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It’s fruitful. You can’t explain the feeling of looking at your partner who became your family through life experience and adversity. That’s something magical.
After a while there’s not a lot of “trying hard”, you get used to each other. Life long commitment is a great joy and working together enables you both to achieve much more than any single person could ever hope to.
After over 30 years together, my spouse is still my best friend. We laugh until our sides hurt and hold each other through life’s storms. Some days love is work, but when our eyes meet across the room, I remember why I choose him again and again. This imperfect, beautiful journey together has been the greatest gift of my life.
Love and fun. I agree about not a lot of trying hard. Most now is silently shaking my head at annoying habits I accept now will never change.
So she will hoover the whole house, but not wipe the worktop splash from her drink.
Its not an effort, its a privilege, they’re my soulmate, I’m so glad I met them early in life (we were 16, dated for 10 years, have been married for 30).
Because we have a solid relationship, we respect each other, we enjoy each other’s company but still understand that we have some separate interests and don’t have to spend every waking moment together, we share equally in day-to-day chores and financial obligations, and because whenever we hit rough patches over the years as all couples do, we worked through them like adults instead of bailing at the first sign of trouble. (Note that I’m not talking about things like abuse or addiction here.) Married 44 years in October.
We simply do not have to try hard. I met my wife on a blind date. We were married within a week of turning 21. We will be married 44 years in September. I never understood why people say marriage is hard work? We simply have the same values. She was and still is the most beautiful woman I have ever seen.
He’s my best friend, he’s my soft place to land when things get hard, we worked hard to build this life we share, we can often speak with saying a word, we have learned that gratitude is as important as love and we realize that adjustments have to be made as we age. And that’s ok, and it’s ok to laugh about it.
To understand the answer to such a question, you need first to understand how living a long time changes a person in many ways. That is the harder insight to gain for the young. Indeed, how can you gain such an insight as most of you have only lived a few decades? But only from that perspective can you begin to understand why two people of advancing years would continue to stay together in a committed relationship.
Even if I ever got tired of him, which after 37 years has never happened, I’d have to either live alone or start over with someone else, and both prospects sound awful. We’ve been to the same places, we know the same punch lines and references, we know one another’s likes and dislikes (but we’re also still learning things about each other). I like him and I love him, and we get along incredibly well. Why would I want to change that?
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Why not?
She’s the most fun person I ever found.
I enjoy his company.
It’s fruitful. You can’t explain the feeling of looking at your partner who became your family through life experience and adversity. That’s something magical.
Almost 38 years ago I made a promise.
Once you get through the hard parts, you really enjoy the easy parts so much more. I have a partner that always has my back now.
After a while there’s not a lot of “trying hard”, you get used to each other. Life long commitment is a great joy and working together enables you both to achieve much more than any single person could ever hope to.
After over 30 years together, my spouse is still my best friend. We laugh until our sides hurt and hold each other through life’s storms. Some days love is work, but when our eyes meet across the room, I remember why I choose him again and again. This imperfect, beautiful journey together has been the greatest gift of my life.
Because he’s definitely my person, and I love our life together.
Love and fun. I agree about not a lot of trying hard. Most now is silently shaking my head at annoying habits I accept now will never change.
So she will hoover the whole house, but not wipe the worktop splash from her drink.
She’s perfect for me. When you find your person you don’t have to “try very hard, repeatedly”.
Its not an effort, its a privilege, they’re my soulmate, I’m so glad I met them early in life (we were 16, dated for 10 years, have been married for 30).
We get along..kinda move around each other at times.. our cynicism matches pretty well.
Because we have a solid relationship, we respect each other, we enjoy each other’s company but still understand that we have some separate interests and don’t have to spend every waking moment together, we share equally in day-to-day chores and financial obligations, and because whenever we hit rough patches over the years as all couples do, we worked through them like adults instead of bailing at the first sign of trouble. (Note that I’m not talking about things like abuse or addiction here.) Married 44 years in October.
We simply do not have to try hard. I met my wife on a blind date. We were married within a week of turning 21. We will be married 44 years in September. I never understood why people say marriage is hard work? We simply have the same values. She was and still is the most beautiful woman I have ever seen.
He’s my best friend, he’s my soft place to land when things get hard, we worked hard to build this life we share, we can often speak with saying a word, we have learned that gratitude is as important as love and we realize that adjustments have to be made as we age. And that’s ok, and it’s ok to laugh about it.
We chased each other around the car the other day. Who else am I going to be silly with?
To understand the answer to such a question, you need first to understand how living a long time changes a person in many ways. That is the harder insight to gain for the young. Indeed, how can you gain such an insight as most of you have only lived a few decades? But only from that perspective can you begin to understand why two people of advancing years would continue to stay together in a committed relationship.
I love my wife. We are a team. I couldn’t imagine going through life with anyone else by my side.
I put effort into our relationship, but I don’t have to try hard. It all comes very easily.
Even if I ever got tired of him, which after 37 years has never happened, I’d have to either live alone or start over with someone else, and both prospects sound awful. We’ve been to the same places, we know the same punch lines and references, we know one another’s likes and dislikes (but we’re also still learning things about each other). I like him and I love him, and we get along incredibly well. Why would I want to change that?