Hello, I’ve been dating my girlfriend (F18) for almost a year, we sometimes expressed our sexual fantasies (quite silly) and it was pretty fun, but for the past couple days my girlfriend kept telling me that she wanted to try a threesome with me and another guy, I told her that I was uncomfortable, like very uncomfortable with the idea of sharing my girlfriend with someone else, she just asked “why?? why not??” and I explained it just made me uncomfortable seeing her pleasing another man, she didn’t seem to get it like at all when I thought it was pretty simple to understand.. and I apologized saying that I was sorry that I couldn’t just do a threesome. But she was disappointed, very disappointed, she said “But I wanted to, it’s hot” and I didn’t know how to feel about it, like seriously it just bothers me so much, she wanted a threesome so badly but I just can’t do that, now I’m thinking that she likes to be shared with someone else, and it just weirds me out and I overthink about it, how can I help it? She knew that I was possessive, and I hated sharing her so I had just no idea why would she suggest such things, or maybe I’m just overreacting?
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Run dude
You’re not overreacting. Most people wouldn’t like to see their girlfriend or boyfriend have sex with someone else right in front of them. She will just have to respect that if she wants to be with you.
Do not apologise for wanting a faithful spouse. You are 100% correct to not want to see her with anyone else, that’s adultery. Shut that shit down firmly and quickly or get away fast before she breaks your heart proper
lol i knew what this post was going to be as soon as i read the title.
why do young dudes assume you have to have sex with the other dude in a MFM situation? haven’t you seen porn?
so here’s the thing – and you’re gonna hate reading this, but whatever. you’ve got two choices – give it a try, or she’s going to bail and find some dudes who will.
spit-roasting and taking turns on a chick is fun as hell. call your best pal and go to town on your chick before someone else does.
edit: keep the downvotes coming, virgins 👍 i can feel your jealously with each one 😂
Some people refuse to appreciate and respect monogamous relationships while expecting all the benefits of one. She doesn’t deserve your loyalty. But YOU deserve a loving partner you can trust and respect!!
She’s not respecting your boundaries, huge red flag, you might want to think about dumping her
Tell her you want to have a threesome with another girl and see her reaction. And ask her why when she says no.
It’s a bad sign
It could mean she wants to cheat or already cheated and wants to soften the blow with a wrong way threesome. Even a Norman threesome is bad btw
Completely normal not to want to see another dude f$)king your gf.
For the swingers out there i am not attacking but it’s a choice lifestyle for the rest of us it’s called cheating
That my friend is the “ick”. Once you get it, it’s all but pointless to try and fight it. This is a dead end venture. Ya might have gotten over/passed by it if she hadn’t tried to pressure you, but what’s done is done an it can’t be undone.
She asked, you said no, and that should be the end of the discussion. That happens sometimes, where one partner would like something that the other person isn’t into. If she brings it up again, remind her that it’s a definite no for you, and if she continues to press you, then you may need to reevaluate the relationship.
This is the equivalent of a girl not wanting an FMF threesome and you’re in your full right not to be okay with her fantasy. She should either respect your boundaries and have a happy relationship with you, or leave and go fulfil her fetishes with somebody else. Either way, it’s a good situation for you. Love is about mutual understanding and a LOT of compromises to make things work, so if she’s not willing to be monogamous, you’re basically dodging a bullet.
Yo digo que hagas el trío y después te vayas de ahí no tiene sentido esa relación. Haz el trío y huye bro
It’s okay to have boundaries.
The one thing I can say for certain: you’re not going to be dating her for long.
Me and my wife double team guys and we both agree that her pushing it like that is not okay. Stuff like that should come from respectful conversations and mutual willingness.
yea get outta there, shes young and so are you. Its only a matter of time when she breaks up with you because she wants to “experience life”, which essentially translates to “i want to fuck other people” which is okay, but just get outta there before you get hurt
Break up now. You’re not sexually compatible with her. She will find a way to fulfill her desires.
NOR
This is not going to end well.
Do the threesome then dump her, that’ll show her 😂 jk jk don’t do that
Not overreacting. It’s pretty disrespectful to suggest really.
She’s pretty much simultaneously saying you’re not enough for her, telling you she’s willing to bang another dude, and also that she’s thinks you’re the type of weak, permissive guy that would allow such a thing.
Also, it’s pretty fucking gay dude. Return her to the streets from whence she came.
Ask her how’d she feel if you suggested a threesome with another female or if you were to swap, MAYBE she’ll feel the same about you pleasing another women or maybe she’s truly into the idea of an open relationship. You should discuss if it’s a deal breaker for her and if it is then DONT SETTLE. You’re allowed to be a little “possessive” in a monogamous relationship
She is not the one for you. Get out before she forces the issue.
Theres a guy she wants to fuck…
There’s nothing wrong with what each of you wants, but it does mean the two of you are incompatible. The amount of pressure she’s been putting on you is an indication of how important this is to her, which is to say, important enough to leave her, for irreconcilable differences.
Let her go. Now that you’ve said no, she will do it behind your back. Your reason for not liking her desires is logical. Her reaction is not. Leave.
Your GF is not taking you or the relationship as seriously as you are, she has shown you that.
She’s only 19 so there’s a good chance she’s going to cheat on you and fulfill her fantasy.
No is a complete sentence.
Hey so she’s manipulating you into feeling bad about having a completely reasonable boundary. If you asked her to have a threesome with another girl instead I bet she wouldn’t feel as inclined. She’s upset you won’t let her get with other guys but don’t let her sway you. If threesomes aren’t your thing she needs to respect that. But as a warning, people who manipulate and try to convince you to dos tuff like this and then try to guilt trip you about it tend to have either already cheated or are prone to cheating in the future. Not saying that’s what’s happening, but something to think about for sure. Wishing you the best
If it’s not what you are looking for in a relationship, it might be a sign for you. I’m not going to tell you what to do. That’s up to you. All the best.
You are not over reacting. I would question whether you want to stay with this girl though. Often when women suggest a threesome, it’s because they already have a dude in mind, and it’s just an excuse to get with them.
You aren’t and introducing a 3 way is often a way to fuck someone else without cheating. Often leads to cheating at some point.
Maybe warm up with her and another female. See how that goes.
Break up before she breaks your heart. She’ll go ahead and do it anyway
Ask her if she’d be uncomfortable with having a threesome with another woman. If yes, then maybe she’ll understand why the thought of her being with another man makes you uncomfortable. If no, then maybe it’s just not meant to be
You’re definitely not overreacting. You are still young and you deserve a compatible partner that will respect you and your boundaries. It’s okay to feel uncomfortable in this situation, personally, I could never accept an offer like that because it would be a dealbreaker to me and a definitive end of the relationship.
update me!
Not this again. If you agree I bet 1000 to 1 odds she names a person in a few minutes. She might even be able to organize it for tonight.
This is a red flag. She’s asking for permission to cheat but with you actually present to watch.
Run…run so fast. Run as if your life depends on it. This is “leave without even a text” and disappear worthy OP.