It’s done – I sent a message to my mil saying our boundaries had been crossed and as a result we no longer want her in our home when no one is there. No babysitting and we’ll only visit as a family of 4. No picking kids up from daycare
I sent the message, she’s seen it. I feel sick to my stomach but we’ll have to wait and see what happens next
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Good for you!
Does she have her own key? Time to change the locks
Also time to have consequences ready for the inevitable freak out she’s going to have
Good for you! It’s a tough thing to do but it needs to be done. Remember her reaction to your boundary is none of your business. Don’t bend and break for her
Have you warned the daycare that they are not to release your kids to her or her flying monkeys? Do it asap!
If she’s like all the other JNs, she’s gonna lose it. Probably on DH, because she knows she can likely manipulate him. Be ready to hold your ground. Make sure your daycare knows that she isn’t to pick them up.
I’m proud of you for doing this early so that hopefully you aren’t doing it 20 years from now still.