So my guy friend basically tried to tell me that women can’t remember the pain from childbirth and that’s why they continue to give birth. I tell him memories can fade but my mom gave birth twice with no epidural and she hemorrhage with my older sister. She tells me all the time how painful childbirth is. I told him that and he said to me essentially that that’s why my mom gave birth again bc she couldn’t remember how painful🤦🏽♀️….
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Is he thinking about “twilight sleep”? they used to give women a type of anesthesia
He’s an idiot
I had an epidural twice, and I absolutely remember the pain. Your friend is an idiot.
I certainly didn’t forget how painful it was, and it’s been 12 years. That’s one of the (many) reasons I have only 1 child.
Mothers are focused on the joys and burdens of raising our children. It does not mean that we have literally forgotten the pain of childbirth.
He probably heard that from the bible and took it literally.
I can’t even imagine what childbirth is like. Tooth pain is pretty much the most pain I’ve ever felt. Women’s pain tolerance is higher, or at least that’s what I heard.
Kick him in the balls really hard and then say to him, now every year on the anniversary of the ball kicking you will ask him how much of the pain he remembers. If he can’t remember, kick him again but harder 🤣
How about this to really fuck with him: I enjoyed birth so much I looked forward to the possibility of doing it a fourth time. I am fully aware how painful it is, and in those moments I was connected to my power, and linked with every other mother on earth. My body opened and brought a soul here. Four times. Men have no fucking clue how amazing it can be.
A lot of men have a deep-seated need to be right, no matter how foolish their assertion or pet theory. Even as it becomes blatantly obvious they’re wrong. For some, that’s when they dig in even more.
Ha. Unmedicated birth twice and once with laughing gas. I remember the pain. I’ve also had a failed bone graft so I tell doctors that my unmedicated birth of a 10lb baby was a 7 because the bone graft trying to push its way out of my skin was a 10. (I then give them whatever # my current pain is at, it does a good job of making them take me seriously when shit hurts).
I kept having babies because I wanted them, not because I spaced out how much pregnancy and delivery sucks.
There are people who think that the rush of hormones when giving birth causes an amnesia effect, where women forget the pains associated with birth. They use that as an explanation as to why some women choose to have babies, even though it’s extremely painful for most. As far as I know, there is no research to support this idea. Though it would be a cool evolutionary mechanism.
Does he not remember feeling pain before?
Or is he just another man who assumes women operate entirely differently than from himself.
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I mean, he’s not wrong in the sense that the human brain tends to just gaslight ourselves into not thinking too hard on painful/embarrassing/traumatizing experiences, probably as a way to cope on a daily basis, so most women don’t think about it day to day after some time.
However, unless they were legit passed out during birth, there is no real way a woman wouldn’t recall the pain and trauma around birth if she actually tries to remember.
The whole “oh post birth hormones make the pain seem trivial” is an old wives tale, and kind of a joke, since why else would any woman have more than one kid?
I’ve actually had this covo with my sister, who’s had three kids, about 2-3 years apart each time. She 100% remembered everything, from the discomfort and pain of pregnancy, to the C-sections (which she had to have due to a medical issue, and was numbed down but awake for), to the insane pain of recovery post birth, having to heal not only from carrying a child for the better part of a year, but being cut open through layers of skin, fat and muscle, her organs literally moved around, and then being stitched back up.
She did it multiple times because the good outweighed the bad. She and her husband wanted three kids, and they are so happy with their family. She absolutely never forgot about the insane pain and trauma her body went through though, but simply accepted it as the sacrifice she had to make to bring all three, very much wanted and planned for kids into the world.
To imply that women simply forget and that’s why they’re able to have multiple kids, is to negate the strength, bravery and frigging sacrifice involved in childbirth.
Ask him if he got kicked in the balls, would he remember the pain it caused a year later. He’s a ding dong…..
Kick him in the balls for me and ask him tomorrow if he still remembers the pain considering it’s probably 1000x less painful than childbirth. If he doesnt remember, do it again
Let’s hook him up to those labor simulator machines and then ask him a year later if he remembers the pain.
Sometimes we all need to remind ourselves not to believe everything we think
I am mother of a child and currently expecting a second one. I do remember the labor pain and that I screamed my lungs out. It still was a beautiful experience. But it was a pain intensity I never felt before.
The guy’s an idiot.
I had 2, 9lb babies and believe me I remember the pain.
Mom of 2. It is a documented scientific fact that childbirth releases hormones that causes most women to remember the pain of it as less than it actually was. Like all biological processes, this does not work identically on everyone and it certainly does not fully erase the memory of pain.
This is probably what he was referring to and did not understand.
I feel like this is a popular old wives’ tale. My mom has even told me that you “forget” how painful it is, because having the baby once it’s born is so wonderful and joyful.
I have to admit that it’s a convenient myth to perpetuate. If you can convince a young woman who’s never given birth that she’ll forget all about the pain, she might feel more confident about experiencing labor.
Ugh. Tell Mr. Know Nothing that many women continue to have babies IN SPITE of the pain because it is worth it to them.
Now, if men had to have babies, being the sissies that many of them are, the world would not be overpopulated because they’d stop at one.
Heard a 52-yr old man whining about knowing how women feel giving birth after he had a laparoscopic appendectomy. I wanted to punch him in the throat.
So, don’t reply for a second. Look him dead in the eye. Ask him: “I just told you that she remembers. Did you not hear me?”
When he assures you that he heard you, ask him, “Do you think I’m lying to you, and that my mother was lying to me?”
This is not an argument. This is a man refusing to acknowledge what a woman has said. He’s not presenting counter evidence, or even stepping back, and trying to argue that *most* women don’t remember. He’s straight up invalidating what you said.
And it’s weird that he’s doing that.
“As a man, let me tell you about your menstrual cycle…”
LOOOOL I’m 17 years out from my first birth and I can remember EVERY BIT OF IT. I still went on to have a second, but that was no picnic either. Men need to shut the fk up
“I understand the reason fighters keep getting back in the ring is that they forget the pain of being repeatedly hit, kicked, and knocked down. They could never get up and do it again if they remembered that. ”
This idea that we just don’t remember is kind of infantilizing. As you say, the memory fades. We choose to reenter that ring (if we’ve chosen) because we want the prize more than we want to sit at home, watching. Or we go there because there WAS no choice, and now this is the end of a road we didn’t want to be on.
“Uh-huh. Any woman you say that to will think you’re a gullible idiot. 4chan is not a reliable source of information when it comes to women. Go do a web search, you can thank me later.”