First part is on my page
Tldr below
I finally moved out early in the morning, right after he left for work. It was his place, and I didn’t have much to begin with, so the move was easy. I’d been slowly filling up my new place over the past month, getting everything ready so I could leave without a hassle.
A lot of you suggested I ghost him but I couldn’t. That’s just not me. I don’t like disappearing on people, even when they deserve it. So instead, I came back that evening and waited for him to get home from work around 7pm. I was nervous, but also kind of relieved for it all to finally be over.
When he walked in, I was sitting at the dining table wearing my coat. He immediately sensed something was off. He asked me where I was going, and I told him, “Home.” He laughed and said, “But you are home,” clearly trying to play it off but he could tell something was up.
Then I sent everything I’d been collecting screenshots, videos, all of it to his WhatsApp. He looked confused and asked why I was texting him. And then he opened the messages. I watched the color drain from his face. I didn’t think I’d enjoy it, but I did. He went pale, breathing heavily, and just placed his phone on the table, staring at me like I was a ghost. I didn’t say anything just watching him.
Then came the begging. He grabbed my hand, apologized over and over, said he “didn’t mean to cheat,” claimed he ended it three months ago, that “she meant nothing,” and how much he loves me and wants to marry me.
I told him we’re never getting married. It’s over. And I didn’t say anything else.
That’s when he broke down crying like a child. I was honestly disgusted. I stood there watching him on his knees, clutching my legs, begging for forgiveness, and I felt… nothing. No sympathy. No sadness. Just done. I was completely checked out. I didn’t want to say much to him. I just felt numb and it felt pointless.
Eventually, he turned into this emotional, sweaty, sobbing mess. When he went to the bathroom, I grabbed my last backpack and left. It’s finally over. I’m grateful I don’t love him anymore. It was an unconventional way to get over someone but it worked for me
Thank you for all of the kind messages and advice.
TLDR I moved out whilst he was at work and then came back to show him the evidence and ended it. He broke down. Then I left.
Comments
I wish you could hear my applause. That was great. We need more people like you.
Good for you!!
Your great good for you. Put yourself first. Your a great example.
And that’s what you call a coup de grace. Glad you were able to get the satisfaction of closure
This was a delightful read. Idk you but I’m proud of you. You did that. All while handling yourself with grace. Great job. Hope your new chapter treats you well.
Bravo lady, bravo. I hope I’m never in your situation but if I do somehow find myself there, I hope to take notes from you.
I like the way you did it but thought it could have gone sideways and scary depending on his reaction. Glad you are free and safe 🌷
This is the way you end it… good for you. Make sure he is off any shared accounts including Amazon, Netflix, Hulu and banking..
Heal, good luck
(Standing ovation) 👏👏👏👏👏
Good for you!
I only read the tldr, but it took you 7 months to do this?
https://i.redd.it/go66dt0n3zf71.jpg
This was so satisfying.
Good Job and Good Luck finding a much better relationship in the future when you are ready !!
I did the same thing when I left my boyfriend of 12 years, not for cheating but just not making me a priority. I recommend the process of being fully set up in your next home, moving out while they are gone and save your goodbyes for last. It would have been a mess dealing with him any other way. After years of threatening to leave him he thought I never would so he felt betrayed. If you really care about someone don’t take them for granted.
Ouch! He finally realised just how much you meant to him when it was too late. It’ll be a lesson for him hopefully in future.
I hope you find someone who treats you right and won’t look elsewhere.
This took a lot of strength, most people couldn’t do it.. not only how hard it would have been to keep it quiet and act like everything was fine when it hurt inside but to actually be the decent person and give him the time of day to tell him you were leaving..
“I didn’t mean to cheat”, seriously, was he in a fugue state?
He’s for the streets, girl. Good for you! Life starts now! On to bigger and better things. Thanks for the update!
Also, I have no idea where you are located, but damn, I wish I could buy you a drink! Cheers! 🥂
Congratulations on a well executed and healing strategy
I LOVE THIS FOR U!
I cn visualise. Ppl forget others r also humans and deserve to b treated respectfully. I’m glad u handled it tactfully yet driving home the point that u r no pushover. Clinical finishing, no fuss. If I were somewhere nearby id come and give u a hug.
That’s the best way. To see how truly pathetic he really is. You’ll never have to worry about being attracted to him again, not even a real man but a blubbering baby.