing weight and loving the person you are with.
Working out, eating right, and quitting alcohol. 5 years of this so far, and my wife can’t keep her hands off me.
Be honest and open of anything you do, it gives more trust
Beter eating and beter sleep
Neighbours daughter
THC Gummies
Divorce
Acting in the moment and without inhibition
Confidence—real, unapologetic confidence. The kind that makes you walk into a room knowing exactly what you bring, knowing your body, your wants. When you feel that good in your own skin, trust me… everything behind closed doors gets way hotter
Working out
Listening and watching your partner
Exercise and getting rid of external stress
Exercise boosted my libido dramatically. Always been fairly active, but tripled my workout time and intensity really ramped it.
Reduced alcohol intake.
Reduced caffeine intake.
Quit smoking.
Keeping the bed made helped.
Telling them I wanted to intentionally improve our sex life. Not all that hard of a conversation, they did too. (Woohoo!)
For a dope that knows as little about science as he does, he knows much less about numbers. Impressively stupid
Chocolate
Growing a beard.
Test C
Immense Stress. Since my Libido is dead I dont complain about being single and sexless anymore. So I guess thats an improvement
Losing over 100 lbs
Confidence! Finally allowing him to explore my body rather than just focusing on what I can do for him. It’s been a game changer.
Exercise. Helped me mentally and physically.
Stretching
Smoking weed. I get more confident and makes me do what I want to do freely without thinking much.
Being comfortable and feeling safe with the person you’re with.
Age. I was “meh” towards sex until my mid thirties, then all the sudden was horny constantly and it just won’t stop.
Age
COMMUNICATION
surprisingly its the catalyst for improvement with a lot of things
Cleaning the house without being asked.
My wife has started reading those new trendy romance fantasy elf-smut books. It’s been wonderful. Thank you, authors.
Helpful tips:
Weight loss and communication. Communicate what fantasies, desires and fetishes you have. It is scary to do as your leaving yourself wide open thinking she may think i am weird etc. best thing i ever did, we communicate, both got our things out and now we are exploring and learning each other in anew way.
While I miss it dearly, I stopped cycling. Seems unrelated, but I was covering long distances on a super light and aerodynamic saddle that was putting a ton of pressure on my gooch and causing circulation problems.
Cardio, having a good bond, listening to each others feedback.
Getting my first car 😜
Love
The irony is that just about everything has something to do with your sex life in one way or another.
communication with my wife, and eating better helps too
Complimenting my wife more and being more engaged when we discuss our day before bed. I honestly have no desire to go over what I did every day, I find it tedious and I would much rather just chill on my phone. But I have learned that my wife really values connection through communication (I’m 46, I should have figured this out a while ago!).
So while sometimes I want to be anywhere else, I make sure to take the time to listen and have real conversations with her. I see her really light up and it makes me feel good. Even if I do dumb shit I have found she is much more forgiving as long as I stay vulnerable and engaged every day.
Oh yea, and the sex is awesome because she feels fulfilled and actually wants to get me off and be my “good girl”.
Being with a partner who makes you feel good about yourself and is filled with positivity.
As a woman- putting down a heated blanket first. Total game changer.
Divorce and a far more respectful and healthy communication driven partner.
Sometimes, it’s just NOT you!
Cardio
Perimenopause. It increased my libido and I get way wetter prior to penetration now.
Success
Traveling to South East Asia
weight loss
being comfortable to be seen in your “ugly” state. bed hair, morning breath, hairy legs, bloated stomach, puffy face.. those things should not stop you from feeling sexy and acting sexy
weed
Must be my adled mind, but I thought everything has to do with sex.
Lifting and making sure he eats lots of pineapple
Celibacy. Can’t be disappointed if you don’t even try.
Taking massive poops before hand
Dirty Talk, Roleplay in imagining a 3rd person
Anal kegels.
When women acknowledge my existence. That seems to help quite a bit lol.
Having all my other shit together. Tidy house, solid hygiene, regular exercise routine.
For me, my diet. When I eat healthy my sex life with my woman is way better. Too much sugar was killing my boners.
Getting back in shape. Feel better. Feel more attractive and confident. Better stamina. All of it.
Stopping hormonal birth control. I guess you could make the argument that that does indeed have to do with sex, but I wasn’t expecting that aspect of my life to improve so much. It was truly night and day
I haven’t looked into why yet, but days when i do a little run (5k or so) I tend to last longer than on days where i don’t run.
I’m lifting weights almost every day and that has no effect, but the run gets me there.
So – mimicking what others have said, exercise helps a lot.
Zero porn. Zero.
I got fired lol
Coming to terms with the shitty sexual partnerships of the past, letting them go and truly moving on from them. This took a lot of pressure and baggage off my relationship and both of us to enjoy it that much more.
Weight training and cardio — hands down.
My husband actually being nice!!! I would avoid sex if he talk to me crazy, or always try to argue! He’s bipolar as hell!!!
L Arginine + Citrulline
Being with an emotional mature partner who knows how to ask for what he wants.
Strawberry cough/Green Crack.
Getting divorced.
27 years you can’t do anything else
Self confidence